:( ?

[Toilet Water.]

I'm 14 years old turned fourteen on St. Patti's Day. I had a couple friends over and they brought me some Vodka. I got a bit drunk, and my friend decided to go to her 17 year old friends house. I didn't know what I was doing and randomly started doing stuff with this guy I just met. Is that a bad thing?

[nick]

Well thats a bit vague.

Getting drunk on vodka at 14 is not a good idea and horsing around when drunk on vodka is an even worse idea. You could end up pregnant and/or with an STD. So I guess it depends on what you mean by "randomly started doing stuff". If you gave each other, or just him, a bit of a wank there's no harm done. If you gave or got a blow job probably no harm done. But if you went beyond that, or just were too drunk to know wtf you did, who knows.

Take care.

[Toilet Water.]

Oh.
Okay.
From what I remember I gave him a hand job, blow job, kissed him, he kind of fingered me, and grabbed my boobie. That's all I remember. I think I'm still a virgin though! (:

[AllThatIsLeft]

You should take more care of yourself, just because nothing happened this time, it doesn't mean it's okay.. You could of ended up pregnant from someone you barely knew. I am not against drinking, but do it responsibly. and if u ever do anything sexual with anyone.. do it while you are sober and fully aware of your actions.

[Toilet Water.]

Thank you. I just won't drink with guys..

[byee]

Alcohol impairs judgement, as you discovered. It get's in the way of thought, it sometimes prevents us from making good choices. It can lead to some very unfortunate outcomes. Be careful!

[Toilet Water.]

Yeah.
And my friend came downstairs and caught me giving him a bj. She was like JANICE, DON'T DO THAT. And I was like, What's wrong with it?
Yeah.
My birthday was interesting.

[Oblivion]

Welll... Depending on where you live, even if it's not morally wrong [which depends on opinion], its quite illegal.
16-18 is the sexual consent age in different states in the US. Which makes having sex at all under 16 illegal in all of America.
Drinking under the age of 21 is illegal as well (although in some states I believe younger are aloud smaller amounts on their own property).
Finally, if the man was not drunk, and you were, it's also illegal, as you were incapacitated while he was not.

Legalities aside, is that really how you want your life? Getting drunk at 14 and having sex with a 17 year old stranger?
Really think about it. Is this what you want your future to look like? How about this- is it safe? No; he could harm you, you could get STDs, he could get you pregnant.... All permanent-lengthy 'side effects', just for say 30 minutes of pleasure?

[Toilet Water.]

Everyone was drunk in the house.
It isn't going to be my life, being a 14 year old alcoholic.
From what I know, I didn't have sex.
oh, and, btw, I'm not a slut. (:

[XxTheBlackDeathxX]

I Don't Think They were Judgeing You...We Have All Done Some Pretty St*pid Shit At Some Point.....But Yea Be More Careful On What You Are Doing. When I Drink I Try Not To Get 2 F*cked Up, Specially If Im At A Party! But Remember Protection, Protection, Protection!

[Truth]

Everyone was drunk in the house.
It isn't going to be my life, being a 14 year old alcoholic.
From what I know, I didn't have sex.
oh, and, btw, I'm not a slut. (: Getting drunk, and having sexual intercourse with a complete stranger is considered to be slut-ish, in my honest opinion. It doesnt matter if they were drunk, you coulda been the one girl who didnt drink. I myself wouldnt drink in any circumstances under the age of 18, or 21 in countries you need to be 21 in to drink legally, because it's against my morals. If everyone you know got drunk and was 14-15.. You, need new freinds, and fast.

By the way, don't take anything i said offensively, it's my own opinion, and not meant to be offensive. Just being honest. x=

This reminds me of my freind jennifer, she is messed up bad now.. Just, be careful of drinking. You could get in alot of trouble, for.. No pleasure?

[XxTheBlackDeathxX]

LoL. Truth, I Bet You Have No Fun. Let Toilet Have Fun! As Long As She Don't Nothing Stupid Like That Again.

[Truth]

Nah, i have fun just going out and hanging with freinds, i don't even want to date, have sex, etc. You dont need to do anything else, i'm happy the way it is. (Sorry for going off topic.)

[Oblivion]

Ok... Both of you back on topic please.

[Toilet Water.]

Getting drunk, and having sexual intercourse with a complete stranger is considered to be slut-ish, in my honest opinion.?

One time I mess up, does that make me a slut(ish) for life?

[XxTheBlackDeathxX]

Srry For Off-Topic As Well...

One time I mess up, does that make me a slut(ish) for life?


