nachtspiegel
March 9th, 2009, 12:26 AM
So, both of my sisters rely on me to an extent to help them with my nieces.
My oldest sister has a 10 year old and my other sister (who is 18) has a daughter that is almost 2. We all pretty much live in the same house (it's one house, split into two apartments. My 18 year old sister, her boyfriend, and her daughter live upstairs, and my oldest sister, her daughter, my parents, and I live downstairs.) Anyway, I usually watch my 18 year old sister's daughter for about a half an hour in the morning so that my sister's boyfriend can take her to work without having to load my niece up and get her bundled up. My sister starts work between 8 and 9:30 - her hours change every week, and she has to be at work fifteen minutes before her shift starts.
Sometimes, my oldest sister needs me to take my 10 year old niece to the bus stop, but the only time that happens is when she needs to get into the doctor or she's really badly sick - she's going through kidney failure, and to get into the clinic here, you have to call at 8am and hope you get through, and, on top of that, hope that the clinic has something open in the near future.
Anyway, we've had a few dilemmas with this. The most recent one was Friday. My sister worked from 8 to 5 last week, so I went upstairs to keep an eye on my niece from 7:30 to 8, and then I'd come back down here, and, if necessary, I took my other niece to her bus stop. Friday, my sister didn't get out of bed until 8, but I had already told my other sister the night before that I'd take my older niece to her bus stop so she could wait on the phone to get into the doctor. It'd all work out: I could keep an eye on the younger niece, then come back down here and take my older niece to her bus stop. When my sister didn't come down here at 7:30 to get me up, I figured that her friend was coming to pick her up and take her to work, so I didn't pay any mind to it.
She came down at 8:05, telling me that she needed me to come upstairs to keep an eye on the baby. I told her that was fine, but that her boyfriend would have to take my older niece to school since I wouldn't be able to get her to the bus stop in time. She got mad, said "this is fucking bullshit" and then walked out and slammed the door. Earlier, I was texting her, and I happened to ask her what time she works this week - 8:30 to 5. I told her that we were going to have to figure out something in case I had to take my older niece to her bus stop. She wrote back "well it don't fuckin matter because [our older sister] is more important than me anyway." I wrote back "what the fuck?"
To keep the story from being even longer, it really pissed me off. At times, both of my sisters think that the world revolves around them. I'm sick of them bitching at me when I can't do something for them - with my oldest sister, it's guilt trips, and with my other sister, it's outbursts - and I'm even sicker of them acting like I should hold one of them over the other. The honest fact is that, if it became a necessity, it wouldn't kill my working sister to have her friend pick her up in the morning or take my niece with her and her boyfriend when he drives her to work - it is getting warmer out, and she has no problem bundling her up when she wants to go out and do something and she doesn't have a babysitter. Another honest fact is that my sick sister doesn't just have me take my older niece to her bus stop because she's too lazy to - it's either because she really needs to get into the doctor or she's badly sick. I haven't blown my top yet, but I'm getting really close to doing so because I'm tired of people's shit.
I have enough going on as it is, and for anybody to add anything on top of it... honestly, it's for the fucking birds and I won't have it. My sister and I are about to have some less than nice words with each other if she doesn't stop thinking the whole fucking world revolves around her.
As a side note, both of my sisters are going to be fucked when I start my job here soon, and they're going to be even more fucked when I start school on top of that.
I feel a little better now.
My oldest sister has a 10 year old and my other sister (who is 18) has a daughter that is almost 2. We all pretty much live in the same house (it's one house, split into two apartments. My 18 year old sister, her boyfriend, and her daughter live upstairs, and my oldest sister, her daughter, my parents, and I live downstairs.) Anyway, I usually watch my 18 year old sister's daughter for about a half an hour in the morning so that my sister's boyfriend can take her to work without having to load my niece up and get her bundled up. My sister starts work between 8 and 9:30 - her hours change every week, and she has to be at work fifteen minutes before her shift starts.
Sometimes, my oldest sister needs me to take my 10 year old niece to the bus stop, but the only time that happens is when she needs to get into the doctor or she's really badly sick - she's going through kidney failure, and to get into the clinic here, you have to call at 8am and hope you get through, and, on top of that, hope that the clinic has something open in the near future.
Anyway, we've had a few dilemmas with this. The most recent one was Friday. My sister worked from 8 to 5 last week, so I went upstairs to keep an eye on my niece from 7:30 to 8, and then I'd come back down here, and, if necessary, I took my other niece to her bus stop. Friday, my sister didn't get out of bed until 8, but I had already told my other sister the night before that I'd take my older niece to her bus stop so she could wait on the phone to get into the doctor. It'd all work out: I could keep an eye on the younger niece, then come back down here and take my older niece to her bus stop. When my sister didn't come down here at 7:30 to get me up, I figured that her friend was coming to pick her up and take her to work, so I didn't pay any mind to it.
She came down at 8:05, telling me that she needed me to come upstairs to keep an eye on the baby. I told her that was fine, but that her boyfriend would have to take my older niece to school since I wouldn't be able to get her to the bus stop in time. She got mad, said "this is fucking bullshit" and then walked out and slammed the door. Earlier, I was texting her, and I happened to ask her what time she works this week - 8:30 to 5. I told her that we were going to have to figure out something in case I had to take my older niece to her bus stop. She wrote back "well it don't fuckin matter because [our older sister] is more important than me anyway." I wrote back "what the fuck?"
To keep the story from being even longer, it really pissed me off. At times, both of my sisters think that the world revolves around them. I'm sick of them bitching at me when I can't do something for them - with my oldest sister, it's guilt trips, and with my other sister, it's outbursts - and I'm even sicker of them acting like I should hold one of them over the other. The honest fact is that, if it became a necessity, it wouldn't kill my working sister to have her friend pick her up in the morning or take my niece with her and her boyfriend when he drives her to work - it is getting warmer out, and she has no problem bundling her up when she wants to go out and do something and she doesn't have a babysitter. Another honest fact is that my sick sister doesn't just have me take my older niece to her bus stop because she's too lazy to - it's either because she really needs to get into the doctor or she's badly sick. I haven't blown my top yet, but I'm getting really close to doing so because I'm tired of people's shit.
I have enough going on as it is, and for anybody to add anything on top of it... honestly, it's for the fucking birds and I won't have it. My sister and I are about to have some less than nice words with each other if she doesn't stop thinking the whole fucking world revolves around her.
As a side note, both of my sisters are going to be fucked when I start my job here soon, and they're going to be even more fucked when I start school on top of that.
I feel a little better now.