How Do I Get Over Grief?

[The Dodge]

One of my best friends died in a car accident a week ago, and it's making me think of my brother who also died in a car accident about two years ago, and I had gotten over the grieving of my brother, but it took pretty much the whole two years since the accident, now it's like I'm grieving the death of my friend and brother, is there any way to get over the grieving?

[Mzor203]

Really the only way to stop grieving is to let it run its course. You can try to move on, try to put it out of your mind, but really it doesn't do a ton of harm, and grieving for your friend will probably be the best way to help you get over it. You'll probably find it easier to now that you've already experienced it once, but you'll have to wait and see.

Hope things go well for you, and I'm very sorry about your friend. :hug:

[Hyper]

Short explanation; You accept the reality of things and only then you can truly move on

[girlygirl]

i lost a friend about a year ago too... and only time can heal things, so you have to just stick it out, and it will get better with time..

good luck.. and sorry for your loss xx

[The Dodge]

Thank you all for your help.

[byee]

Oh, 360, very nice car. You have good taste.

Loss is a difficult thing, it hurts a lot. I'm really sorry for your losses.

When we lose someone very close to us (like a brother), and it's permanent (like a death), we often learn to adjust to the loss, but the feelings remain. You adjust, but you still miss the person, that doesn't go away.

So, when you experience other losses that are maybe not as close to you, it reminds you of the more significant loss of your brother. I think that's natural, the feelings are the same, eventhough the intensity might be a little different.

Treat your feelings of loss as you would any other injury that hurts. Be nice to yourself, pamper yourself, allow yourself to reexperience the feelings, and try to be with people who are understanding and supportive. With time, the intensity will diminish, and you'll get back to feeling your old self.

[alpha123]

I'm so sorry for your loss, there is only one great healer for grief and that is TIME. Do something to mark the passing of both brother and friend. Think about them daily and do not allow feelings of guilt. Then in good time, when you are ready, move on........

Thinking of you tonight.........

[darsh123]

this is life buddy ........... change is constant ....

so wat is gone is gone ..... but love the ones even more dearly ... !!!who r there with u now !!!