:confused::( ????????

[Halibut]

SO. i spent tonight with jordan and we were watching a movie cuddled up on the couch and i was laying on top of him and our friend josh(his roomie) asks him when he expects to get a phone call from the navie... i knew he was going to join but i did not think for a few years. and we have kinda working on our relationship and then go out again...so then he said im not sure. then i asked him when he expectd to go and he said as soon as he can and then i asked if there is a chance of him dyeing and he said yes...so i started crying ..the silent cry that comes from the heart..and i just wyped those tears away..then they got pretty bad so i just left to the bathroom and came back and continued. i was lying on him so he could not see my face but this really hurts like i dont want anything to happen to him and just im ereally care for him and this is really hard....

[Mzor203]

Aww... I'm sorry. But things happen, people move on, go places, do new things. If he's going to join the navy that's something you're just going to have to accept, and hope that things go well for him. Support him in whatever he does. I hope things go well for him. :)

[byee]

Wait, isn't this the same Jordan you broke up with, yet are still have lots of sex with?

Aside from the surprise of finding out he could be serving in the military and be at risk, I think the real issue for you is to decide which side of the fence you want to sit on. Right now, you're straddling the middle, being involved with him and still obviously caring for him, yet not officially committed ("going out"). maybe you and he should discuss and clarify where your realtionship is at, and therefore what the expectations should be.

Everyone does relationships differently, but clarity provides the boundaries needed to get what you need safely and consistently. Right now, it sounds awfully confusing, and maybe your response to him is the result of that lack of clarity and mutually agreed upon understanding?