My Girlfriend...

[Buggahh]

Is excercising alot, she doesn't eat meat because she doesnt like the texture of it. She is barely eating or drinking anymore and she goes to bed, wakes up late and is still tired if not more tired than before.

The sleep thing is the same as me but im undergoing tets and stuff, I have tried making myself sick in the past and dont think i ever will again.

But im worried that maybe shes getting an eating disorder.. we live really far away from eachother, and i've never been happier but i couldnt bare it if anything were to happen to her or if she was to be rushed to hospital... I'm not sure what to do.

I've tried telling her to go to the doctors but she says she doesnt need to, maybe the next step is telling her mum, although she already knows :/ Any ideas?

Also she thinks that maybe making herself sick would be a good idea because then she would stop constantly feeling sick...
I'm really scared.

[Mzor203]

Let's take this in steps... first of all, do you know why exactly she isn't eating as much as she possibly should? Is her self-image bad, or low? Does she feel she is overweight? If she's already at a perfectly fine body weight, then her trying to lose more weight is probably a sign of an eating disorder. You need to talk to her about this and make her realize that losing weight when there is no cause is not healthy, and is a symptom of an eating disorder. She may just brush it off like before, but you need to try to get it through to her. Talking to her mom about it is another step to take that would be beneficial, if you can possibly do it. Even if her mom knows about this, making her aware of the urgency of the situation is important, as she is the one that can best help her own daughter.

As for the sleeping part of it, how long is she sleeping, exactly? If she goes to bed at a normal time and oversleeps, maybe that's the problem. I think everyone has a certain amount of sleep which is just right for them, like I find that about 8 hours of sleep makes it so that I'm refreshed and not tired in the morning. However, more than that throws me off. So maybe what she needs to do is try out different sleep schedules and then try to get herself into a regular one that suits her needs.

Now, about her wantning to make herself sick, no, that most likely isn't going to fix anything. Quite the opposite. You should tell her that, and make sure she understands that it'll only go downhill if she gets into that.

One thing that might help is to find a couple different resources on eating disorders, describing symptoms and other things which would possibly help convince her that she might be developing a problem. If you come at her with evidence, and show her that what she is doing is both not healthy and something that should get checked out, she'll have to accept that something is wrong. If you can open her eyes to that fact, things will get better.

I hope she starts to get better. It must be hard not being able to get it into her head that something's wrong when she needs some help, but stick to your guns and hopefully things will get sorted out soon enough.

[Buggahh]

She doesn't like the way she looks and wants to loose weight. She keeps saying that she's fine when clearly she's not but she just said to me that she's finding it hard to keep up with conversations and making conversations make sense. I have just looked up at the symptons online of bulemia and annorexia and I have noticed that she has some of them however not seeing her much means i cant work out exactly how many of the symptons she has:(symptons in bold she has)
Anorexia/Bulimia


Dramatic weight loss in a relatively short period of time.
Wearing big or baggy clothes or dressing in layers to hide body shape and/or weight loss.
Obsession with weight and complaining of weight problems (even if "average" weight or thin).
Obsession with calories and fat content of foods.
Obsession with continuous exercise.
Frequent trips to the bathroom immediately following meals (sometimes accompanied with water running in the bathroom for a long period of time to hide the sound of vomiting).
Visible food restriction and self-starvation.
Visible bingeing and/or purging.
Use or hiding use of diet pills, laxatives, ipecac syrup (can cause immediate death!) or enemas.
Isolation. Fear of eating around and with others.
Unusual Food rituals such as shifting the food around on the plate to look eaten; cutting food into tiny pieces; making sure the fork avoids contact with the lips (using teeth to scrap food off the fork or spoon); chewing food and spitting it out, but not swallowing; dropping food into napkin on lap to later throw away.
Hiding food in strange places (closets, cabinets, suitcases, under the bed) to avoid eating (Anorexia) or to eat at a later time (Bulimia).
Flushing uneaten food down the toilet (can cause sewage problems).
Vague or secretive eating patterns.
Keeping a "food diary" or lists that consists of food and/or behaviors (ie., purging, restricting, calories consumed, exercise, etc.)
Pre-occupied thoughts of food, weight and cooking.
Visiting websites that promote unhealthy ways to lose weight.
Reading books about weight loss and eating disorders.
Self-defeating statements after food consumption.
Hair loss. Pale or "grey" appearance to the skin.
Dizziness and headaches.
Frequent soar throats and/or swollen glands.
Low self-esteem. Feeling worthless. Often putting themselves down and complaining of being "too stupid" or "too fat" and saying they don't matter. Need for acceptance and approval from others.
Complaints of often feeling cold.
Low blood pressure.
Loss of menstrual cycle.
Constipation or incontinence.
Bruised or calluses knuckles; bloodshot or bleeding in the eyes; light bruising under the eyes and on the cheeks.
Perfectionistic personality.
Loss of sexual desire or promiscuous relations.
Mood swings. Depression. Fatigue.
Insomnia. Poor sleeping habits

I know that theyre not many but its still worrying :/ one of my sisters friends was annerexic and i know how horrible that was for her

[Mzor203]

This is a rather tough situation, but you need to keep at it. As I said, calling her mom would be a good place to start. Have you refered her to the lists of symptoms yet? It might be a good thing to show to her mom if you show her as well.

I can't give a very long reply right now, but you just ave to keep talking to her about it, show that you're worried, and hopefully get something through to her.

[Tommie]

sounds like she needs some iron

[Buggahh]

i need iron too haha
my girlfriend is no longer my girlfriend
last i heard her mum had said she was fine and that she should have a target of weight to loose a week :/

[MaDeYoUlOoK]

Oh that's sad. Well I hope everything goes well for your ex.