Cant fit all the way inside?

[Justin16]

I got this new girlfriend and like 7 hours ago we tried having sex the first time.

She is a virgin and I know she would be tight. I have had sex with a virgin before so have some experience.

However, my penis only got 3/4 of the way in and it made having sex awkward as I had to be careful. I tried getting it all the way in except everytime I would push further she would go "owww" as if she was hurting.

I asked my older brother and he said I just didn't do it right, and he said I should have pushed harder. He said sex isn't the most pleasant thing for a girl the first time, and that the first time will hurt and I should have gone all the way in first time so that the next time she will enjoy it.

Has this happened to anyone else and how did u fix it?

[Oblivion]

It will hurt for the girl the first time, especially if they never masturbate/rarely masturbate.
'Popping a girl's cherry' is a way some put it, where the girl's hymen breaks, the first time it is penetrated by finger or penis.

If it hurts to where she can't bear it however, it may be that your penis simply cannot fit all the way in. A vagina is only so deep- if the penis is longer, it won't fit in all the way.

Moved to Gen Puberty. Girls will have pretty good experience i would think.

[Justin16]

It will hurt for the girl the first time, especially if they never masturbate/rarely masturbate.
'Popping a girl's cherry' is a way some put it, where the girl's hymen breaks, the first time it is penetrated by finger or penis.

If it hurts to where she can't bear it however, it may be that your penis simply cannot fit all the way in. A vagina is only so deep- if the penis is longer, it won't fit in all the way.

Moved to Gen Puberty. Girls will have pretty good experience i would think.Yeah but I mean next time will it be safe to push harder like my brother said or would that damage her?

Because I think she was also disappointed it didn't go all the way in.

It ain't like I'm the size of a porn star, I'm only 7" long and 5" around, so kinda within the average that should fit inside a girl comfortably.

[Mzor203]

Are you using any form of lubricant? It might help you sslide in easier, but yes, it will most likely hurt the first time, so you have to take things very slowly. Just make sure if it hurts to much you ease up a bit. :)

[Justin16]

Yeah well because it was her first time I put some KY on my dick and a lot on the head so the lube would go further up her.

[Oblivion]

Well, you might ask her if she's ever masturbated before, so you will know if it's the hymen, or the end of the vagina. [I think? :P]
Anyways, like Rex said, lubricants might also help- if your penis got thicker at the shaft, it might get stuck at one point.

Other than that, take it slow the first time. Don't force anything, or push too hard.
If she's in major pain, leave off, and try again.

[sam234]

i agree with everybody,and i think the reason you are having trouble is that she might have a thick hymen wich could cause discomfort the first time the vagina is peneatrated.the only thing to do is talk to your girlfriend and next time you have sex lube up and break her hymen quickley or it will cause extreme pain or discomfort for her.remember its just like pulling a tooth.

[Atonement]

Whatever you do, if she says don't go deeper, don't. You need to respect her pain tolerance. push it to a comfortable max, and deal with it. She will get used to it, just don't force it.

[MidnightHorizon]

I don't think the hymen has anything to do with the depth in which the penis can go in. because the hymen is just a layer of skin protecting the vaginal opening, so onces its through there it depends on how big her vagina is.

Most vaginas (assuming) range from like 4-7 inches, the g-spot i only like 2.5-3 inchs in (for me) so you may be actually pushing into her cervix, which leads to the uterus. If you're pushing that far in then be careful, cause that can be very painful.

I think the best thing is to talk to her about it, communication is always good, and don't listen to your brother because if his only advice was to "push harder" (which could potentially put your girlfriend in pain) he doesn't really know what hes saying.

The last thing you want to do is hurt your girlfriend, just relax, talk and take it slow.

[Sapphire]

I don't think the hymen has anything to do with the depth in which the penis can go in. because the hymen is just a layer of skin protecting the vaginal opening, so onces its through there it depends on how big her vagina is.

Most vaginas (assuming) range from like 4-7 inches, the g-spot i only like 2.5-3 inchs in (for me) so you may be actually pushing into her cervix, which leads to the uterus. If you're pushing that far in then be careful, cause that can be very painful.

I think the best thing is to talk to her about it, communication is always good, and don't listen to your brother because if his only advice was to "push harder" (which could potentially put your girlfriend in pain) he doesn't really know what hes saying.

The last thing you want to do is hurt your girlfriend, just relax, talk and take it slow.
Couldn't have put it better myself.

[Justin16]

Could her vagina have closed up if she was nervous?

[Sapphire]

No, nervousness doesn't cause the vagina to "close up". Being nervous would have made her muscles tense and it would have been painful regardless of how deep inside of her you were.

[MidnightHorizon]

No, nervousness doesn't cause the vagina to "close up". Being nervous would have made her muscles tense and it would have been painful regardless of how deep inside of her you were.
agreed. it wouldn't make that much of a difference really.

and if it did, another reason why you should take it slow ;)