need help getting gf

[bleach]

i have only had 1 girlfriend and she doesn't count because she asked me out on the first day of school and we didn't know each other... witch is why i said no... but anyway i can't get a girlfriend and i am 13... i am kind of big not fat but a litle big i am 5' 7" and i weight 180 but i don't look that big i just don't know how to get a girlfriend

[Gumleaf]

well a good start is to try and become friends with some girls and increase your social network. then after you become friends with them and get to know them a bit, then you might find that you like one of them and things can move on from that point. but seriously, a good starting point is becoming friends with them.

[bbychop]

i suggest expanding horizons. meet new people. get into a sport, club, activity, something.
who knows, maybe you will meet a girl and it will click. and don't worry about your looks. yeah, i'll agree, at thirteen most girls will go for whoever is the "hottest", but a nice, honest, beautiful girl will not care about your looks. she'll like you for you.

and btw, hun, you're only thirteen. you shouldn't be worrying about having a girlfriend. i'm not saying you should hold off and wait, but don't push for anything now or let it consume you (not saying that it has). you have time.
(just a piece of friendly advice from someone who has experience there.)

[Jean Poutine]

I'm 18, your weight but 6', and I don't have a girlfriend either.

I never even had one.

It's not so important, what's the rush?

[Stevo 69]

There's many people like you, I know the feeling all to well as I haven't had a girlfriend for 2 years and i'm a shy guy. The key thing to getting a girlfriend is confidence, girls like a guy with confidence, yeah it's hard to do but it's worth it in the end.

But one thing I will say is you are too young to be thinking about relationships, wait a few years, maybe until 15. I mean no offence to you, it's just most people don't start having relationships until 15-16.

[Tommie]

I have this problem also...
well sortof i had a girlfriend in like the first day of school.
had one this year i dont want to sound feminine in anyway but she shattered my heart amn.
now i just dont have the confidence to do anything:(

[Cloudfire]

My opinion is you should wait, because most relationships when you're about 13 only last a couple of months. You've got plenty of time before you'd be ready to commit yourself to a serious relationship (not saying you aren't, but you're more likely to make a relationship last when you're older). So get out there and have some fun before you have to be "mature." *cough* boring.

[BuryYourFlame]

i think that you should just wait until you find a girl who you will really like, there is no point wasting time in meaningless relationships if u only have a relationship for the sake of having one,

and btw, it is not impossible for 13 yr olds to have meaningful relationships, i was 12 when i went out with my first and only gf so far, we lasted until a couple of weeks ago, and i know that i loved her heaps, we might even (in a couple of years) get back together again...

[Strength]

i have only had 1 girlfriend and she doesn't count because she asked me out on the first day of school and we didn't know each other... witch is why i said no... but anyway i can't get a girlfriend and i am 13... i am kind of big not fat but a litle big i am 5' 7" and i weight 180 but i don't look that big i just don't know how to get a girlfriend

lol im 16 and cant get any. dont feel so bad.

[paniclove]

don't constantly think about it. for the first 14 years of my life I got made fun of for being so ugly and pale. I changed my attitude on life and got a few friends. I spent most of my time with them instead of thinking about boys. and then one day my boyfriend for almost ten months asked me out! it will come you when you least excpect it. having someone isn't the most important thing in the world. just wait it out and keep your friends close. good luck!

[bleach]

actually i just got a girlfriend it is a girl i have known for a long time. and i took her to the monster jam on friday :)(she likes the monster jam) oh and i have liked her for awhile

[Strength]

don't constantly think about it. for the first 14 years of my life I got made fun of for being so ugly and pale. I changed my attitude on life and got a few friends. I spent most of my time with them instead of thinking about boys. and then one day my boyfriend for almost ten months asked me out! it will come you when you least excpect it. having someone isn't the most important thing in the world. just wait it out and keep your friends close. good luck!


Ummm...isn't getting a partner one of the primary goals of being a human?

[paniclove]

:)Ummm...isn't getting a partner one of the primary goals of being a human?

maybe for you, but my main goal is to be happy. even if it means just surrounding myself with friends, and not boys. (: but boys are pretty cool too.

=D

edit: an bleach I am very happy you got a girlfriend. and she likes monster jam? haha, you must be one lucky guy! (:

[Strength]

:)

maybe for you, but my main goal is to be happy. even if it means just surrounding myself with friends, and not boys. (: but boys are pretty cool too.

=D

edit: an bleach I am very happy you got a girlfriend. and she likes monster jam? haha, you must be one lucky guy! (:

Not just for me. It's a basic Human instinct.

[Beautiful Obsession]

Well maybe get to no a few girls? maybe u already have ur eye on one? well get to know her? get to know what she likes? ask her to the cinema's with u as a mate? see how it goes? if all goes well then ask her out? if she says it no dont take it personally? she mite just like bein mates?
im a girl and i hav a lot of boy m8s.. if dey asked me out i'd prob say no bcuz i like bein m8s wiv em?

Goodluck:D xx

[jack straw]

There's many people like you, I know the feeling all to well as I haven't had a girlfriend for 2 years and i'm a shy guy. The key thing to getting a girlfriend is confidence, girls like a guy with confidence, yeah it's hard to do but it's worth it in the end.

But one thing I will say is you are too young to be thinking about relationships, wait a few years, maybe until 15. I mean no offence to you, it's just most people don't start having relationships until 15-16.


I agree 100%! as a freshmen in highschool, I got my first Girlfriend, whom I liked for a few months. Within a day, we had our first kiss :yeah:, (which I still remember like it was yesterday) and within a week we almost went all the way. and then she just stoped talking to me, and moved on. :confused:



March 14th, 2009 05:46 PMTommieRe: need help getting gf

I have this problem also...
well sortof i had a girlfriend in like the first day of school.
had one this year i dont want to sound feminine in anyway but she shattered my heart amn.
now i just dont have the confidence to do anything:frown:



And Tommie, dont worry. That was my situation as well. we met on the first day of school, and I immeaditly liked her. within a few months she felt the same way (or at least she said she did) and by march, we became wildly in love. I had always thought that teenagers didn't really know what love was, and when I met her, she became all that I could think about. awww crap; I miss her :-( . She dumped me over a year ago and my heart still hurts when I think about her. Have not had a girl since, and dont plan on it either. I'm concentrating on school (Chemestry is a killer!) from now on, unless I find somebody really special.

Dont wory about it Tommie, there will be plenty more of them. dont let her get to you like my first did to me; I was stunned, shocked and heartbroken for over a month after (And still a little to this day) and I lost my great grades, my friends and alot of other things. No need to lose confidence in yourself. you'll have many more.
P.S. Tommie: it's not femmenin to say your heartbroken :-) we are all human, and it happens to everybody.

[justme21]

if you do happen to find a girlfriend and you go out with her and then she start likeing other guys the 1st thing you should do is say i think we should just be friends cause you dont sem that intrested in me than you do in other people.
Man i had a chance to get a real hot girlfriend cause she asked me if i was still going out with that girl(and i can tell she was going to ask me out) and i said maybe that im not sure whats going to happen and then 3 hour later i get news saying that my ex just wants to be friend with me now and then that other girl whos was trying to get me asked another guy out so im now single for a while oh well i learned my lesson dont keep going out wiht a girl she dont want to talk to you.