I want to stop, but I don't know how.

[Destiny&Desire]

Sure, I've read all the websites, seen all the advice on the 'distraction methods', and just ways of stopping myself from SH-ing, but I don't have faith in myself to believe that I can stop completely.

I don't SH regularly, maybe once every few weeks (I'm trying to restrict when I do it), but after each time I do it I tell myself I won't do it again. Then I do. =[.

I want to stop, because I'm scared of getting scars and stuff (I already have some which I'm trying to get rid of), but sometimes things get too much and I just can't control what happens. Talking to someone isn't an option, because last time my mum found out I SH-ed she panicked and told me not to do it again, and I don't have any good friends in school to discuss it with. And apparently the school counsellors lie to people about telling their parents, and referring them to people (I've heard this from two of my friends who have SH-ed and gone to the school for help). I just want to stop, but with my current situation in school and stuff, stress builds up and there's nowhere/nothing to turn to apart from SH.

I don't know what to do :what:
xo

[Triceratops]

Okay, in order to stop you NEED faith in yourself, otherwise it's virtually impossible. You can't just suddenly stop self-harming like that, you need to work for it.

If you're afraid of getting scars, this may help you to stop yourself from cutting. Each time you tell yourself "I won't do it again" think of ways to stick by it, think of all the scars forming when you DO cut, this might prevent you from caving.

Personally, getting referred to someone else doesn't actually sound a bad idea. My parents freaked out when they found out I self-harmed too, but if a school counsillor is trying to get you some help (and then tells your parents about it), surely your parents won't think that's a bad thing? Besides, you've only heard this from only two friends, you should try seeing the school counsillor for yourself, you never know.

Hope this helps, and good luck :)