Bein Sexually Abused.X

[Beautiful Obsession]

It started when i was like 3+ my nans partner use to sexualy abuse me. of course i was 2 young to know it was wrong. when i was old enuf 2 know better it was the same. i said no but he just kept pushing me nd pushing me. i didnt tell anyone bcuz i thought it was my fault. 2007 my nan and him got married.. i was the bridesmaid unfortuantly. since then i have been 2 my nans as little as possible. but recently i went there. hopeing he wasnt there, i hadnt seen my nan in months, i missed her. unlcky for me he was there, my nan took the dog for a walk and he kept lookin at me and just came ova and sat by me.. he started pulling at my trousers trying to get his hands "down there" i tried to get him off me butit was no use.. next thing i no he was on top of me.. i was trying to push him off me but he kept saying im almost done! my nan came back and he quicky sat down. i didnt no wot to do so i just sat there. i still havnt told anyone because im afraid they will blame me. im 14 and its been going on 11 years. so if i think they will blame me.. if i told anyone my nan will be alone, and i dont want that. she h8s bein alone.

i need some advice because its really getting to me now. i love my nan and i dont want to hurt her .X

[wavey]

Hi Hollie, this must be a hard topic for you to talk about i can imagine, there are helplines out there and alot of support, you'r ebest off talking to somebody you can trust such as a doctor or a school nurse or sombody at school. this is UNACCEPTABLE. Inevitebly, you're 14 and hes still doing it. he now must know you can tlak and you KNOW differnt. You will have to speak up sometime. he will be charged and convicted and probebly swent to jail as well as being put on the sex registers. the next time it happens, talk to you're mum or somebody and keep th clothes and such. and go to the police. they can take the clothes and examine you for evidence this will help in the conviction. i know you dont want your nan alone but do you think she would rather have you be happy than her being with somebody who abuses her granddaughter? if she is alone, she's alone. you can still visit her regularly, and she will make better relationships with the same aged people as her around her house.

Take the advice and Sort it. ;)

[Cloud]

This is sick this needs to be stopped i dont care whether ur nan will be upset your in danger and that sick bastard needs to be stopped CALL THE POLICE NOW you shouldnt have to put up with it so stop that bastard and get him arrested your nan doesnt deserve to be with that sick fuck so dont let her be.
CALL THE POLICE NOW
if you have nay marks then you have evidence if he has done anything recent then you have more evidence so cops NOW before the evidence is gone
and my main point again just to make it clear CALL THE GODDAM POLICE

[byee]

Hi Hollie! Thanks for sharing this with us, I know it's hard to do that.

Listen, here's what I think you need to do. You need to tell your parents immediately, tell them you need to talk about something very hard for you and very serious. Make sure you have their full attention.

Then, calmly go into detail about what's been going on. It's important for them to know the extent of this, so they realize that it is real and serious and the threat to you is ongoing.

Do not worry about them not believing you, nor should you worry about your nan. You have been horribly vitimized, and you need to know they will protect you and that it is over, and that you will get the help you need to get over this horrible nightmare. No one ever blames the victim, I am sure that your folks and your nan will be grateful to know so they can protect you. And I bet your nan will be particularly Ok that her little granddaughter is happy and safe. This creep shouldn't be allowed to be that close to her, anyways.

Listen to me here, please, Im really sure about the correct thing to do. Tell your folks immediately.

let us know how it goes.

Sam

[ECGBUnni]

like everyone's already said. your safety is paramount, and your nan loves you, you're family, and his behavior is unacceptable on all levels. *you* have a right, as a human being, to be in charge of your body, and who touches what. He is violating that right and action has to be taken.

Also, he obviously has no respect for human boundaries, and he is not a man that *I* would want to marry. Your nan should know who she marries, and this is an integral part of who this man is. So, instead of worrying about your nan's loneliness, try to think about how negative this relationship can be for your nan too.

It's always a thought.

Feel free to PM me if it's too much. You have all my respect for reaching out. I would never be able to do so if I was being victimized.

[Crazychild]

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[Clawhammer]

This must stop, as the others said, call the cops. Just make sure you're never left alone with him again. Tell your nan, she deserves to know. If that guy is her husband, she need to know.

[Beautiful Obsession]

Thanks For Advice Guys..
Well I Totally Broke Down Wednesday!
I wudnt speak 2 anyone and i kept
bursting intoo tears. HORRIBLE!
everytime mates were askin me wots wrong i cried!

i came that close to telling my teacher..
she was like.. Hollie u can talk 2 me bout anyway
but i neva..
i av wrote her a letter explaining everythig..
but still debatin wether to give it her..
xxxx

[Aηdy]

Hollie you really need to give it to her.. a letter is the best way to do it if you can't say it to her face.