No....That Just Means You Made Some Bad Choices....

Please don't double post. Just use the edit button.
~Shattered

[Clawhammer]

A) You're not a virgin anymore. You had oral sex, which is still a type of sex. A virgin is someone who has never had sex.

B) You're 14. Getting drunk at that age is obviously a bad choice. If you liver in the US, assuming that you do, that's illegal. And it can lead to drinking problems later in life.

[Toilet Water.]

A) You're not a virgin anymore. You had oral sex, which is still a type of sex. A virgin is someone who has never had sex.

B) You're 14. Getting drunk at that age is obviously a bad choice. If you liver in the US, assuming that you do, that's illegal. And it can lead to drinking problems later in life.

I though being a virgin was not having the penis enter the vagina?
I live in Canada, but it's still illegal. How can it lead to drinking problems?

No....That Just Means You Made Some Bad Choices....

Thank you. (:
You are now my best friend. :p

Please don't double post. Just use the edit button.
~Shattered

[XxTheBlackDeathxX]

I though being a virgin was not having the penis enter the vagina?
Well You Have Lost Your Virginty, A Person Who Is A Virgin Has Never Had Sexual Intercourse, Blow Jobs Is Conider Sexual Intercourse. So Yea....^_^

I live in Canada, but it's still illegal. How can it lead to drinking problems?

I Don't Belive It Can, Unless You Do It In Regualr Basis.

Thank you. (:
You are now my best friend. :p

Yaaaa! :D

Please don't double post. Just use the edit button.
~Shattered

[Antares]

Oh.
Okay.
From what I remember I gave him a hand job, blow job, kissed him, he kind of fingered me, and grabbed my boobie. That's all I remember. I think I'm still a virgin though! (:

I personally don't think you are a virgin anymore (the oral sex thing). Without that, I would agree with you.

Anywho, umm you REALLY need to get a friend, that will stick with you when you are intoxicated. Women get kidnapped or worse all of the time because they aren't thinking straight because of the alcohol. If you can barely remember that night then thats a sign that you could have put yourself in more of a dangerous situation.

I would avoid drinking until you're 21. Seriously. And umm rembering to USE PROTECTION because he possibly wasn't a virgin, and wouldn't that have sucked if you got pregnant from a person you didn't know or got an STD that you would have to live with for the rest of your life because you made 1 or 2 stupid mistakes in 1 night.

[DarkWingedAngel]

I don't think it's exactly "bad" but it is not really tolerated for(especially underage).
so I mean
yes it happened
but you can't change the past you can only change the future.
so i would say as long as you don't let it happen agen(especially vodka)
oh and some advise for you
I wouldn't advise you to get drunk on vodka agen it can get pretty nasty.
and USE PROTECTION yes even if your giving a blow job, because well you can still get an std when you give oral.
bottom line
USE PROTECTION

[Toilet Water.]

and wouldn't that have sucked if you got pregnant.

Dude, how can I get pregnant from blow job?
Can that happen? Woah, dude, do they teach us this in health?

[Antares]

Dude, how can I get pregnant from blow job?
Can that happen? Woah, dude, do they teach us this in health?

...:what:

Since you were drunk, he could have easily stuck his penis in your vagina. I don't think you would have even done anything about it considering the state you were in.

[XxTheBlackDeathxX]

Dude, how can I get pregnant from blow job?
Can that happen? Woah, dude, do they teach us this in health?

LoL. That Can't Happen.

[Truth]

One time I mess up, does that make me a slut(ish) for life? Where did i call you a slut? It's obvious you aren't since you were drunk while this happened, i'm saying many people think of it as a sluttish activity. Just, seriously don't get drunk again, whether it's with guys or not, please? I dont want you to regret it, and your freinds could easily invite guys over or you could go somewhere with guys, go out and be harrassed, and in a drunk state.. Well, you'd doubtfully try to stop them.

As quoted : "I got a bit drunk, and my friend decided to go to her 17 year old friends house." You were drunk before your freinds went to his house. Did you get drunk with a guy? : No. Did you get drunk then go to a guys house? : Yes, unless you didnt explain it.

[Toilet Water.]

Where did i call you a slut?

Getting drunk, and having sexual intercourse with a complete stranger is considered to be slut-ish?

There. :]

...:what:

Since you were drunk, he could have easily stuck his penis in your vagina. I don't think you would have even done anything about it considering the state you were in.

