No one to talk to

[messed up]

ok yesterday I was all sorted, i was going to finally tell my four best friends about my SHing. I couldn't hold it in any longer and thought it was about time I stop lying. But then I found out today that one of them has started doing drugs. So now there's me who self-harms, one of us who takes drugs and one who's depressed because her mum has recently died. That leaves only one problemless (if thats a word) friend! She was saying today that shes so glad she can just have a normal convo with me. I feel so guilty! I should tell her but her worlds already been turned upside down enough recently with my other friends problems!!!
So yeh, then I thought fine I'll tell my parents then but now they're going through a tough time too! My mum said today that i'm currently the only person keeping her going! She'd be crushed if I told her! i really need someone to talk to without my family and friends knowing! All these added pressures and incidents are making me cut even more! Help!

[byee]

If you need to tell someone, you should. The questions are who should that be and why are you telling them.

Friends share stuff with eachother, and sometimes it's not such pleasant stuff, as your two other friends can attest to. The point in them sharing is that that's what friends do, they share with eachother, the good (hopefully), the bad, and the sometimes ugly. It's informational, it's a way of being close, and it can be a way of getting some support, but it's NOT a way always of getting the really tough stuff in life fixed. For that, you need some adults.

Kids tell their parents stuff (especially the bad and the ugly) b/c they need some help, and that's what parents do, they take care of their kids. And that's regardless of whatever other adult issues they might be currently having.

So, given the gravity of your situation, it really does sound like you need to talk with your folks and tell them what's going on, and show them, too. That way, your needs can (as they should) come first, and you can get the help you need to overcome those urges and be happy again. Then, if you want to share what's going on with your friends you can, b/c it then will be informational, you'll be getting the help in the proper place.

[Triceratops]

If you feel the need to tell, then do so. Honestly, once you've told them, it'll be like a weight lifted off your shoulders.

Your friends and parents are the ones who are there for you and support you, no matter what. You shouldn't feel guilty, even though it's normal to feel like this, there's still no need. Once you've let it out in the open they'll understand.

Once you have your friends and parents support, the less likely you'll feel the need to cut.

Good luck <3

[messed up]

thanks for your help am thinking i will deffinately tell them soon, i've already told one mate and he says he's going to help me explain stuff to everyone else. I'm already feeling better so thank you sooo much it really helps! Thanks again!

[Triceratops]

No problem :)
We're always here to help you.

[Beautiful Obsession]

Well I Havnt Long Started Cutting. And I Have 4 Bad Cuts On My Wrists And 2 Bad Cuts On My Legs. Buy The Thing Is People Are Already Starting To Ask Questions. Like All My M8s At Skwl Are Saying Hollie Your Self Harming? And Im Like Noo And Hav To Fink On An Excuse.. And My Mum Even Mentioned It!!
How Can I Hide My Cuts?
Im Already Finding It Hard Not Tell Anyone. Its Realyy Hard. Help!!

[messed up]

ur friends are noticing already? lucky you! I've been self-harming for two years and no one has noticed. i suggest you stop lying and tell them, thats what im doing. as horrible as it seems they WILL help.
x

[BuryYourFlame]

i think that the best way to get rid of it...i am aware of my hypocritical behaviour...is to tell them, they are your friends, they would want to know

(edit): 200 posts XD