Am I overreacting?

[otakuamanda888]

Well I'm back again, so hi. Well I was wondering if I should be concerned or if I am overreacting. Well I have a young friend who is about fourteen and she is the sweetest girl. Well the problem is that she and her family are, well, "free". What I mean is that they do not mind showing some skin. Okay they are like nudists, but more like closet nudists. (They don't go to colonies or stuff like that but do it in their own home. And they sometimes go fully naked) Well I have no problem with her being free with expressing herself but the problem is that her parents do the same thing and sometimes videotape themselves, and sometimes her, while they are expressing this nudist nature. I've seen some of them and I was alarmed because, well, she is underage and her parents aren't...obviously. Am I overreacting or should I tell a teacher, or police officer? Help not me, but my friend.

[Vicarious]

Nudism is normal. Although not too popular in the US, it is still quite popular in Europe, Russia, and other places around the world.

As long as the videotaping isn't suggestive in any way, it's fine. I'm assuming this is like a home video thing, from the way you described it. As long as she isn't in any danger, it isn't a crime.

But, I'd ask her if she feels comfortable with it. If she doesn't, then you have a problem on your hands.

[Skeln]

Yes, it's a personal decision and their's nothing to worry about. Now if the daughter is posing in some sexual positioon then yes, you should tell because it's basically child pornography. As long as they're ok with it though then it's nothing to worry about.

[byee]

This is a tough one. First, how do you know about the video?

I think videos involving underage nudity is pretty much a no no. The idea is that minors cannot fully understand the implications of it, and therefore cannot offer truly informed consent. Kids rely on their parents to show good judgement and protect them from things that could be harmful for them, and a video of her nude doesn't exactly do this, It's really unclear what the point of her appearing nude is, surely the benefit doesn't go to your friend. Her parents can do whatever they wish with the camera, but once they involve their minor children, it's another issue entirely.

Then, there's the issue of what you, as a minor, can do, as well. I think the goal here is to protect your friend, and perhaps the best way of doing this is to inform your parents and let them determine the best way of approaching your friends parents. Also, you should tell yuor friend about yuor concerns,a s well as your intention of telling your folks, again, not so much as 'snitching', but as genuine concern for her welfare.

[Truth]

I myself would tell some one. I think it's so wrong for a 14 year old to let herself be taped nude by older people, even if it's their parents. Makes me sick, no matter what type of film it is.

[Triceratops]

I understand why you find this to be...awkward. But they obviously view nudity as a totally natural thing.
However, the fact that they film her naked pretty much draws the line. I personally would inform someone about this as she is underage and it would be seen as child pornography. You might ask her if she feels comfortable with her parents filming her, but still, even if she does say she is I would still see someone about like a teacher or your own parents and find out if going to the police is a good idea.

[Raynes]

I know that it is indeed legal to film people of all ages at colonies and such, but doing it in a home would make me a little weary. If they aren't harming the girl, or filming it in a suggestive manner, getting the police involved would only be harmful to the family, but if there is the chance that they are filming child pornography, contact the police.

[foreverjd14]

i think its fine because there not meaning it to be anything bad its just like a home movie
if it implies something else than i would tell someone

[BeautifulTragedy]

Yeah, your acting ass-ish. In other words your 'overreacting'. Whats wrong with showing a little skin, any other guy would LOVE to have a chick whose comfortable with being nude. But seeing her Dad or granny or something nakid now that might be a little weird.

[rivermaya]

think of the recordings are your own family videos but without the clothes, if it isnt sexual in nature then it's ok.

[Mrred]

Well nudists aren't bad by no means. And being taped isn't bad. But as long as it's not sexualy or wrong. Mmm do your parents know about your friend being a nudist?

[staying_alive]

Yes, i think you should think of it like your own home videos but just...naked. If she's posing sexually, or her parents are getting "odd" angles, etc. then tell someone. But otherwise, as long as she's not bothered by it, it seems like everything is okay. The last thing you want to happen is for you to tell someone and her family to dislike you for overreacting.