my brother

[bagman]

i feel cheated out of my confidence. its hard for me to take risks sometimes. what happened was my brother was born when i was 3 dont get me wrong i love my brothers but my mom tells me i was a happy child who smiles alot. now my mom says i look emotionless alot. i dont ride rollercosters like i did when i was yonger. and i dont push myself to speak because i dont wanna say anything stupid. im working on talking thoe and its going slowly.

[Oblivion]

That's what happens when your brain rewires.
Puberty. Emotionally traumatizing.

Lots of people go through it. You aren't alone!

[bevans]

Good to know that you are working it out. Even though you're making slow progress, it's ok... What's important is you're doing something to bring back the best in you.

[byee]

Your brother was born 11 years ago, that's enough time to work out whatever issues arose after his birth!

There's a gen'l adjustment to the birth of a sibling, but most parents are able to balance the needs of a newborn with the needs of the kids already there. And unless your folks didn't manage the addition well and really abandoned you emotionally or otherwise made a drastic change in the amount and quality of time they spent with you, then we should assume that whatever issues you're having now at 14 are not the result of something that happened 11 years ago.

The best way to build confidence in yourself is to get out there, participate in life's events, push yourself a bit, and see what happens. Typically, people find new activities and people that slowly make them feel worthwhile and 'good', which are the building blocks of self confidence.

[Beautiful Obsession]

ur growing? ur not guynna be the same foreva yano?

[mexa]

i dont push myself to speak because i dont wanna say anything stupid. im working on talking thoe and its going slowly.

i try to stop myself from talkin too much too but i always end up saying something dumb that makes sense in my mind but after i say it everyone is like "hahaha" and im like "god dang i did it again". For the talking thing just try to stay on subject id say, if someone is talking about parties or something dont bring up any other subject until you finish talking about the other one, i try to do that but sometimes i just end up making myself look pretty stupid haha, mostly because i panic or something then according to my friends i get sorta like this color: ":mad:" and it pisses me off...Well enough of my story heh so remember stay on subject :)...gosh maybe i should remember that when writting around here :D

Edit: oh hell this thread has almost 1 month of being around here...my bad u.u

[Truth]

i feel cheated out of my confidence. its hard for me to take risks sometimes. what happened was my brother was born when i was 3 dont get me wrong i love my brothers but my mom tells me i was a happy child who smiles alot. now my mom says i look emotionless alot. i dont ride rollercosters like i did when i was yonger. and i dont push myself to speak because i dont wanna say anything stupid. im working on talking thoe and its going slowly. Just like me. Until grade 3, when that (Something) happened, which lead to alot of other stuff, i was a happy kid.. Since then i've been alone, depressed, etc, and my mom yells if i mention being depressed to her. =P