Sex.

[hiyaimzach]

So, my g/f was over earlier today, and we were playing around with each other, to a point where both of our pants and underwear were off :O...She got on top of me and i could tell she really wanted to have sex. Im a virgin, shes not. We were kissing really romantically and the time seemed right so we had sex. I lasted like 20 seconds :| should i be embarrased from this? I think she was done shortly after, cause she stopped (she was ontop at this point), unless she figured out that i was done so maybe she felt uncomfortable to keep going? idk what to think :\

[byee]

Well, first off, it doesn't sound like you had a condom on, so I'd check that she was at least on the Pill. If not, how long you lasted isn't your first priority here, Zach.

Secondly, how long someone lasts is really determined by a lot of things, like excitement/arousal, time since last orgasm, etc. This being your first time, it's not surprising you ejaculated almost immediately, it's new and pretty exciting. And, as you've noticed, ejaculation typically signals the end of sex, the thrusting part, anyway.

If you're feeling anxious about this, you might want to talk with her about it and let her know it was your first time. Interestingly, most girls take it upon themselves as the cause for *whatever* happens to the guy during sex, so she might be nervous about this, too. Either way, a frank convo will go far to dispell any lingering anxiety.

And next time, make sure you rubber up before.

[Confused4life]

Have you talked to her about it yet?

[Skeln]

I agree, you need to talk to her about it. usually a guy's first time is short because you're not used to the experience. But that's the ;least of your worries...if you didn't have a condem (sounds like you didn't) and if she wasn't on the pill then their's the possibility of pregnancy. Also, seeing as how she's had sex before, their's also a possibility of STD/STI. You need to talk to her about this.

[hiyaimzach]

oh no, i made sure she doesnt have any STD's. And shes on the pill, i found them while scrummaging through her purse looking for a pen for science one day...

[byee]

Oh, until you ask her for sure that she's on the Pill, it's unwise to assume anything. Go back and ask her!

[iceyfresh]

Make sure she's on the pill and eventually you will be able to last longer. No Worry's