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mexa
February 24th, 2009, 12:21 AM
I don't know if this goes here but I suppose making mistakes you learn.

So in school we all have like our friend group, well at least mine, sports guys, weird girls or whatever you understand me. My point is...well i cant get to the point just yet let me elaborate first.
So in my class, or however you call it (im mexican btw its kinda different here) I've got 2 different groups of friends, one is the skater(lets call it A) and the other one is the videogame player, responsible and possibly nerdy(lets call it B) which is the one I relate to the most. So I usually try to sit in between both groups to talk to both, but sometimes B bugs the HELL out of me, usually their just joking but it really gets into my nerves, also they usually call me the leader or something, they follow me around and so but theres this guy that my friends in group B in which this friend (call him C) which seems like both group A and B hate/ dont like around or just dislike him, so usually when im around him they go away from me :( and leave me to stick around with him, he isnt THAT annoying but sometimes he really gets into my nerves too cause he usually says stuff that come out of NOWHERE like we're talking about parties or something and he just comes up with some game or movie crap, just like this other friend (call him D) hes got this addiction to runescape, he wont stop asking for tips and other sort of annoyances, I even tried to get him out of the addiction by sending him some sort of guide to quit MMORPG's (not that i have anything against runescape, it just bugs me the hell out that D keeps asking for tips while i cant enjoy the damn game cuz he keeps bothering me). Also I try to spend equal time with both groups, but when I stick around with group B my selfsteem goes down like a bomb for some reason, but if i go to group A out of nowhere they usually just send me to hell, even though they DO call me leader, as if they were envious of me or I might even scare them, even though theres no reason for them to, im usually a pacifist, ive never fought anyone else in my whole life (im 14) which im proud of, but i see no reason for them to reject me so badly even though ive been with them for 3 years (as i said school here is a bit different).
So my questions are how to deal with all, with friend C and D and how to deal between both groups, i know its never a good idea to change friends to i need really good advice, or at least someone trying haha.

Thanks to all in advance (gosh that was kinda long).

Triceratops
February 24th, 2009, 12:11 PM
Okay, I'll try :)

You are lucky to have a lot of friends and you do have a busy social life.
Balancing out group A and B is good and you should continue to do that. When group B annoys you with their certain jokes or following you around, may be you should tell them about it, lightly.
So how exactly do group A and B make your self esteem low? Like what do they do to make you feel like this?

With friend C, when the other groups leave you with him, take this as an opportunity to spend a little time with him as he is your friend and you need balance out all these different friendship groups. Whenever he completely changes the subject, let him say his bit and then reply "Okay, back to parties..." or whatever you're talking about. Or you can tell him that you don't want him to change the subject or just go with the flow (by that I mean just discuss whatever he's talking about).

With friend D, if he keeps bugging with this Runescape, tell him about it and also state that it annoys you. Don't say it harshly, just tell him politely. Try and help him to find other interests or hoobies which will distract him from Runescape.

I'm sorry if this is no good, but I hope everything does well :)

mexa
February 24th, 2009, 10:04 PM
Okay, I'll try :)

With friend C, when the other groups leave you with him, take this as an opportunity to spend a little time with him as he is your friend and you need balance out all these different friendship groups. Whenever he completely changes the subject, let him say his bit and then reply "Okay, back to parties..." or whatever you're talking about. Or you can tell him that you don't want him to change the subject or just go with the flow (by that I mean just discuss whatever he's talking about).

With friend D, if he keeps bugging with this Runescape, tell him about it and also state that it annoys you. Don't say it harshly, just tell him politely. Try and help him to find other interests or hoobies which will distract him from Runescape.

I'm sorry if this is no good, but I hope everything does well :)

well...yeah i do try that with friend C but he just keeps doing it -.- and with friend D i HAVE told him it bugs me, so has another of my friends that used to play it, but he doesn care :( thanks for the advice though, maybe i need something "deeper"/"more complex"...no wait the complex thing isnt such a good idea >.<

IAMWILL
February 25th, 2009, 08:12 PM
Ohhhhhhhhh mmmmmmmaaaaaaannnnnnnnn I remember playing Runescape....... long time ago...........

Well anyway here you can't do much to stop D and C from annoying you. You committed to being friends with them, and you must accept and face the consequences. Friends can get annoying, but it will taper off. You'll probably loose interest in Runescape soon though, that game gets boring and asdfjhalkwjehnsfkjahsdjfkskjd QUICK. Hope i helped.