Girls I need your help plzzzz

[Ladysman]

Hi I go to a very Christian school LOL anyway I have a fetish are girls ok with that or will they not want to date me and will they be turned off if I'm curious wat I mean by "curious" is not sure if I'm bi yet ty so much

[nick]

Hey hope you don't mind an answer from another guy, but I think both boys and girls are going to find your question confusing. Being curious, bi or gay is not a fetish, so if you say you've got a fetish people are going to think you mean something wierd like S&M or watersports or amputees, so you might want to clear that one up! If you want to date / experiment with a girl why should they know that you might be bi/curious, you don't need to tell them. If things move on and its getting serious maybe you need to come honest with them sooner or later, but not on a first date.

If you really believe you are bi then sooner or later you should share that with any girl that you have a relationship with. It they cant accept it they might not be the right girl for you. Then again if you're straight and in a relationship your partner has a right to expect you not to play around with other girls, so whats the difference if your bi, you should still not play around with anyone of either sex while you're in a relationship unless you've both agreed up front that its ok for the other person to play away from home.

[Ladysman]

I don't mind guys posting just thought it was gear more girls also I ment I have a fetish and curious

[Squisheee]

No , some bi guys actually turn me on x)

[BeautifulTragedy]

I personally would be turned off COMPLETLEY if my guy was bi or not sure of his sexuality.

[keidriantiger]

I don't mind guys posting just thought it was gear more girls also I meant I have a fetish and curious

Wait, what? Do you mean you have a Fetish and your curious? Whats the fetish?

[Ladysman]

Ya im curious and this is a weird fetish but its 1 thats pretty common anyways i have a pie fetish the texture is great 4 when they slat it on them watchin hotties getting pied ;)

[Ladysman]

Oops i ment splat not slat srry

[pontiacdriver]

Ya im curious and this is a weird fetish but its 1 thats pretty common anyways i have a pie fetish the texture is great 4 when they slat it on them watchin hotties getting pied ;)

Are you saying you have a fetish for watching women urinate? I think most folks out there have a fetish of some sort, and your fetish is hardly the most unusual or most extraordinary one out there. Especially at your age I would not be going around advertising your fetish, and keep it to yourself as most junior high school kids would not handle your feelings maturely. It is all right to have fetishes and sexual feelings as that is inherent within us all. What is problematic is when you expect others to act on your fetish especially when they don't have any interest or desire to do such acts. Also, what is a huge problem is when you cease to view women as people and simply as objects and become dependent upon porn. While looking at porn is not necessarily an evil in itself (unless you are looking at illegal stuff like child porn) the problem is that if you get a depedence upon porn and cannot orgasm without it, then you need to seriously reevalute your porn viewing habits.

You had mentioned that you go to a Christian school, and I am guessing that you must also come from a Christian household by default. Some hard core Christian groups really have a hold up about sexuality and really repress it. My guess is that your sexual feeling are new and that you are being blown away by them. Sexuality is a cool thing if it is done responsibly which is understanding it and making sure that you have positive sexuality. It is fine to masturbate and have sexual feelings; what is not all right is if you let sexual feelings control you and make you behave out of character. You must control your sexuality and not the other way around.

As for having same sex feelings, the reality is that most guys your age who are just starting out with the changes are really curious on how other guys look in relation to them. There is a chance you could genuinely be attracted to other guys, but then there is still an even greater chance you just are curious on how a developed guy looks like so that you know what will happen to you. Being bi-sexual is so much more than simply liking how the body of either sex looks like. What bi-sexuality means is that one is equally comfortable in having an emotional AND physical relationship with a member of either sex. A lot of guys your age see things on more developed guys and wish those attributes upon themselves such as strong legs, hair, etc. That does not necessary equate to a person being gay as folks of the same sex can admire each other while still be straight.

Again, in light of your probably coming from a strict Christian background talking about sexuality with someone older and more responsible might be a non-starter. However, if there is someone who is responsible, preferably a parent (but also can be an older sibling, uncle, cousin, etc.) to whom you can talk about sexuality, then you should do so. After all, you need to get a perspective on yoru sexual feelings.

[Dreaming Cannibal]

since im bi i really dont mind that. i care more about a guys personality. and yeah also his looks… im very plastic with that…
about the fetish part…its freaky but then again… as long as you are discrete about it dont really need to know or care for…

[Ladysman]

I ment i like to watch girls eat pie wear pie and get pied ya im weird but its wat turns me on wat can i say

[Ladysman]

O i c wat u ment ponticdriver u thought i ment pee i mean pie the pastry

[pontiacdriver]

I ment i like to watch girls eat pie wear pie and get pied ya im weird but its wat turns me on wat can i say

I admit this is an ususual, but not altogether bizarre fetish. Clearly, at some point of your sexual development you have associated food with sex. How that happened or whether that is a good or bad thing is really something I don't think any of us can answer with certainty. However, as long as your fetish doesn't make you do something hurtful to another (i.e. making a future girlfriend do stuff with food against her desires), then your fetish is relatively harmless. I think you have a wet and messy fetish which is definitely not an obscure fetish.

I think the most important thing you have to do know is to ensure that you are private when you view such porn; that such porn doesn't damage your machine, and that the porn is legal (not having underage minors). Also, I would keep this fetish to yourself until one day in the very distant future when you have a sexual partner.

[Ladysman]

Also i just read in ur earlyer post u thought i was hardcore christian im not lol only ppl at my school r ty for the advice and if any1 else has anything like a story or maybe somthing that may help plz comment

[Ladysman]

Thx for the help every1