what should i do?

[QuickQuart]

okay so last May (yes, almost a year ago), a group of people from my school went on an overnight field trip to New York City. we stayed at a hotel overnight and we were put in groups of 4 for rooming. in my room it was me, this guy who everyone thinks is gay (even though hes not), and two other people. once we were all in pjs and should have been going to bed, we played some joke-sexual games games just for a laugh (like pretending we were horny and pretending to do sexual things...as a joke. it wasnt real.) and stuff like that...just messing around for a while.

then we addressed the issue that there were four bodies and three beds in the room. so we somehow decided that i would have to share a bed with the guy everyone thought was gay.

so when we finally went to bed for real, we had just finished playing a game where you would go into a closet and make stupid noises to be suggestive and funny and we all kinda knew that we were all horny just cuz we were pretending to do sexual stuff...so we went to bed horny. anyway, once the other two people fell asleep, the guy in the bed with me grabs my hand, shoves it down his pants, and starts masturbating (using my hand). cuz i was curious, i keep jacking him off and soon we're jacking off together. we did some body contact stuff, but nothing serious. he tried to give me oral, but i didnt want him to.

anyway, now, almost a year later, i'm much further into puberty than i was back then and i'm even more curious. i would ike to try experimenting and i thought maybe the guy who i shared a bed with in NYC would be a good person to experiment with. my question is: is this a good idea? and how should i go about asking him?

sorry if this post is a little long =/

[notsure101]

It could be but if yyour friends with him it could ruin ur realationship with him

[QuickQuart]

oh yeah that's something I forgot to mention--we're not GREAT friends so no big friendships wud be ruined.

[Ender]

Go for it man

[byee]

This question (or some minor variation of it) comes up frequently here. Here's my take on it, FWIW.

There are 2 things you have to remember about 'experimenting'. The first (and probably the most important) is to remember that it involves another person, with feelings and needs and expectations. So, it's really important (and frankly just decent) to make really sure that his feelings, needs and expectations are in synch with yours, that you guys want the same stuff and are looking at this experience the same way. If you don't, if there's a diff, then someone will get very hurt. That's not nice, and it would get in the way of your 'experiment'.

The second thing to remember is that this 'experiment', like any experiment, yields data, the experience. "Experimentation' or 'curiosity' are often labels we use to justify doing something that we're not quite so sure is a good thing to do. However, like any exoeriment, it's not just about the experience, it's about the results. Which in this case are your feelings. And his.

If everything goes OK, and both of you walk away having gotten it out of your system, then it's OK, you've done what you needed and have your data: You don't really like this.

But also consider the possibility that you might like it. What then? Are you prepared to continue? Will this be OK for you? Doing something out of curiosity and liking it usually leads to future behavior.

And what happens if you and your friend have different experiences? Then what?

You can see why it's complicated. You may or may not decide to do it, but you might want to give some consideration for the results of the experiment, not just the urge that the curiosity stirs.

[Sceneboy612]

i think that if you want to "expirement" with this, then go for it, but i think that you should find out if this person is gay or bi now. Because if he is, he might think about it in the wrong way, it will be very ackward

[Hezzy]

Its up too you really but dont push him into it you could ruin your relationship (if your freinds with him of course).