Awkward

[Yoofus]

Uh...
In my school you shower after gym. I haven't realy totally hit puberty i.e. a little hair but no voice or growth anywhere so its really awkward. I wait until most peole come out and then I shower in the corner, but I feel like people are looking at me. And there's this one guy that no one really talks to, has no friends, has come up to me and touched my butt while I was showering. Is he gay, curious, or trying to make me feel uncomfortable. The worst part is, the last time he did it I got an erection. I was so embarrased, waited until everyone left and was way late to class. Does this mean I'm gay because this happened? What if this guy tried to do something else?

[Vicarious]

First off, that does not mean you're gay. At the start of puberty and until the time you hit 18 (around there), erections tend to pop up (pun intended) in the worst situations possible. It is normal.

As for the guy grabbing your butt, I'd tell him that was unwanted, and ask him not to do it again. If he does it again, it's time to tell someone like a teacher or an adult about it. If it's unwanted physical contact, it's sexual harassment. Schools take those issues very seriously, and they would certainly punish the kid that's touching you.

Lastly, don't be embarrassed! It's your body, and everybody's body is different. You're at that stage of development where things can get a little awkward, but don't you think other people feel the same way?

Good luck with this.

[Oblivion]

You're not gay. Sexual stimulation is sexual stimulation. If a girl grabbed your butt, their hand wouldn't be any different.

As for showering, most schools give the option, but don't force it upon you.
Even if they did, I'm sure your teacher would understand it if you told them why you couldn't- they all went through puberty, and know the ups and downs, the laughs and jokes, and the bad stuff that can come from showering with others when you aren't comfortable with it.

As for the kid who grabbed your butt- you can either ignore it, and hope nothing else happens, or tell an adult, and have him reprimanded for essentially sexual harassment.

Moved to teen sexuality.

Oops. Forgot to add, i vote for choice 2. Leaving it until next time is never a good idea with sexual stuff.

[aid821]

nerves could've played a part in you getting an erection when the guy touched your butt, that being said, you shouldn't have to accept that from anybody. if he does it next time tell him to 'back off'. as for your development, it sucks the position your in at the moment, i wasn't exactly the earliest developer either and felt a little embarrassed and like you, quickly changed so noone could see me, but remember you WILL develop and catch up to your peers. oh and i don't see you as being gay..

[TurboDieselBandit]

Like every one had said, it does not make you gay but you could be curious. If you truly do not like it then you should ask him not to but if you did like it, you should think about experimenting with him. It looks like he really wants to and who knows, you could end up becoming one of his very fiew good friends.

[Lifeguard18]

it does not mean you are gay. if you want to do things ask. he could be curious and you could be too. if he likes you and he tells you, just think about it for a while and tell him how you really feel. if you dont say no if you do say yes

[staying_alive]

It doesn't sound like you're gay at all, and i wouldn't even go so far as to say curious. I think you should stick to what you're doing now, showering when and where you're as comfortable as possible under the circumstances, and tell that guy to back the fuck off if he does it again. Of course, are you sure it wasn't just an accident? Like he was walking by to stand in another shower and he just kind of hit your ass? Or did he grab it? Either way, a boner isn't out of the ordinary for that kind of stuff, but you shouldn't chew him out if it was just an accident.