I came out to my friend this week!

[FearForMySanity]

Hey guys! So yeah, I've known I like boys for as long as I can remember and I've been aware of my sexuality for several years, probably since I was ten or eleven, but I just came out to my friend at camp this week. I convinced him that homosexuality isn't wrong this summer and being in the closet has really been eating at me lately, and I trust him, so I just decided to go for it. He's a pretty devout catholic and I eased into coming out to him by first explaining that I'm agnostic, so I think maybe that double-whammy might have been a bit much and he seemed a little wary or something, but he's been as accepting as I could have hoped for. It was hilarious, cuz I was canoeing with him the next day and he has (maybe had, heeheehee) a tendency to use the word gay to mean stupid, etc, and he kept stopping and correcting himself and I laughed every time! He'd say "What?" and I'd just give him a knowing smile and say "nothing." But it's so great to have somebody I can actually talk to! I wonder if now he'll maybe realize all of the homophobic talk that goes around in our scout troop...:( He had and has some pretty serious misconceptions about gays and homosexuality. It was way hard trying to explain to him that I didn't choose to be this way and I couldn't choose to be any other way and I don't think he really understands yet, but I think in time he might come to. But that's later! For now I can just be relieved that I've told someone and he accepts me.

[Mzor203]

That's awesome. :) Coming out is a big step, especially to someone who could potentially take it the wrong way. It's good to have someone who you can talk to. It can help get it off your chest.

It takes some guts, so good for you! :D

[thiscityisdead]

wow i have to give you props im sure it takes alot of balls to come out to someone, thats great news that you found someone that you can trust and talk to. thats always a good thing. =]]

[rette_mich]

All that I can say to that is congratulations, seriously.
That takes a lot of guts to do, especially someone religious like he is.
I am glad that he accepts you the way you are.
Good for you!

[FearForMySanity]

Thanks everyone! :D It took a lot of guts but it was worth it!

[confusedboy]

That's cool. I've only come out to girls cuz they seem to accept it better (then again I dont have many guy friends lol)

[JepJep92]

Hey guys! So yeah, I've known I like boys for as long as I can remember and I've been aware of my sexuality for several years, probably since I was ten or eleven, but I just came out to my friend at camp this week. I convinced him that homosexuality isn't wrong this summer and being in the closet has really been eating at me lately, and I trust him, so I just decided to go for it. He's a pretty devout catholic and I eased into coming out to him by first explaining that I'm agnostic, so I think maybe that double-whammy might have been a bit much and he seemed a little wary or something, but he's been as accepting as I could have hoped for. It was hilarious, cuz I was canoeing with him the next day and he has (maybe had, heeheehee) a tendency to use the word gay to mean stupid, etc, and he kept stopping and correcting himself and I laughed every time! He'd say "What?" and I'd just give him a knowing smile and say "nothing." But it's so great to have somebody I can actually talk to! I wonder if now he'll maybe realize all of the homophobic talk that goes around in our scout troop...:( He had and has some pretty serious misconceptions about gays and homosexuality. It was way hard trying to explain to him that I didn't choose to be this way and I couldn't choose to be any other way and I don't think he really understands yet, but I think in time he might come to. But that's later! For now I can just be relieved that I've told someone and he accepts me.

well... idk about american catholics but catholics over in australia and everywhere else are pretty open to gay people... considering i am a catholic and i go to a catholic school as well and being homophobic is considered un- cool and pretty much stupid here. catholics in america seem really conservative and judgemental than the rest of the world... just seems weird eh?

now... all i need is the courage to do so too... well after a leave school though lol :D

oh and congrats... u are extremely courageous!

[BeautifulTragedy]

*claps and jumps up and down* YAY you!

[ackmedsgirl666]

congrats on coming out
you should be very proud
i came out about 2 mths ago to my bestfriend
it was hard but i managed
my parents were the big problem they weren't very accepting of it
but i guess i'm happy for now
so good for you for trusting ur friend anmd telling him the truth :)

[marktheman]

If only everybody was as accepting as your friend, what a wonderful world it would be.
Congratulations, man. I wish you the very best.

