gah!

[Halibut]

well i dont know if im just jelaouse or something but like my dad works alot yes. BUT. he finds time to spend with his girlfriend and like it feels like he does not try to make time for me. the first time i asked him about it he worked on it. now the second time he just brushed if off and she spent the week end here. i miss me and him haveing our own quality time. and it seems anything i tel him goes through one ear and out the other and its the truth. he never really listens. i talk to him about something and the second im dont he starts talking about er. i understand he really likes her and such and that makes sense. but still..i miss us spending real time togeather...

[Skeln]

Well, sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Actually force him to pay attention; don't let him leave until he truely understands how you feel. It's unfair when a parent pays more attention to something else than their own kid, so yeah juyst make sure he gets the whole picture when you talk to him. Heck, even quiz him on what you said ofter your done...only if you want to though. Probably have him plan something where all three of you can do something together. I have one question though...do you like his new girlfriend? Or is she one of those people who become the evil stepmom? If you do like her (as a friend or step-mom, whichever you prefer to call it), then sit down with her and explain. Since your dad pays more attention to her, or at least listens to her more, then maybe she can speak to him for you. If she were to do that then he would take it more seriously because now she's involved and he probably doesn't want to look like an ass in front of her and brush it off as nothing.

[byee]

It sorta makes it easier to understand why you and Jordan are so close, huh? When you don't get the attention you need at home, it's that much more important to get it outside.

I think all you can do is tell your dad what you need, and be as clear and specific and non accusatory as you can, and hope that he can see the wisdom (and fun!) of listening to you and responding to your needs. Asking for your fair share doesn't make you unreasonable, and not getting it doesn't make you jealous. It makes you lonely. Which can complicate things in other relationships.

If he cannot respond consistently to what you're asking for, then there's an undertstandable sense of frustration and loss. I think in your case it's just really important to recognize, as I stated in the beginning, to be aware that your sense of loss makes you somewhat needy emotionally, and with that, comes a vulnerbaility to get involved (and sometimes stay involved) with an intensity that could be more reflective of your lonliness, rather than the goodness of the relationship.