Confidence

[Jordan...14]

Since like always ive never had the confidence to talk to a girl about how I feel or ... her feelins if you get me. So im wondering how can I talk about it without causing awkwardness

[Mzor203]

I'm not understanding this. What do you mean by 'talk to a girl about how I feel or ... her feelins if you get me'.

Are you saying that you want to ask a girl out? Or that you want to talk to a girl about their feelings? I can't understand.

Either way, the awkwardness is only going to be there if you feel awkward. There's no way you can really broach an awkward subject without it being awkward if the other person isn't comfortable with it.

[Jordan...14]

Yeah that is what i mean, sorry for not making it clear

[IAMWILL]

OOohohohoho i love this type of stuff!

Okay, so your hanging out with a girl, you talking, having a good time, and you wanna ask how she feel's about you.......ya...... This is how you do it:

Just be talking, and after talking about like how your day was and stuff, just be like, "So anyway, i hope you don't mind me asking, but do you like anyone right now?"
She'll probly be like, "No, not really, howbout you?"
You can then say,"Well i kinda like someone, not really though.." (girls don't usually share that stuff with guys)
She'll ask you to tell her most likely.
Just say "Okay, I might tell you..... only if you tell me one thing"
She'll probably say okay.
Then just ask.
Say something like, "Okay. hmmm... be honest about this... have you ever liked me?"
That shouldnt be awkward, and she should answer.

If this conversation doesnt happen, well... wait till it happens or take other suggestions lol. BUt i know women and relationships pretty well, so i think this will work.

And as always, stay calm, make sure shes in a good mood, and be relaxed.

[Mzor203]

Well, there are a couple things to think about here. If this girl you want to ask out doesn't like you back, it's going to be awkward. There's no way around it. In asking someone out, you are putting yourself out there for that risk, and unfortunately there isn't a whole ton you can do to reduce that awkwardness that could potentially be there.

A smart idea would be to try to get an idea of how much she likes you before making your move... that way you have something to go on, and it's less likely that the outcome is going to be bad. Spending more time with her, doing things with her in a group of friends, etc., are a few good ways of doing this. Just generally getting to know her and including yourself in her life are ways which you can maximize your chance with her.

Unfortunately, nothing is ever set in stone. There's always that chance that she will turn you down, in which case awkwardness will ensue. If that does happen, the best way to reduce that is just pretend nothing happened, and give her some time to make things less awkward.

Good luck. :) With this you are taking a risk, but as with most things in life, no risk, no reward.

[Jordan...14]

Thanks for the help and yeah and @ Sbrocksdaworld - I've seen myself trying to work out a conversation like that in my head to see how it tunrs out but I can never tend to bring it up cos i get nervous.

[AllThatIsLeft]

OOohohohoho i love this type of stuff!

Okay, so your hanging out with a girl, you talking, having a good time, and you wanna ask how she feel's about you.......ya...... This is how you do it:

Just be talking, and after talking about like how your day was and stuff, just be like, "So anyway, i hope you don't mind me asking, but do you like anyone right now?"
She'll probly be like, "No, not really, howbout you?"
You can then say,"Well i kinda like someone, not really though.." (girls don't usually share that stuff with guys)
She'll ask you to tell her most likely.
Just say "Okay, I might tell you..... only if you tell me one thing"
She'll probably say okay.
Then just ask.
Say something like, "Okay. hmmm... be honest about this... have you ever liked me?"
That shouldnt be awkward, and she should answer.

If this conversation doesnt happen, well... wait till it happens or take other suggestions lol. BUt i know women and relationships pretty well, so i think this will work.

And as always, stay calm, make sure shes in a good mood, and be relaxed.

i love your response, yes that conversation can be quite effective.


BUT, it could also go wrong in many places. It all depends on the relationship you have with this girl, if you are friends it shouldnt be a problem. but if it is someone you don't know very well, it can be a little awkward.

my advise about the awkwardness is be light-hearted about it. if you feel awkward asking, she'll feel awkward answering. So if you look, okay with any given answer, there is a higher chance of her answering honestly. =)

[Jordan...14]

We are friends, Im in my third year of high school and well I've been frineds with her since first year but since last August we've been getting to know each other even more and I feel comofrotable talking to her now cos we are friends, if you get me

[IAMWILL]

i love your response, yes that conversation can be quite effective.


BUT, it could also go wrong in many places. It all depends on the relationship you have with this girl, if you are friends it shouldnt be a problem. but if it is someone you don't know very well, it can be a little awkward.

my advise about the awkwardness is be light-hearted about it. if you feel awkward asking, she'll feel awkward answering. So if you look, okay with any given answer, there is a higher chance of her answering honestly. =)

Yes yes good point. I wasn't exactly sure how well he knew this girl so I kinda went with the general term. If you want Jordan i could give you another conversation that would work well here.

Lol i feel like some English tutor lol :P

EDIT: Seeing as you know her enough, shall we say, the example I posted should work! try initiating that after she does something shes proud of, shell be in a good mood, and feel powerful.

[AllThatIsLeft]

then that conversation scenario should be fine for you :).. do it in person though, its kinda of wierd over msn.. or something

[IAMWILL]

Yes for sure do it in person.

[Jordan...14]

I'd never do it over msn in any circumstances cos its so impersonal. and yeah if you wanna give me another example of a conversation i wouldnt mind