It's like I don't know him anymore

[Skuzzy]

I have a good friend. Known eathother for years. Recently he's been acting wierd. He's refused to let me spend the night and no I never did anything with him. He stopped talking or being near me. He claims we both need to change but that's not specific. And he's naive to think you can change someone just like that. I think something might be going on with family or something but he refuses to talk to me. Any advice to get him to tAlk to me

[Skeln]

Well, if he's not talking to you at all then that creates a problem. I think you should give him some space for awhile, maybe 2-3 weeks, then eventually ask if you could br friends again. 2-3 weeks might be a little soon, but I don't think you want to wait for too long. Don't ask him about why he ended the friendship before, it might be something he doesn't want to talk about and it shows that you haven't gotten over it. Also, you could try to talk to him again, just tell him that you want to be friends. But I would go with my frist option, because not only might their be a personal issue going on in his life, but just as well he might have figured out somehting about you/heard rumors about you and the whole thought hasn't sinked in yet. I say just give it some time before you try talking to him again.

[Skuzzy]

Thanks good advice

[byee]

There's sadly not much to do here if he won't talk about it. I'd acknowledge the change, ask what happened, and invite him to talk with you, maybe remind him of the past stuff between you that was so good and worthwhile. Then, i'd wait a while, a few weeks, and readress it.

Maybe it's temporary, maybe as you're thinking, it is something to do with family, maybe not. Hopefully, he'll reflect on the goodness of your friendship and with time, be able to either talk about it and share it, or maybe just resume where you guys left off. But, maybe not, maybe none of the above, maybe whatever is going on for him really has changed him in a way that prevents the continuing relationship. Sometimes that happens, and it's not at all a reflection on anything about your your friendship with him, people change sometimes. All you can do is invite him to talk.