That special someone...

[jack straw]

Ladies, have you lost all sense of self respect?
What are your standards for a guy?
-smart, careing and respectable
OR
-some hot young jock who already has 10 girls all over him, he's dumb as a rock and likes to get in trouble?

Many of the girls i know go for the second, and I think that it's sad.
What ever happened to going for the good guy?

An eagle scout, who's got big plans for the future, and does not drink/smoke or do drugs. (Yes, i'll admit that i'm a virgin, and waiting for the right one to lose it to.) Why do no girls want to talk to me? i just get laughed off...

And dudes, what are your standards?
Do you go for the tramp who gets around quite alot, or do you go for the good girl, who does not drink/smoke or do drugs, and has big plans for the future?


Answer honestly please,
and remember to stop and think about where you are going in life, because soon there may be no turning back.

[AllThatIsLeft]

I find this quite insulting, honestly.
I like a combination of the first and second, and just because a girl falls for the second does not make her less self-respective. When it comes to emotions you cant control them.

Honestly, i been with the nice future thinking kind, and i got to say, they are boring.
i been with the bad, no respect kind also, they may be sons of bitches, but at least they know how to have fun.

Like everything in life, it's about balance.

[jack straw]

yes, although we may be boreing, we can still have a good time.
I may have been a little harsh, not all ladies go for the wrong guys, but I know quite alot of 'em.

[Lady_Chaos]

This post is... inconsiderate...

When you have feelings for someone does it truly matter to you whether they are slutty, jockey, smart, stupid, funny, dry, handsome, ugly? I don't think it does. Honestly, at this age, I don't think it matters who we "fall in love with" or who we have major crushes on because, eventually, we will choose what is right, or we wont. It's really not... something that's just decided... it's more of something you feel inside... Like the uncontrollable urge to do something naughty, something that's against your better judgment. Like deciding to eat the candy bar instead of the apple before a game. You know the apple is the better choice but the candy bar offers a little more kick.

Some girls go for the Jocks because they might think they're easy, or maybe they are just interested in a good time, not a serious relationship. Same with guys, some might go for the sluts just because they are looking for something fun to do. It's perfectly normal.

You really shouldn't beat on people about this type of thing. It's rude.

If people are laughing at you for being an eagle scout, go find a girl scout or something. If people think you're boring then maybe your looking in the wrong places, try to find people that share your interests, like the same things you like. I'm sure, if you really try, you'll find someone that likes you for you, and doesn't write you off as another nerd (Which btw is someone that excels academically).

I have gone out with a jock and a loser and a... well.. he was kinda whorish... don't know exactly what category he fits into... and am currently going out with a choir boi. The jock didn't have the guts to do anything, the loser was... well.. he was a loser... the whorish dude... well... he was whorish... no doubt about that... and my choir boi... well.. you'd think he'd be a good kid... and he is... but then again he's not... He is the one guy I started going out with because I truly liked him, not just because I was looking for something fun to do.

I think that just about sums up how I feel about this post... sorry if it doesn't make sense...

[AllThatIsLeft]

Thank you for that. i agree 100 %

[OnceMoreWithFeeling]

i go for the first ones lol it is easler to hang w/

[Sapphire]

How can you lump everyone into one of those two categories? Not every girl is a filthy whore or a pure angel. In fact, very few are one or the other. The world is not black and white like that.

I am a mix of both - I drink and do things that I'm not supposed to but also work hard at uni, care for the people in my life and I'm not a tramp.
The guys I go for tend to be similar to what I have said about me here ^

[Antares]

General Puberty :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[Hyper]

I'd also like to point out, that its rude going bash happy on the OP..

But yeah.. The world isn't black & white.

But why & how girls choose; based on personal ticks, impulses/emotions

And some girls simply choose to go out with the guy who is most ''popular''

[devilishangel]

umm...i dont think all d respectable , smart and caring guys are boring...n for me its better to date such a person...though every1 is unique..and lyk said here...dey cnt b put in 2 distinct category...
bt i honestly do hate d other category u talked abt x( kz y wud some1 want to date such a person...hu myt hurt u anyways...n wen u kno dis guys gona hurt u...y invest ur emotions in him :P

[AllThatIsLeft]

i dont want to get into an arguement, but there are many reasons. Not all humans are the same, we dont all feel the same. So w.e ur seeing it's not what the person besides u see.

[devilishangel]

sorry @paula..if i said sumthng wch kinda dint go along well :| :(
n i ws kinda jst telling..dat it wont b kinda necessary dat a guy hu is u kno...more into being smart n all..wud b boring...kz i haf been a litle lucky to find intresting guys as well...i mean dey r nt broing..bt dey r smart...n dey respect...n u kno...dey r caring..
i think i jst cudnt express properly :(

[BuryYourFlame]

yeh...i see A LOT of guys at school, bullying other kids, annoying the teachers, getting in trouble, but then i hear girls tell me that they like them, and by no means are they girls that dont really care about their future...my explanation...these guys, while show the rest of the grade this attitude, they do have another side of themselves that i dont see, and that is the part that these girls fall in love with. so i agree with paula etc. there is more to people than the black and white of what we see.

also...people who do not fit into the stereotypical 'jock' category CAN have fun, a lot of fun. i guess that is just difference in opinion...

[triplethreat40]

I agree, the world is not black and white, however i see this happening a lot and it is still a mystery to me. I guess it's a status symbol or something. But i'm a "girl geek", obsessed with lord of the rings and to a lesser degree star wars, can p0wn collage guys at super smash brothers, etc. However, i have tons of guys asking me out. Albiet, like half are complete losers (that sounds really harsh, but it's true), but th rest are really cool guys. I could also be considered a pretty "good girl", i don't smoke, don't wear those "shorts" that don't even have an inseem, etc. So let's just say that it's not you being a nerd or geek or good or whatver that is preventing you from dating success.