sexuality/comming out

[southieRy94]

hey, im 15 and I think I am gay or bi and not sure because I can't imagine having any solid relationship with a guy like boyfriend and I can't imagine having sexual relations with a girl, but my biggest problem is that I've known about this since I was like 11 but still haven't come out 2 any1 yet, I'm not sure how I shud do it. Any tips?

[Tommie]

until your sure i wouldent say anything
but how do i know

[Mzor203]

There is no "correct" way to come out to anybody. For the most part it is simply finding a time when you feel comfortable with someone and then going ahead and telling them. Just think a bit about what you want to say, exactly, beforehand, an then make sure you feel confident in yourself. Express to them that you are proud of who you are.

And remember, coming out isn't a requirement. You only need to come out to those people who you feel most comfortable with, and no one else. Once you put your sexuality out there, it's easy for people to use it as something to degrade you with, so just be careful.

Good luck to you, and good on you for making the decision to come out, and it is a big decision.

[Skeln]

Yeah, if your not sure then I wouldn't come out yet. And if you do ever come out, make sure it's someone who you know well and is very accepting. Right now I woudl say you're striaght/curious. Just because you can't imagine a sexual relationship doesn't mean your not straight. Actually, it's a good thing. You don't feel ready for it so you probably won't have sex at an early age. I don't know why, but alot of teens want to have sex. All it does is get you an 8-sec orgasm, and the probable baby/STD. I mean, come on! The world is overpopulated enough with sick people! We don't need more STD cases and we could definately do with less babies being born. Girls these days are popping out babies out by the dozen!

[Oblivion]

Moved to Teen Sexuality.

[Sceneboy612]

well i have the same problem as you do, and what i am going to do before i come out, is that i am going to make friends with alot of people, then i am going to tell some people who i trust, and work from there. but if you dont have many friends, i will bet that it willl be very rough for you to come out.

[southieRy94]

yea, I have sum friends that I trust enough 2 tell but haven't yet but there r sum that I don't wanna tell, now cuz I don't trust them but cuz it'll most likely change our friendship

[Furn_93]

I have a similar situation. I'd say leave it to sort itself out. You'll know eventually regardless of who you tell and what they tell you. It's probably not gonna change, but its really impossible. In two years you could start liking women more, you could not.
You'll know which sexuality you are eventually. Personally, I am quite similar in that aspect, and I decided I was bi, because well yeah I did lol.

Hope I helped.

[southieRy94]

Yea, I'm thinking I'm bi more now cuz of sum stuff I read here. And thanks 4 all u guys help. Much appreciated

[Sceneboy612]

yea, I have sum friends that I trust enough 2 tell but haven't yet but there r sum that I don't wanna tell, now cuz I don't trust them but cuz it'll most likely change our friendship

i have that same thing, i have people who i can trust, but i dont want to make things weird when im with them

[southieRy94]

yea, I won't mind as much w/ most of my friends that r girls, just mostly my guys friends, idk how they'll react

[mchboy1]

I REALLY suggest not telling anyone till ur sure. And when you do tell someone, make sure that they will not tell anyone you don't want them to tell. I told the person who I thought was my best friend, he told one other friend, who told one other friend, who held it over my head and pushed me "half way" out. It got around to several other people and is causing me MAJOR problems.

[Lifeguard18]

Yeah like other peeps said wait until you are sure enough of what ur sexuality is. Teen years are confusing even for me

[The Batman]

Maybe this will help.

http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=25667