I came in with clothes on, I left with clothes on. I wasn't too drunk. I didn't let him take anything off me, and I slightly remember him trying.
Unless he can wiggle his penis into my tight skinny jeans then go down into my vagina, I doubt we had sex - kay? :]

[XxTheBlackDeathxX]

Maybe Is He A Majician ;D! Well Aleast You Woke Uo With Your Clothes on, But He Could Of Put Them Back On Afterwards.

[Toilet Water.]

My friend was right there when I was sleeping, I doubt he'd do that.

[Truth]

There. :]



I came in with clothes on, I left with clothes on. I wasn't too drunk. I didn't let him take anything off me, and I slightly remember him trying.
Unless he can wiggle his penis into my tight skinny jeans then go down into my vagina, I doubt we had sex - kay? :] Your obviously very self defensive O.o I said it was considered sluttish, did i say your a slut? No. And you didnt even bother to read the rest of my comment, or did you just have nothing to say to it?

One more thing, dont assume every time you'll be a bit drunk, and that the guy wont make you do something, cause it happens, thousands of times every day. A guy cant control himself when he's drunk either, ya' know.

[Toilet Water.]

Your obviously very self defensive O.o I said it was considered sluttish, did i say your a slut? No. And you didnt even bother to read the rest of my comment, or did you just have nothing to say to it?

One more thing, dont assume every time you'll be a bit drunk, and that the guy wont make you do something, cause it happens, thousands of times every day. A guy cant control himself when he's drunk either, ya' know.


I'm stubborn .. :P Sorry.

I know, and I didn't really bother reading the rest of it.

One mistake, I learn quickly. I know not to go out drinking with that friend, or just stay at my house.

Kay?

What's done is done, this topic bores me.

[Truth]

I'm stubborn .. :P Sorry.

I know, and I didn't really bother reading the rest of it.

One mistake, I learn quickly. I know not to go out drinking with that friend, or just stay at my house.

Kay?

What's done is done, this topic bores me. You know, you dont have to be so mean about it~ I've just wanted to help you, cause i don't want to see anyone else end up like my old freind. ._.

[Oblivion]

Stay on topic everyone.
Keep personal squabbles out of the thread please.

[Neverender]

Well You Have Lost Your Virginty, A Person Who Is A Virgin Has Never Had Sexual Intercourse, Blow Jobs Is Conider Sexual Intercourse. So Yea....^_^

that depends on opinion. there are no laws that define this. if you think she lost her virginity, thats fine, i think that intercourse is what removes virginity. So Yea...^_^

[Toilet Water.]

You know, you dont have to be so mean about it~ I've just wanted to help you, cause i don't want to see anyone else end up like my old freind. ._.

lol, sorry.
I wasn't trying to be mean.
And thank you for the help! <3 (:

[jammyd]

Drinkin at 14 isnt the best idea at 14, especially when you still cal ur breasts "boobies", but as for the rest, u are now no longer a virge as you have had oral sex. The handjob, kissing and fingering, is all ok, aslong as u consented.

[Toilet Water.]

Drinkin at 14 isnt the best idea at 14, especially when you still cal ur breasts "boobies", but as for the rest, u are now no longer a virge as you have had oral sex. The handjob, kissing and fingering, is all ok, aslong as u consented.


Ahha, first off, I like to call my "breasts" BOOBIES. :]

Second, all my friends say that I have not lost my virginity because it's just ORAL SEX and the penis isn't acutally ENTERING the VAGINA. So, I'll just go with that? Doesn't matter if I did lose my virginity now, not to me at least. But different people would say otherwise. I don't care because I don't care for him at all, I'll care when I have sex with someone I actually know and like; if that makes any sense (it makes more sense in my head). All I did was sucked on a penis, just like eating a banana or a saucage or something.

But whatever, I don't need help with this anymore; what's done is done, and I feel fine about what I did.

[sienna.]

trust me honey.
i have been there and done that.
but i got drunk did drugs, and had sex with a guy.
soon after i got my self tested for an STI or pregnancy, (didn't use a condom)

just have to be careful is all.
i'm not gonna say don't drink and that.
because it's pointless.
just be careful is all.
and your friends should look out for you aswell.
:)

[nick]

First of all, getting drunk and a bit carried away on one occasion happens to lots of people, I for one would not say it makes you a slut.

Secondly, and this comes up all the time. Those people that say you've lost your virginity from a bj are JUST PLAIN WRONG. Sorry, thats all there is to it. The traditional sign of virginity (for a girl) is an unbroken hymen. You could have as many bjs as you like and it wouldnt break your hymen because you need penetration of the vagina for that. I know, of course, that the hymen can get broken through sport or other ways, but that doesn't change the principle of it.