Abused by my Teacher

[megan]

I am having a crisis and am freaked out. I'm 17 years old in go to a small fundamental Christian high school in the south. My homeroom teacher, who is also my English teacher, has been coming on to me subtly for the past month. He’s young like 27 years old. I catch him staring at me out of the corner of my eye a lot, and he comes up to me sometimes and will put his hands on my shoulders which makes me feel uncomfortable.

He recently put his hand right above my knee while sitting next to me explaining something. I told him to please not do that, and he got defensive. Ever since then, he has acted cold toward me.

Yesterday, I was about 10 minutes late to homeroom because I got held up behind a traffic accident while driving to school. When I came in, he pulled me out in the hallway, put his hand on my shoulder, and told me that he was going to “be pleased to have my company in detention, and I can count on four hard licks of the paddle.”

The whole time he had a smirk on his face. I am freaking out! If I skipped detention with him this afternoon, I will have to go on Saturday morning – and technically that could get me up to six swats. I'm torn up about this and don't want to take the paddle from him.

I feel sick to my stomach over this.

[Requin]

Okay, first take a deep deep breath.

Ah, now that you feel better, I'm so sorry that your in this situation. I could say that you may be looking to much into this, but honestly it would be a very bad thing to do that with something like this.

I think that the best thing you can do is to either tell your parents, or the headteacher at your school. Either is fine, but I think it may be best to tell your parents first, and if they have any sense they will listen to you and believe you, and give you reasurance that everything will be alright. And it will.
As long as you tell somebody, as I said, headteacher or parents.

Your parents may then contact the headteacher and inform them of this. I say go to your parents first as they love you and they will want to know if your something like this is happening to you.

I hope this has helped. And I hope that he will be found out and dealt with.

[byee]

Yes, Joe is correct with this one. You should tell your parents ASAP, give them all the details. Your teacher is clearly stepping over the line here. Regardless of how he might see (or intend) his behavior, it is clearly menacing to you. That is not only inappropriate but illegal, too.

Tell your folks immediately.

[TigerLily]

If you're feeling uncomfortable in any way whatsoever, go tell somebody about it so something can be sorted out. If this teacher's behaviour is intended as you worry it might be, that's illegal - as a teacher, you can easily lose your job for this. If anybody, whoever it may be, is making you uncomfortable, remember it is your right to do something about it because nobody should ever put you in a situation that makes you feel that way. My advice would be to go tell school administration or your parents, or preferably both because in reality schools often take pupils more seriously when parents are involved.

[Beautiful Obsession]

well tbh u need to tell someone. he hasnt actually physically abused you but has made you feel uncomfertable. maybe he didnt mean 2 make u feel like this. but he shouldnt be treating you like this. Myabe talk to him about it?
if it dont work talk 2 an adult?
x

[ECGBUnni]

you have a right as a student to feel safe and secure when you attend classes.

Obviously this man does not make you feel safe or secure, and has an opposite effect on you. He has an obligation as a teacher to educate and nurture you, he is failing his duty, and hurting you instead. All of this is unacceptable.

Like everyone' has said. Talk to people. People you trust. If that's your mother/father/guardian, talk to them. If it's a counsellor at school, talk to them, if it's another teacher at school, talk to them. Just talk to someone with authority that you trust. They can help you figure out the best way to approach the school administration, and the teacher. It's possible this is all a misunderstanding (which i doubt, but people are weird), but it is still important that your teacher learn his behavior is unacceptable and needs to be altered in the future. You say he is young, so he may simply be trying to "fit in," but his touching, that over-steps boundaries. Especially in a school where teacher-student interaction is much more limited. (here, not so weird. when you live with your students, boundaries break much easier, but...that's not relavent).

so please, for your own safety. Talk to someone you trust.

[Beautiful Obsession]

^^ shes rite
x

[aid821]

This teacher has clearly overstepped the line! His role is a professional one and he is taking advantage of his position by doing this. you need to let your parent know straight away as this is a real serious matter, i understand you may feel unsure and really embarrassed about this but it must stop. If nothing's done he'll know that he can get away with it and it may happen to other girls. hopefully i'm not breaking the vt rules here and without giving too much away, i'm the same age and work with children and if i was to do this, i'd be sacked and have criminal charges laid against me! good luck with it all and shout back if you need more advice.

[BeautifulTragedy]

Damn. Well if its a teacher you should first change classes(if possible.) and once you do that, once your far enough away from this teacer you have to tell someone.

[Dave.]

Maybe he was trying to be friendly..

[lamboman43]

No he wasn't! If he is that friendly then he needs to get fired.

[Triceratops]

Please, tell someone about this immediately. It sounds liek something that could get out of hand if not dealt soon enough with.

Tell a parent or another teacher about this so they can sort it out. This teachers sounds like a complete creep to me.

[Sapphire]

*cough*BS*cough*

The OP hasn't logged on since creating this post...Suspicious much?

[Hyper]

*cough*BS*cough*

The OP hasn't logged on since creating this post...Suspicious much?

Well we aren't here to judge if something is suspicious or not.

OFC if something is down right mocking & retarded it'll be locked.. But this is still possible.

Either way this thread was a month down the list when it got reposted and the OP indeed has only made this one post, so I'm locking. If the OP ever logs in again and wants this to be opened She can PM me.