It's strange how things like this make a huge impact on me

[AllThatIsLeft]

So there is this girl, we're okay acquaintances, we work together, i treat her okay. We've had some discussions, but lately it was all good.

And she had this party, pretty big, and she invited ALL MY FRIENDS... Except me.

Wouldn't i like to know what did i ever do to her to exclude me like that.
I guess thats what i get for being me,

hm.

[Destiny&Desire]

You shouldn't blame yourself for this!

I've been in the exact same situation, however I was the one who didn't invite one person, and I know how it feels when one person is left out of something which all of their friends went to.

If you're both OK friends, then maybe it's not that she has something against you. Maybe there weren't enough spaces at the party? (things like restaurant meals and stuff can only have certain numbers).

Could you talk to her about it? Don't accuse her immediately of not inviting you, but subtly ask like... what she's doing/done for her birthday/whatever the occassion is, and if she avoids the topic then there possibly was a reason that she's not comfortable discussing.

But does it really matter if you're not that close friends anyway? I'm not saying that you don't have a right to feel left out, but try not to take it too personally - there probably will be a bit of chatter about it when you next see your friends, but eventually it will be as if nothing ever happened.

Unless your friend leaves you out of everything, then hopefully it was only a one-off situation.

Hope this helps.. =]
x x x

[AllThatIsLeft]

I don't want to talk to her about it, i'm pretty sure she has a grudge on me because some of the things i've told her.

I'm not the nicest person, and there was a period when i told her things how they were.
guess she didn't like that.
guess i brought it on to myself.

i guess the fact that she invited people she doesn't even talk to could be a reason why i didn't fit.

I guess seeing my friends all together without me, shouldn't be strange.

I guess who i am, and who i was so comfortable with, wasn't as great a personality as i thought.

I guess in the end, no matter how i try. I wil always be the same lonely person i always was.

i guess that realization shouldn't be surprising.

[Destiny&Desire]

I can totally empathise that, but you need to try and think about how it might not have been your fault.

If you're comfortable with who you are, you shouldn't feel the need to conform just to "fit in". It's better to be happy with who you are, rather than be unhappy with who you're not.

If you feel like talking to her isn't an option, why not talk to your friends? It's not like they've abandoned you, and this situation's only happened once, so it's not like you're permanently cut off from everyone.

Just please don't blame yourself for this, no matter how much you may feel like it's right to! As I said before, it's a one-off situation, and hopefully it won't happen again, so you should try to just shrug it off and forget this girl - if she didn't want to invite you, then it's her problem, not yours.

Feel free to PM me if you wanna talk about anything at all, because I'm here for you, and I'm sure most of us here on VT are willing to help you through this =]
x x x

[AllThatIsLeft]

thanks... hopefully it doesnt happen again..

(i'm sorry i dont know your name)

yet..i'm still sad...
but oh well
nothing new anyway

[Destiny&Desire]

Sorry, I like to hide my name online lol

if you're still feeling bad about it, try thinking about something else. Lol, I know that probably sounds like a really stupid idea, but if you can distract yourself then at least it can be off your mind for a small amount of time. Comedy films/programs and stuff are good for quick-fixes =]

and really, there's not much point dwelling on the past, so think about all the better things that are going to happen in the future! =]
x x x

[AllThatIsLeft]

(fine i'll call you umm.. umm.. Holly... i was watching breakfast at Tiffany's last night, the main character's name was Holly) XD

I hope the future holds better things, the way i feel, i feel like i'm going down hill)

[Destiny&Desire]

Errm, ok =] (i like that name =p)

the future will hold better things; teenage years always suck tbh, but things get better once you're in uni/out and about in the world (dunno what the school/work system is like in the USA). Things won't be bad forever! =]
x x x

[AllThatIsLeft]

i'm actually in canada...
and it sucks ass.. i hope i get into uni.. the way thigns are going, i'm not going anywhere

[Destiny&Desire]

sorry, my geography sucks LOL *stupid* (don't know why i'm taking it as a subject)

just keep your hopes up, because if you keep at it and keep trying then you can do it! i'm guessing you leave school at 18? you've still got a short amount of time, so some hard work will pay off till then and then everything will be fine *thumbs up lol*
x x x

[AllThatIsLeft]

i will try...
going back on topic..
i guess this situation w/ that girl was the breaking point.

lately everything has been so bad, with people, with studies, with life, with myself.
i dont want to fall into another depression.
i been there, and it sucks.

but with everything happening like this i dont think i can avoid it. : (

[Destiny&Desire]

Is there anyone you can talk to about this?

If there's someone in your school, for example, or your family who you can explain your worries to, maybe they can guide you in the right direction and keep things on track. It's not nice sinking back into darkness if you've been there before, and you shouldn't have to go through it again.

If there's anyone at all you can confide in, then I recommend you go to them and things will get better
x x x

[AllThatIsLeft]

ha. i havent talked to the psychologist in ages.
my mom thinks i'm full of bullshit.
my friends already know.
sadly i'm the only one that can pull myself out of it.
and i cant.

[Destiny&Desire]

Could you try talking to him/her again?

The good thing that you've realised, though, is that you do play a part in getting yourself through this, but you shouldn't have to go through this alone. You can't just "snap out" of certain moods at times, but you can somewhat control your feelings to an extent.

Your psychologist should be able to help you, and it doesn't matter if you haven't been to him/her for ages, they will still be able to make life seem better because that's what they're there to do (does that sentence even make sense?). Or even your friends; if they know your situation, ask them for support?
x x x

[AllThatIsLeft]

i'm going to see if i can talk to my psychologist..
and my friends do support me, they are wonderful.
but still, they cant change my life, neither can the psychologist.
and all my psychologist says to me .. uh huh.. uh huh... uh huh..
kind of pointless. but i'll try.

[Skeln]

Yeah, I agree. You need to tell someone about this. It's unfair for someone to have to go through alot of trouble and have no help. I've been there, and I don't want to do it again. Talk to your family/friends/counselor/atc. Just try to let others know how you feel and hopefully they will be able to help.

[Narwhale343]

it was pretty mean for her to do that. That has happenede to me as well, what I did was just come to the fact to the fact I shouldn't go where I don't belong because it would be very awkward if I did. But you should just say you're sorry and explain why you were mad or whatever.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Tahnks for your answer, but i already resolved this. =]]

If a mod comes into this, mind locking it? thanks.