I'm in deep now :/

[khaos14]

OK, first off. I don't date. If I really like a girl, then I'll ask her out. but I don't go out with a lot of people.

So I have pole vaulting practice after school every day and I was walking to get my stuff and I met my friend and his friend (girl) on the way. Anyway, they were staying for babysitting people's kids who came for a meeting. I thought it sounded fun so I joined them.While we were waiting for people to show up with kids, she starts writing notes to my friend. Eventually she passed one over to me. "I have a crush on you" written on a napkin. I kinda ignored it and said something like thanks. She keeps writing, and she asks me out, I said that I had just been broken up with by my gf and I wasn't ready for another relationship. I just don't like her like that. She keeps asking about maybe "we could try" later. In my head I was like "omg! what do I do?" So the rest of the night goes on like that and I eventually write back and say "fine" and she holds my hand the rest of the meeting. I leave, she texts me " I miss you" yeah, and she went to a play that I had said I was going to and holds my hand throughout, and kisses me on the cheek at the end when I left. So yeah, how can I tell her that I don't want to go out with her without hurting her feelings?

[byee]

Well, you alredy told her you don't like her like that, so now you have to back up those words with actions. Which in this case, means NOT sitting next to her at a play (or any :(other time), and really puttting some space between you and her.

She directly told you that she likes you, has a crsuh on you, and wants to go out with you, that's all pretty clear, she really likes you. So, given the opportunity, she'll look to be with you and hold your hand, etc, no surprise there. You need to not give her those opportunities, and maybe reinforce your already stated wish to be left alone for the time being, and if things change for you, you'll let her know.

[Furby]

Really i would crush the crush just ignore her and put space bettween ya.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Still, listen you will know whats right in the end. If your not ready your not ready, and if you dont like her then it isnt going to work. You just need to try, I've always thought that if you accept you kind of owe it to the person your going out with to give it a try.

[khaos14]

:/ Thanks Dizco p1nk I like your advice. and just an update, on aim, her buddy info includes me as her "very sweet boyfriend"

[TurboDieselBandit]

I agree, you are kinda obligated to stay with her longer. Later once things cool off you can say "I don't think this is working out" or something like that.

[khaos14]

Yeah, like tomorrow. idk Soon. I like the wording Dana. That's exactly what I was thinking of saying. weird. (:

[Junky]

Don't lead her on. End it while its still in the crush phase of your relationship and not the in love phase.

[Furby]

Don't lead her on. End it while its still in the crush phase of your relationship and not the in love phase.

what i was saying

[Skeln]

Yeah, just tell her how you feel. She obviously likes you alot, and really I don't think theirs too many ways you can tell her "No" without hurting her feelings. Just be honest with her and try to put space between you two. (As everyone else is saying).

[khaos14]

Next time I see her.

[Furby]

Hope you got help on here give us good rep thx if you do =)

[khaos14]

Yeah, I like to spread a lot of rep
(:

[Antares]

Wow, okay, this is a sticky situation.
I think that it would be best if you just...continue for a few days, and then text her and say "I don't feel comfortable in this relationship" then go back and forth and evetually break up.
The reason I say wait a few days is because, that way you wont look like a douche that geets together and breaks up with people like...fast. A week is a good amount of time to...keep the rumours and bad gossip down.
Next time, just say no! :P
Good luck dude :D

[khaos14]

k
Thanks Jupiter. I'll do that

[beachlover]

hey well here is what i would do. just nicely tell her that you don't think it is working out. it was fun while it lasted, and that you are sorry.
and if you want to be friends with her you can be friends with her but if not thats kool to.