help, please.

[twistedpleasures]

hello.
i lost my daughter last year - she was 12 weeks old.
i am finding it really hard to cope right now.

does anyone have any ideas on how to get by?

email me please.
thanks.

[MysticalBurrito]

I am very sorry for your lose
It takes a while for some mothers to get by after the death of a baby
just think would your baby want you to be all down and depressed?

[byee]

I'm so sorry for your loss, that's just horrible.

It takes time to get over loss, esp. the tragic loss of a newborn. I'm afraid there's no simple answer to how to get over it. I think it's a day by day thing, sometimes a moment to moment one, it comes and goes in waves. Because of the traumatic nature of this loss it will take some time, and most often, some therapy, too.

Be good to yourself, recognize thee's a real injury there, and make sure you get the support and TLC you need now. Give yourself the opportunity to experience the grief, but also try to limit it and find time to move on to other things that, eventhough they might not seem very satisfying right now, provide a distraction.

With time, you learn how to cope with what happened and it will interfere less with your sense of well being. But that's going to take time, give yourself the chance to grieve, and balance it with other things, too.

Good luck.

[Triceratops]

I'm so sorry to hear that, it must be awful.

It may take a while to get over such a tragic loss, which is understandable. Just taking each day at a time will help. Try doing something you enjoy, like a hobbie or your favorite pastime to take your mind off things and help you relax a little. Or spending quality time with close friends and family and enjoy their company.
Here's a suggestion - do you have any pets? I find that stroking and talking to a pet (such as a dog or cat) really helps me cope with stress. Pets are excellent listeners you know :)

Dont worry, hun. Things will get better eventually, just stay strong :heart:

[Cloud]

Bereavement is THE WORST feeling you will ever ever feel i know how hard it is for a grandparent to die but a child must feel much worse. my advice would be stick with yuor friends they will help you get through it. Generally for me just talking about it with people really did help. im not saying this will work instantly but it will help.
therapy may also help so see if it can help you
if you ever need to talk about it im here so feel free to pm me

[bbychop]

first off, i want to say that i am sorry for your loss. i am sure it was and still is pretty tragic.
the most you can do is try to get your mind off of the loss. hanging around friends, surrounding yourself with positive surroundings, maybe talk to someone. it is much harder to deal with the loss of a child more than the loss of pretty much anyone or anything else.
i agree that in time it will be easier to cope, but your little girl is always going to be a part of you. if you want to think positive, just remember that one day you will see her again. but she doesn't want to be looking down on you seeing you depressed. she wants you to be happy.
i know it's hard to think positive, but if you start thinking (and believing!) positively, it will get you through.

it will only get worse before it gets better but honey, it all gets better in time.
just remember that.

[Φρανκομβριτ]

I can only imagine the pain you must feel. I am terribly sorry for your loss.
There are many programmes that are offered at verious medical offices, as well as community centres and help groups. You may want to look into these in your area.
It also might be a good idea to talk to a counceler.
Just remember to look on the bright side. Everything happens for a reason.