It's really important that you give it to her though!

[Cloud]

If you dont want to give it her jsut go in early and put it on her desk she will help it stop

[ECGBUnni]

congrats on writing the letter, that's a great first step.

It's gonna take a lot of courage to give it to your teacher, but I know in my heart you can do it.

Good luck, and good job (:

[BeautifulTragedy]

Its 100% understandable that you dont want to her your 'nan' but you have to think of it this way...this man is hurting YOU. Hes also hurting HER by doing this to you because comeon..be realistic. What woman wants a man whose touching someone they care about.

TELL HER.

[Chase6242]

This is sick this needs to be stopped i dont care whether ur nan will be upset your in danger and that sick bastard needs to be stopped CALL THE POLICE NOW you shouldnt have to put up with it so stop that bastard and get him arrested your nan doesnt deserve to be with that sick fuck so dont let her be.
CALL THE POLICE NOW
if you have nay marks then you have evidence if he has done anything recent then you have more evidence so cops NOW before the evidence is gone
and my main point again just to make it clear CALL THE GODDAM POLICE


What he said!

[Hyper]

Give the letter away!

You wrote it, that means deep down inside You want help.

Don't even think about it.. If I were You, I'd put it somewhere, where she will most certainly find and nobody else will. I am suggesting that so You wouldn't have to talk to her or explain why You are giving a letter which is almost always the best thing to do..

I really hope You do it. Whats been done to You is very wrong and needs to stop!

[Clawhammer]

Just give her the letter, as the others have said. Do it quickly before you have second thoughts about it. If you don't want him to keep advancing on you, this has got to happen.

[Beautiful Obsession]

ok i have a problem.. i hav 2 go to my nans 2moz. and next sunday i have to go out wiv them both.. but 2moz im goin to be alone wiv him without a doubt.. and u can guess wts goin to happen..
really scared rite now guys x

[Aηdy]

I'm not too sure on what to suggest really hun.

You really cannot let this happen again though. Do everything you can to fight him off you. Scream and shout if you must. Stay outside in the garden. Lock yourself in the bathroom. It doesn't really matter what you do as long as he doesn't get the chance to lay a finger on you.

Good luck, you really need to tell someone x

[Truth]

ok i have a problem.. i hav 2 go to my nans 2moz. and next sunday i have to go out wiv them both.. but 2moz im goin to be alone wiv him without a doubt.. and u can guess wts goin to happen..
really scared rite now guys x Everyone has told you what to do, so please.. just listen, you can stop it from happening.

[Beautiful Obsession]

i got out of going on Sunday, i pretened to be REALLY ill so ididnt hav to go. But i hav to go next sunday soo.. yanoo.. see how it goes.. x thanks guys x

[Aηdy]

Hollie if you tell someone you will never ever have to go through this shit again. You really must tell someone, no matter how.

[Death]

Hollie, have you posted or left that letter? If you want this sick pevert off you, you must! For your own sake!

[Beautiful Obsession]

No i havnt, actually, i'v chucked it. just really cant be doing with all the fuss and police.
I would have to tell people aswell because otherwise rumours would start.X

[Aηdy]

So you would rather be abused?

[Donkey]

No i havnt, actually, i'v chucked it. just really cant be doing with all the fuss and police.
I would have to tell people aswell because otherwise rumours would start.X

Tell the police. There will be no rumours because it is the police's job to keep things confidential unless otherwise stated by you. You really should tell them, because this guy is a pervert and an abuser and he really needs to get sorted out. You can't let this go, it has gone on for way too long and you are letting him get away with it. It could happen to you again if you're not careful. Please, it's really important that this is sorted out otherwise other people could effected not only you.

The police will try to make things as easy as possible for you, so there shouldn't be any fuss. You will be treated by the up most respect and concern after what you have been through.

It's unfair what this man has done, and you seriously need to tell someone quickly. You can't keep saying that you'll do it some other time. It needs to be done. You need to be served justice after what this vile man has done.

Please. It is really really important that you tell someone. I urge you to. I know it may seem hard, but I think you understand how important it is and with that you will be able to do it. This is serious. Do not be worried about rumours. Do not be worried about fuss. Do not be worried about what people will think. Do not be worried about anything. You just have to focus on telling someone what has happened.

At the moment, your nan is living with a man who she doesn't know has sexually abused a three year old girl. Is that fair on your nan? It's not fair to you him being out there after what he has done.

