how do i stop cutting

[ackmedsgirl666]

my cutting is getting rele bad
last nite was probs the worst i ever was
i had a horrible day
one of my who i thought was my good friend decided to assault me
my dad wants me to come back home
me and my friends aren't getting along
whenever im mad i cut
i can't stop and im scared of my foster mom finding out
what shud i do and who shud i tell??:mad:

[Bobby]

Moving To Self Harm.

[ackmedsgirl666]

well i dunno wut 2 do
im afraid of commiting suicide
and rele i don want to do that as i have a some what good life and my family loves me
but something just isn't right if i keep doing this

[byee]

There's too much stress in your life right now, you need to find some ways to alleviate that. There are a lot of other ways of dealing with stress, but the best ways are 1) Self control, and 2) Therapy. You can tell any adult what's going i for you, how you feel, and your cutting, show them your arms. If you cannot tell your folks, then tell the school guidance counselor, have a chat with hm/her. They can act as someone to talk with your folks and see that you get to a qualified therapist, who can teach you to deal with the stress in your life without hurting yourself.

Go.

[DarkWingedAngel]

well i dunno wut 2 do
im afraid of commiting suicide
and rele i don want to do that as i have a some what good life and my family loves me
but something just isn't right if i keep doing this
babe if you ever wanna talk you can always call me kay
i really hate seeing you like this
it puts in an off mood
i really hope you can work it out on the other hand
tomorrow we can see each other and talk all you want
*hugs*

[Destiny&Desire]

Hey

I'm really sorry to hear that things aren't going very well right now =[

There are tons of websites on Google which give advice on how to prevent self injury, and how to keep yourself safe, and this is one of them:

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/self_injury.htm

It just has general information about self harm, and tips on stopping nearer the bottom of the page.

Hope it helps =]
x x x

[BlackenedSilver]

Im so sorry that your feeling like this, But its good that you want to stop and want to get help.
I found this on a site and thought it was very useful! http://www.thesite.org/healthandwellbeing/mentalhealth/selfharm/stepstorecovery

But if you ever want to talk Im here, anytime Ill be happy to listen. :hug:

Step 1: Be ready to take the first step
For many people, recovery from mental health problems starts with a decision that they want things in their life to change. Perhaps the most important thing is to think about why you've started to self-harm in the first place and what purpose it serves for you. "Many people start self-harming when they're frustrated or depressed, extremely anxious, or feeling trapped because of a certain situation in their lives," says Frances McCann, senior mental health practitioner at young people's mental health service, 42nd Street. "It may be that you do it because you feel you're not being listened to and it's a way of dealing with stress without knowing what else to do." Addressing the underlying issues that lead you to feel low and self-harm may feel difficult - even impossible - but this is an important part of the process of recovery. You may need the help and support of other people to do this.

Step 2: Talk to someone
Confiding in someone else about the problems you are having is an important step, but if you feel you're not being listened to don't give up - seek alternative support from your doctor (GP), counsellor, helpline, friend, teacher, or family member. It may even be that the anonymity of online discussion boards will help you start to talk about your issues and give you the confidence to find more professional help. Some people may try and put you under pressure to stop but it has to be your decision - if you try to quit for anyone other than yourself you may not be able to.


Try talking to someone
You may also find it useful being part of a self-help group as it will allow you to discuss your feelings with others who understand where you are coming from and won't judge you. If you want to talk to someone in depth, then your GP may be able to refer you on for counselling or cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), or discuss whether it's worth trying certain medication.

Step 3: Find distractions that work for you and develop better coping methods
There are a range of coping tips and distractions that you can try to help you cope with stress, upset, anger or difficult feelings. "For some young people it may be comforting to call a friend, or watch a movie," says Frances. "Another one is to listen to music and get yourself moving - so it's a kind of distraction activity, but it serves another function as it's enabling you use that frustration in a different way."

Many people start self-harming when they're frustrated or depressed, extremely anxious, or feeling trapped because of a certain situation in their lives.

Step 4: Keep on keeping on
Stay with it - if you find that one approach isn't working for you then re-evaluate your options and try another. For example, if your GP has prescribed medication and it's not working for you, go back to your GP and let them know rather than just stopping. If the first time you speak to a counsellor it feels too hard, try and go a few times more before you make a final judgement about whether it is right for you.

You might find that alternative therapies are a good way of dealing with the pressures of life or help you to stop urges to self-harm. "Personally I prefer alternative therapies than popping myself with pills," says Ash, 16. "I use Reiki, head massage and crystals, and that really helps me, but it really depends on the individual and how your body and mind reacts to it."

What stopped other people who self-harmed?
"At the time that you are doing it, it may seem hard to stop, but if you keep working on it and get the help that you need, you will be able to," says Abbey, 24. "The best way is to get better coping skills in how to handle your usual stresses and triggers. Yes, you may have some relapses, I have had many, but all you can do then is to keep trying and trying and not give up. I was afraid that if I would keep doing it that I might cut too deep one time and I would bleed to death."

"My mood lifted for a while, and I simply stopped having the desire to do it," says David, 21. "Now I am tempted again, but it seems too much trouble to start dismantling the razor blades to use them, though I think that one time I will be so down that it won't. I have a theory that there's no such thing as an 'ex-self-harmer', just as there's no such thing as an 'ex-alcoholic' or 'junkie'. It's more an on-going battle than one with an end. Though it is something that can be beaten, slipping back now and again is not something to be ashamed and disgusted of."

If you don't feel ready to stop self-harming
If self-harm has become part of your life and helps you deal with your feelings it may be difficult to imagine coping without it. It's understandable that you may not feel ready to stop right now, especially as it may mean making a big change in your life. In the meantime, try to take care of any injuries you may have and see a doctor or nurse if you're worried that a wound may be infected. If you feel that your self-harm is getting out of control or that you are going to seriously hurt yourself - get help. Even if you've stopped and gone back to it, you should remember that a relapse doesn't mean that you've failed - you've actually started to make a positive step towards recovering, it's just that sometimes it can take a number of attempts before you can stop completely.

[ShatteredGlass]

Well i would tell your foster mom, if she loves you she'll want to help. And a good way to stop try making a list of the pros and cons of cutting and then read them and see which out weighs what. Try throwing out the blades you use most when you decide to cut. And set goals maybe say, i WILLNT cut for 3 days and then STICK to it and then make it 4 then 5 then 6, you get my point set goals, and make lists, it should help.

[ackmedsgirl666]

thANKYOU ALL FOR YOUR HELP
I WILL TRY HARDER NOW

[Eclipse]

I know I'm a little late but...here is my classic, shitty advice. :)
Make a list of times when you wanna cut, then make a list what to do during those times that would make the most most sense instead of cutting that would make you calmer. Also try 4 by 4 breathing. Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold it for 4 seconds, breathe out for 4 seconds, wait 4 seconds, then start the process again. It really helped me but then again I'm not a complicated person...