Coming Out....

[rette_mich]

I am bisexual but absolutely NO one knows.
I was wondering how you came out to friends and family to maybe get some ideas.
Please share!

[Mzor203]

Well, before you do the actual coming out, you want to think about a few things. First of all, how important is it that peple know that you are bisexual? What kind o reaction do you think you will get? Not saying that you shouldn't come out, but if there's any reason you don't want to, remember that you are not compelled to do this. You could always wait until you're in a more accepting environment, like college. (Again, not saying you have to. Do what you feel is right.)

Now, once you have made up your mind that you want to tell someone, simply find an appropriate time, or take them aside, and say, "I have something to tell you," and proceed from there. It might seem hard, or scary, but the best way is to come right out and do it That will show them that you are confident with yourself, that you know who you are, and that you're ok with it, and they should be fine too. It might be a bit of a shock to some at first, but if they are your friends or family, they should come to accept it.

Good luck to you, and I commend you for deciding to come out to people. It's a big step for you. :)

[Gabriel Y.]

Well im sure its different for girls, but im gay and i've known for a while (im only 14 though). Best thing to do is to find someone (even if that someone isnt your closest friend) that you trust and would never tell anyone, and love you (as a friend of course) no matter what. I have not come out to more then 4 people yet. The 1st one I came out to was a girl that told me was Bisexual when she was in 7th grade, and I figured she would definitly support me. Next was a guy I was madly in love with. Wont explain the details but I talked to him in private (like rly private.... soundproof room in the back of the music hallway at school) and told him I was... and that I really did like him cause i couldnt get myself to say anything else. He was too nice to break my heart and actually started crying a little, but he did say that cliche "its not you at all, its me". We're still great friends and I run up and hug him every day ^^ Er sry got sidetracked. Bottom line, find someone to tell or you will collapse. It gives u someone to talk to about everything and trust me that is amazing.

[Skeln]

Just find the right moment (and people) and say what you have to say. Things might be weird for awhile, but it'll sink in and things will go back to normal. I hope it goes well for you, this is definately a big step for you!