An Amazing Girl...

[Toasty]

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[Skeln]

1) Just be yourself. It's not that hard to just be the true you. Just think to yourself who you really are and show it on the outside of you. I have this problem as well...somewhat...inside and around my friends I'm cheerful happy and I'm very kind-hearted. But when I'm around peopel who bug me I look scared, weak, and like I have no friends. I'm working on it as well, and I'm starting to make some improvements. Just do your best to act the way you feel.

2) It takes time to build up a loving relationship. If she's rejected you so many times, maybe you should tell her that you care for her and that you'll wait until she's ready to start dating. It appears that she's just not ready to start dating from what you've said, so just don't push it. No one likes it when people keep on asking the same question over and over. Just give her time.

[IAMWILL]

Well...... I'm don't want to sound mean or odious here but you can't force her to do anything, and you cannot claim you are the best for her. I read what you said about caring for other people, but I do think you're getting a little carried away right now with your feelings for her. You just have to stay friends for now, simply. If she can't date you right now, she can't date you, and that's that. Your doing all you can, and face it, nothing more is happening. That's just life. Maybe the things you do to try to show more interest her and seduce (not trying to be used in an intimate way) her aren't things she finds seducing or interesting.

There is nothing really you can do here. You just have to live with it.

Hope I didn't make you: mad or sad or kinda bursted your bubble. Just trying to give the best advice I can.

[Clawhammer]

Just wait, you're both still really young. That's the best advice I'm willing to give right now.

[byee]

A few things. First, we have a few really outstanding 13 y/o's here and you're one of them. I'm not sure why you see yourself as negatively as you do, but speaking just for myself, I must say that your opinion of yourself is not only not shared by me, but is also not reflective of what your abilities and potential are. FWIW.

Second, I really never understood this misbegotten notion that love cannot be experienced until yo'ure a certain age, and always at least 5 years older than onesself. Love is a basic emotion, we're biologically programmed to experience it (although we have control over who it's directed at), so we can feel it at all ages. It's insulting to say to someone that they cannot feel any particular emotion, esp. love. If you feel love, it's love. No one can tell you what or how to experience any emotion.

Third, you are who you are, in addition to be that inner 'happy go lucky' guy, you're also prone to a bit of moodiness (what you're calling depression). Really sensitive people, those who experience a heightened awareness of their emotions, often are. This isn't necessarily a bad thing once you learn to control and harness it. Sensitivity is like the 'saturation' control on a pic program, it adds intensity and richness to life by adding a dimension that gives more detail and clarity to many situations. So, maybe you need to just adjust your emotional 'saturation' level. Don't spend too much time talking with your sweetie on this, it could freak her out. "Depression" is something that's often easier to experience than understand or explain.

Lastly, this idea of 'going out' is entirely overrated at all stages. Closeness is closeness, it knows no bounds and is not identified by a term like 'Going out'. If her folks won't let her formally date, then stay away from that terminology, it's just a phrase anyway. Enjoy the relationship and the closeness and let it evolve naturaly, without any formal (and frankly meaningless) labels.

Enjoy, you're well on your way, and probably doing much better than you're giving yourself credit for.

[Toasty]

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[Jordan...14]

Maybe you should ask her how she feels? or - dont ask her out - ask her how she feels, and go from there? possibly