How do I say no to this girl?

[WEO]

Ok well Im the kinda guy who no one as a problem with, like im cool with the jocks, average people, skaters etc etc...

Just some background info:

Last year in English I had to sit next to this girl the whole year becuase the teacher put me there. Well we got to know eachother and she is a lonely/Shy girl. So me being me I want to make everyone happy and alot of times put other peoples happyness before my own so I kinda became her 'friend' . So yeah this year I have no classes with her anymore so we didnt talk much this year.

Then last week I had to stay after school for like an hour to finish an assignment and when I got to the class where I had to do my work she was also there, so I talked to her while doing my work then 2 days later she asks me to the prom which is at the end of the year :( . Its my final year so this prom is quite a big thing and I really dont want to go with her but its hard for me to say no to her.She was really nervous and stuff when she asked me. I have to tell her tomorrow but I dono what to say??? any help guys?? She knows that I dont have a girl to go with yet.

help. :confused::confused:

[Cloudfire]

This'd probably hurt this girl's feelings, but you'll have to tell her
"Look, I'm really sorry but I can't go to the prom with you. I really like someone else and I'm thinking of asking them to the prom. Sorry." Or something similar to that.

[staying_alive]

Oh damn...these situations are the toughest. I think you should use something that isn't necessarily rejecting her. "I really love that you asked me to the prom, and i know it took a lot on your part. But I feel like it might not be the best thing for us...we've kind of drifted apart and I don't want either of us to feel awkward. I think it'd be better if we went with people that we're more comfortable with."

[IAMWILL]

Ya, ^^ pretty much hit the nail on it's head.

You have to be gentle. Don't rush through this, you have to make it seem as innocent and calm on your part. Sit her down, start with some other happy conversation, then just say it. Make sure you tell her when she's in a good mood too. If not, she'll feel like her life sucks or get mad or start crying, which I can tell, you don't want.

[AllThatIsLeft]

the above sound good.. BE EXTRA GENTLE :) good luck!

[Triceratops]

Like this: "NO"

[Andrew56]

Do it in a chill way. If you say something like, "Ah geez! I feel sooo bad for saying no, but I'm super sorry that I have too." then it'll be very embarrassing for her. You definitely need to give her a chill answer like so it feels like she doesn't look bad. Like:

Ahh, that's super cool. Thanks for asking but I'm trying to get hooked up with someone else. Definitely save me a dance though, alright?

[IAMWILL]

Yes Andrew made a good point here. Even though you said the dance was tomorrow which is by my count... Today....... Ummm

Anyway make sure you give her something when you say know. Obviously you're rejecting her not because you think she's something you don't like it's just that you want someone else. A dance would be nice though, something that she will remember and not feel bad about after.

[Beautiful Obsession]

Well Be Gentle. Just Go Up To Her And Sayy.. Heyy listen im really sorry but i cant go to the prob with you.. dont say u like someone else because it will make her feel like she's ugly and nobody likes her. Just say your not really thinking about prom yet and ur prob guna be going with ur m8s.. and wait a few weeks maybe months before asking th person u do really wanna go to prom with?

GoodLuck:D
Be Nice!!!!.X

[ILOVEYOU]

Never Say No to a (good) girl. but, your call

[devilishangel]

while saying no..kz u dont want to take her out..b sure to tell her dat shes realy good..n u wud haf realy loved to take hre out..bt u kinda already had in ur mind...dat u will take sum1 else..or u haf already promised sum1 else...bt jst try nt to refuse her in a bad manner....u kno..shes shy n all...so..try to b gentle..n try nt to hurt her..or lower her confidence...[/)]