Virginity

[Aneklusmos]

Ok so heres my thought....
Why is it that people find having or not having virginity such an important thing? To me its just one statistic out of many that describes someone. So what do other people think about this? Why is it that having "virginity" or not having it so important?

[Mzor203]

Really, I don't think it should make a difference, but many people make it out to mean something. I think that because our ancient ancestors had the urge to have sex, reproduce, and do well through that, losing our virginity is a point of pride for men because there's that instinct somewhere down there to spread our genes and give our family line more of a chance for survival. So, in all I think that it's really just a compulsive thing, and that people in our society have taken it and just blown it out of proportion.

As well, with the portrayal sex has these days in the media and our society, it just seems like something that everyone needs to do, and thus losing your virginity may be appealing in that way since you are fitting in with the crowd. It's stupid, but that's what it's come to.

[alsoknownas]

2 ways of looking at it.

Virginity is either a gift or just something you have to get rid of.

One way of looking at things.
Virginity is a gift so you wait for the right girl and have meaningful sex giving them your virginity, wopty doo.

second way, 1st time i have heard you just suck at sex (i wouldnt know still virgin) so you lose it on some girl you hardly know and have sex with loads of people to get better and have more experience.
then when the right girl comes along you show her the time of her life.

So gift or a hindrance.
you decide

[dyslexiaa]

For men, it's a rite of passage to lose your virginity. Until you do, you're pretty much a joke to everyone who already lost it. It's still rarely brought up, though.

For women, it can be a double-edged sword. A lot of girls who lost their virginity in my school are considered whores. I'm not sure how girls think of all that stuff amongst each other, so I'll let a girl cover that.

[AllThatIsLeft]

Virginity never meant much to me.
I didn`t lose it earlier in life why, because i wasn`t ready, and there is nothing especial about losing for just the fun of it.

i waited until my time came, and it was worth the wait.

[Sapphire]

It is a fairly big thing tbh with you - both now and earlier in history.
It has been a rite of passage in the past and I think that to an extent it still is.
When you have sex with someone, you are very vulnerable. They could hurt you in unbelievably horrible ways or make you feel fantastic and confident. Whether you are hurt or made to feel good, as with a lot of things in life, your attitude to sex will be greatly affected by your first time. This can have knock-on effects for decades.

[Halibut]

well when i was younger i was like omg omg you have s...ex(in a whisper) but here is the reason i think i was this way. because the rest of the world was so negitive and hushed and sex is a sin about it! but now i have to agree with you. and so what if a person is a virgin or not. it has nothing to do with them as a person!

[byee]

Who said it's important?

People who lack the ability to understand or appreciate others have to come up with some ways of forming an opinion, so they use these criteria to 'judge' others and fill in the blanks. And, like most judgements, they are more often reflective of the person doing the judging.

[MisterAndrews]

To me its just one statistic out of many that describes someone.

What a horrible sentence. Whether you have had sex or not doesn't change you at all. It should never be used to 'describe' someone. If you were giving a police statement you wouldn't say that the thief was: "6'4, blue eyes, skinny and quite clearly not a virgin" would you?

Virginity should not be used as a right of passage or a competition, it means nothing to a person's character at all.

[ShatteredGlass]

Well I know that one of the ten commandments would be not to commit adultery, which includes sex before marriage. So that would be why virginity is so important to me.