One final time, PLEASE PLEASE tell someone.

[Shattered Soul]

Andy's right, if you tell someone, you'll never have to through this again. If it is easier to tell your teacher do it, or even tell one of your parents. If that is too difficult, make an appointment with a school counselor and tell them, they're legally oblidged to contact the appropriate authorities if they're told your being abused - trust me, i've looked into that side of things.
It is a horrible horrible thing to go through, I remember when I was 10 and my uncle tried the same thing 4 times, I ran and hid. If you need to get away from him, kick him in the nuts, run and lock yourself in the bathroom and call your parents. That works, trust me.
If you need to talk, PM me, i'm nearly always on here :)
xxCathyxx

[Specter]

Hi there!

You need to put an end to his sick behavior tell your parents call the police you must take some kind of action. This is not your fault!

[Death]

It's been 4 days since Hollie's responded; I hope she's seen this and done the right thing.

[Clawhammer]

I hope so too. It needs to be done.

[Shattered Soul]

Hollie, It's ok. I know it's difficult telling someone for the first time. Just find the courage to do it, you've told so many people on here - just tell one more person and it'll all be ok. You wrote that letter and came close to giving it to someone but got rid of it. Just write another, put it in an envelope so you can't see what's written on it and hand it in without thinking. Pretend it's just a random letter for school that you're handing in.
You CAN do this, I believe in you.

xxCathyxx

[BuryYourFlame]

hun, you really need to stop this guy...and only you can do it.

if not for your own sake...then for the sake of others like you. what is to stop him from doing this to someone else too? he needs to be behind bars...

[EverlostPoet]

hun, you really need to stop this guy...and only you can do it.

if not for your own sake...then for the sake of others like you. what is to stop him from doing this to someone else too? he needs to be behind bars...

agreed

[Death]

Hollie, where are you? You need to see this!

[Triceratops]

hun, you really need to stop this guy...and only you can do it.

if not for your own sake...then for the sake of others like you. what is to stop him from doing this to someone else too? he needs to be behind bars...

What Declan has just said pretty much sums up my thoughts on this whole situation.

[dizzydinosaur]

Your Nan loves you more than she loves her husband
It might not be as simple as her leaving him because of what he's doing to you
But she's not going to hate you because of him
She's not going to disown you for him
Because no matter what, you are her grandaughter
And she loves you.
You don't have to tell her
You can tell your mum
Or a close friend
Who can pass it on
Then you don't have to see your Nan's reaction
Because that can be the hardest part
But whatever you do
Don't appologise for anything
It's not your fault.
xxx

[Project Delta]

I agree with what everyone has said here, so please hollie we all care about you, you should tell the police and get that man away from you!

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

There's a time and place to take somebody else before you, this is not that time.
You are being physically abused, not her, you need to end this now, call the police, tell your parents, tell her. There's no way in HELL they could come up with a logical reason to think it's your fault. If a person is raping you, it's not your fault. There's no possible way it could be your fault.

[Death]

Hollie, I'm sorry this's happened; you need to tell someone.

[Beautiful Obsession]

I Have been reading all the comments, but everytime i read them i start crying, i just cant bring myself to it, there have been so many times i have tried to tell someone..

thanks for your advice guys. reallyy helps:) x

[Aηdy]

If you told someone, there would be no more of this. I'm sure it's not easy for you. You really need to just bite the bit and do it, and all this will come to an end.

[Death]

I Have been reading all the comments, but everytime i read them i start crying, i just cant bring myself to it, there have been so many times i have tried to tell someone..

thanks for your advice guys. reallyy helps:) x

Oh, you've seen this. That's good because it was very important, what we had to say. I wish you the best of luck with dealing with this. :)

[NeoKitai]

First. Tell her.
Second. Call the cops, the person has no rights to do that.
If second won't work and you are in Canada (although, by your locatioon, I say you're in Britian)... call the teen help line, they're on your side.

[Project Delta]

I totally agree with NeoKitai,
No one deserves that to happen to them
And no one deserves to get away with it!

[miusha]

look you have to fight it even if you are afirad that your nan maybe alone because shes not she'll have to be with and im sure she'll be thankful for telling her and just have some evidence like go get them to patsmer you and if its been 2 days are so that you had seen him and u 2 were sexualy active thell find his sperm and put him in jail possibly the chair i hope for yuoer sake tell your friends and they'll tell there parents and the parents will say what has happened to you to your nan.
i'm sorry for what has happened to you but u can stop it! just have faith that everyting will be okay:guillotine: get him out of your life!