i need advice..?

[pleasehelp99]

SORRY if this is in the wrong place, i just figured because this is the relationship and all,
ok, first things first, IM SHY!!!
i cant look any girl in the face, and when i do, i stutter more then a chainsaw,
the only 2 girls i can acctually look at "face to face"..(not through pictures :))))
are some one the cutest girls ive ever met, and you see thats the problem, hows a girl gunna out with a chainsaw? huh?
and the only time i got close to asking. is when she said she was going to a diffrent school (she only lives a few blocks away, but man, )
the other one, i sit next to nearly 4 times a day, and when i do, i could drain and fill all the oceans with my own sweat..(sorry if thats innapropriate (spelling)?

*EDIT*
ps, the one i sit next to 4 times a day isnt my sister..lol
i meant to add school..but il just add it here

[byee]

So, you need to learn how to overcome your anxiety?

Practice. Lots of practice.


So, you should force yourself to talk with *whoever* is sitting next to you, regardless of how cute they are or how attracted to them you are. It's just practice, remember, you're practicing new skills. The goal is proficiency at a new skill, not a date.

Like anything new, it takes time to become masterful at it. The way to do that is to keep at it, regardless of how successful you are. With time, you'll improve, it's a skill like any other that just requires repitition.

Just remember that the goal is to talk comfortably, not 'ask someone out', so keep it simple.

[Skeln]

Yes, just practice. Talk to someone that you don't like at all, but is your friend. (A friend that is a girl I mean). More and more, you'll become more comfortable with talking and then you can just move up from there. Take your time and don't rush. Try working on talking first, then work on looking a girl in the face. After all, most people lower their face when they're nervous or embarassed, so it'll look more natural if you have problems looking eye-to-eye.

[Haru Taki]

I have no anxiety...thts why alot of the boys used to think i was gay....but yeh....i do get nervous.....but only when it comes to asking the girl i like out.....lol....weird how that works....we spk fine....

[frostythesnowman81]

just ask her about something you know is her favorite something. like if she likes bon jovi ask her what her fav song is and impress her with your knowledge (but don't be fake. only do this if it's a genuine common interest. she'll find out sooner or later if you're being phony)

say hi to her in the hallway.

and after a couple of convos give her a compliment. something like: you have a nice smile/eyes/sense of humor.

check out her body language. are her feet pointing towards you? does she play with her hair? does she ask you about yourself?

and if she asks you if you've got a girlfriend YOU SCORED BIG TIME!!!

and if it doesn't work out----her loss!!!

trust me i'm a girl ;)

[JessieKitty]

My mom has always told me that there are plenty of fish in the sea. If one guy/girl doesn't like you, more than likely, there will be one who really does. I used to get really hung up on this one guy (who didn't really like me all that much), but my mom explained to me that he was just one guy. There are millions of people out there who may or may not like you. That's just life and there's always someone out there for you. ^_^

[GeneralCrash70]

SORRY if this is in the wrong place, i just figured because this is the relationship and all,
ok, first things first, IM SHY!!!
i cant look any girl in the face, and when i do, i stutter more then a chainsaw,
the only 2 girls i can acctually look at "face to face"..(not through pictures :))))
are some one the cutest girls ive ever met, and you see thats the problem, hows a girl gunna out with a chainsaw? huh?
and the only time i got close to asking. is when she said she was going to a diffrent school (she only lives a few blocks away, but man, )
the other one, i sit next to nearly 4 times a day, and when i do, i could drain and fill all the oceans with my own sweat..(sorry if thats innapropriate (spelling)?

*EDIT*

ps, the one i sit next to 4 times a day isnt my sister..lol
i meant to add school..but il just add it here
ah, the joys and trials and tribulations and triumphs of puberty. You have nothing to worry about, I mean, ya you stutter, but you wouldn't be a guy if you didn't feel speechless when you say a cute girl or get butterflies in your stomach, I mean, it happens, just like boners! It's just one of those things that you fight through... Think about that Red guy from pearl harbor: he stuttered like shit and what happened? He got one hot piece'a ass. All I'm sayin is, rise above it, and push through and show her what you're willin to overcome for her.

[Ryhanna]

Hormones are funny little things, aren't they? :)

You just need to totally force the fact you're talking to someone good looking, or even that you're talking to a girl out of your mind. Just think of girls as people, not girls.

Good luck :)

[Aspiringanonymous]

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