I have questions for other gay guys...

[Gabriel Y.]

Ok I am gay and I have known for a while. I am 14 and I was wondering.... do gay guys mature faster then most straight guys? I feel like a lot of the straight guys i know (not friends) are insanely immature. I honestly cant help but laugh at some of the things they do. Is this normal? Or am I just more mature then other people my age... It seems I can just see all this and well, realize its stupid. Also, another question. I have a crush on this guy, Dan. We're both in choir and chorale (select choir) together, along with the musical. He is quite shy anyway, but he seems extra shy around me. He doesnt seem obviously gay, but he is more nervous to do what most of the other guys do at rehersal (straight guys too), grope each other cause its funny :P Especially nervous to around me. I havent come out yet so he doesnt know im gay and i seem VERY straight (to everyone including the very few i have told). Should I take a chance and ask him out? I dont know if he would keep it a secret if he isnt gay and knows I am... I dont think he would tell anyone, but I really like him and for gods sake I havent even come close to my first kiss yet. Any answers/suggestions?
P.S. It seems I understand love more then anyone else... is it even possible to love someone at my age?

[Skuzzy]

Sexuality has nothing to do with it
For other problem just go for it. Just don't try anything too fast.
Btw I'm 14 and have a boyfriend.

[Skeln]

Yeah, sexuality has nothing to do with it. Some people are just more mature than others. (Like me). I agree, just ask him if you really want to. And it is possible to love at the age of 14, but usually it's just infatuation.

[Gabriel Y.]

Sexuality has nothing to do with it
For other problem just go for it. Just don't try anything too fast.
Btw I'm 14 and have a boyfriend.

*burning jealousy* ^^ er... any suggestions on how i should talk to him? I obviously want nothing more then to kiss him but thats definitly coming on 2 fast :/

[Skuzzy]

Well just become his friend and just hang out, learn more about him and when you think the time is right just say hey we need to talk and just let it out hey I've had strong feelings for you and I want to know how you feel. Just go from there. Remember not to fast and go at his pace. You can't just go to a movie and start making out (unless he's that type of guy) and good luck. You can pm me if you need anything else.

[Antares]

Ok I am gay and I have known for a while. I am 14 and I was wondering.... do gay guys mature faster then most straight guys? I feel like a lot of the straight guys i know (not friends) are insanely immature. I honestly cant help but laugh at some of the things they do. Is this normal? Or am I just more mature then other people my age... It seems I can just see all this and well, realize its stupid. Also, another question. I have a crush on this guy, Dan. We're both in choir and chorale (select choir) together, along with the musical. He is quite shy anyway, but he seems extra shy around me. He doesnt seem obviously gay, but he is more nervous to do what most of the other guys do at rehersal (straight guys too), grope each other cause its funny :P Especially nervous to around me. I havent come out yet so he doesnt know im gay and i seem VERY straight (to everyone including the very few i have told). Should I take a chance and ask him out? I dont know if he would keep it a secret if he isnt gay and knows I am... I dont think he would tell anyone, but I really like him and for gods sake I havent even come close to my first kiss yet. Any answers/suggestions?
P.S. It seems I understand love more then anyone else... is it even possible to love someone at my age?

Well, I think on average gay guys are more mature than straight. Since gays have more of a...feminine...mentality (doesnt neccesarily mean they act that way) they are more mature espcially if you think that girls are more mature faster. Bottom line. Guys are immature. And its annoying.
Umm, ok. I know the type of people that you are talking about. They are very comfortable with their sexuality and such and I honestly think you should not ask him out. Eventhough he acts and may be gay (because he sings and acts as most actors are usually gay), I advise you to not. The reason is because you are in high school. You have time. And plus, it would put a lot of pressure on you if you went more...public and have PDAs. People arent really nice to gays. So that would be bad.

[Skuzzy]

^^well he doesent exactly have to publicly broadcast there relationship

[Oblivion]

Being gay has no affect on physical maturity, although the mental maturity may be stronger, since you may have had to think through it so much, and like who you are.
Most immature jokes, etc. come from a lack of self confidence, and lack of knowing who they are themselves.

Jut because he's shy and likes to sing doesn't make him gay :P
He's probably, like most teens, confused about his sexuality, and would probably reject the idea of going out with a guy. Most teens aren't as able to come out, and be gay, regardless of what others think.

Moved to teen sexuality.

[Gabriel Y.]

Well, I think on average gay guys are more mature than straight. Since gays have more of a...feminine...mentality (doesnt neccesarily mean they act that way) they are more mature espcially if you think that girls are more mature faster. Bottom line. Guys are immature. And its annoying.
Umm, ok. I know the type of people that you are talking about. They are very comfortable with their sexuality and such and I honestly think you should not ask him out. Eventhough he acts and may be gay (because he sings and acts as most actors are usually gay), I advise you to not. The reason is because you are in high school. You have time. And plus, it would put a lot of pressure on you if you went more...public and have PDAs. People arent really nice to gays. So that would be bad.

I hate to say that the steriotype about actors is kind of true... but honestly, my school and where I live... well most people here are very accepting of gays. I know of 8th graders who came out completely and they are just fine! That is the one thing that is not holding me back. If people are like that to me, then I would not ever be around them. If I came out right now, and if the guy that I want to ask out did as well, none of our friends would care. There are so many gay kids in our school anyway so its not something new. In the school of about 1400, i know of quite a few gay guys (more then 30). Of course I know it would make my life difficult, I would much rather be with someone I like that much and deal with annoyances and the pain from other people, then remain friends even if I dont have to deal with those annoyances. If I came out to my parents, neither of them would care at all and they have told that to my brothers and sisters and me alike. I do know that my life may be harder, but I would not change anything about my sexuality even if I could.

[Antares]

As an actor Nick, I am quite aware of the stereotypes on us. Also, I am quite aware of how theater kids act. They are very comfortable and like to play around and do things that are deemed "gay" as described by the OP.
Also, its a fact that a good number of male actors are gay. In fact 2 seniors came out last year and they were both actors/singers. So yea, its kinda a given.

To make it simple, if you are comfortable with people knowing and you living as a gay teen then ask him out. You have nothing to lose and will have no shame in your game.
However, if you are timid and don't really know, I would advise not to ask him out.
If you don't care about the consequences then ask him out! If he says no then whatever. Move on wiht your life.

[Gabriel Y.]

Well unless something happens and I out of nowhere change, I am pretty sure im gay. Later stages of puberty so i dont think it will happen :D Ok well I think im gonna try to ask him out... We'll see what happens! Thank you all for the advice :)

[Prince_of_Peace]

There is that invisible line called respect between two friends. Asking him to be a close friend does not cross those two lines. However, once sex is introduced, the two parallel lines will cross and could only be the end of a good relationship.

[jasoncannon]

Honestly, it's different for different people. I feel that some people are immature. It may be that you want to have sex more than others and that's why.