[FearForMySanity]

Thanks again everyone! :)
Yeah, some of catholics here seem rather nasty... They have a reputation of being judgemental and having that 'holier-than-thou' attitude. And being homophobic here is the norm, really.
Sorry that you're parents weren't very accepting of you, synchrosk8r. My mom is really accepting, so she probably won't be nasty, but I'm really scared to tell my dad. One night when my mom's aunt, uncle and their grandson were at our house, my dad was talking about my older brother's new girlfriend, and he said basically approved of her and that 'I'm just glad it's a girl.' I couldn't believe he said that! But my mom asked him why that mattered, don't remember his reply. Yeah, people are really homophobic here.
And yeah, it would be nice if everyone was accepting...

[JepJep92]

Thanks again everyone! :)
Yeah, some of catholics here seem rather nasty... They have a reputation of being judgemental and having that 'holier-than-thou' attitude. And being homophobic here is the norm, really.
Sorry that you're parents weren't very accepting of you, synchrosk8r. My mom is really accepting, so she probably won't be nasty, but I'm really scared to tell my dad. One night when my mom's aunt, uncle and their grandson were at our house, my dad was talking about my older brother's new girlfriend, and he said basically approved of her and that 'I'm just glad it's a girl.' I couldn't believe he said that! But my mom asked him why that mattered, don't remember his reply. Yeah, people are really homophobic here.
And yeah, it would be nice if everyone was accepting...


yeah only if everyone will be accepting, but you never knoew... that world maybe never that too far away... but until then when i go to church tomorrow, u can guess what i will be praying for hehe :D... amongst other things lol

but hey... if those 'catholics' ever say anything that seems a bit... insulting or anything judgemental... just say to them jesus said himself, "let he who has no sin, cast the first stone" (when an adulterer was sentenced to death, which is also a good saying if you're against the death penalty), and if they still don't get it just say that they have no right to judge you as being sinful because really, they are just as sinful for not accepting you, "love your neighbour as you would yourself, and love your God above all else" (sorry for the many bible quotes:))

[keidriantiger]

Thanks again everyone! :)
Yeah, some of catholics here seem rather nasty... They have a reputation of being judgemental and having that 'holier-than-thou' attitude. And being homophobic here is the norm, really.
Sorry that you're parents weren't very accepting of you, synchrosk8r. My mom is really accepting, so she probably won't be nasty, but I'm really scared to tell my dad. One night when my mom's aunt, uncle and their grandson were at our house, my dad was talking about my older brother's new girlfriend, and he said basically approved of her and that 'I'm just glad it's a girl.' I couldn't believe he said that! But my mom asked him why that mattered, don't remember his reply. Yeah, people are really homophobic here.
And yeah, it would be nice if everyone was accepting...

Maybe he really wants a grandson/daughter X3

[smokt0ut.]

I came out to my friend this week!



wow thats so cool.i wish one day may be i can do that...!!:):D

[YourFriend]

Damn it, i am gay and i wish i could come out so any1...but the problem is that if i'd say to any1 they'd probebly tell the entire school and i would end up as an object to make fun of and i wouldn't have any friends left...nice for you

[owenza]

I have got the same problem as YourFriend. I'd love to come out, but I'd just get ridiculed and probably bullied.:(

[House]

Damn it, i am gay and i wish i could come out so any1...but the problem is that if i'd say to any1 they'd probebly tell the entire school and i would end up as an object to make fun of and i wouldn't have any friends left...nice for you
same here :)

[Oren]

Damn it, i am gay and i wish i could come out so any1...but the problem is that if i'd say to any1 they'd probebly tell the entire school and i would end up as an object to make fun of and i wouldn't have any friends left...nice for you

That happened to me. It's hard. Try finding someone you trust to talk to about it though.

[The Dodge]

Good for you. Coming out is a hard and important step.

[Stark]

Good for you.

[All Round]

Congrats :) I'm glad everything went well for you, you're lucky to have a friend who didn't judge you. I came out to a friend recently as a new years resolution, it's so nerve wracking but it feels good to get it off your chest!