Some questions...

[weebananas]

Well, my best friend stayed over my house last night. We were having normal conversation, and headed to bed late. We both slept in a twin bed. I asked him if he minded me taking my shirt off, he said he didn't. Then he asked if he could take his off, and I said it was fine. He was like "Wait man, I gotta tell ya something." Then I told him go ahead. He was like "I think I might be gay..." It was silent for a moment, and then I started telling him how just because he thinks men are hot and stuff it's okay. Then he said it's emotional too, and then I told him I thought I was gay. Well, we just confessed, and it was pretty nice. He told me that he had feelings for me, even when he thought I was straight. This might be bad, but... I smiled, then just practically ponced on him. Then, we just had some hardcore sex lol

...Is that bad? I feel really, really, bad.

Another thing, I noticed that he had zits on his ass. Not really pimples, but just red dots all over. Does he have an STD? I'm kinda scared.

[adam dockery]

naw its not a bad thing. But i dont think it was an STD, many std's that have symtoms have sort of open sore, he problay just had ass acne, lol

[Mzor203]

It really doesn't matter WHAT kind of sex it was, gay, straight, lesbian, but two friends just randomly having sex like that isn't ok. Especially as I'm pretty sure you guys had no protection. Really, you shouldn't just jump into sex like that without developing an actual relationship before hand, as, pretty much it's just going to end badly. Now, you may have been friends, but neither of you were quite used tot his idea yet, and now it's showing. You say you feel guilty? Well, that pretty much shows that it wasn't a smart idea.

Now, as for the 'zits', who knows exactly what they could be. They could be just that... zits... or they could be something else. The only way to know for sure is to ask him if he knows, and if he doesn't, he would need to see a dooctor about it.

[adam dockery]

wow Mzor, could u be any more of a prick? im sorry, but most sex just happens, its not a thing u have marked down on a calender, or you have it planned out. So just ask the kid if hes ever donr anything with anyone, if no (wich thats wat im guessing) then u have nothing to woory about. But mzor does actually say somethin smart, if u fell bad about it then well, dont do it again. but i can tell from wat u explained that u liked it. and he didnt say he feels guilty, he sad he feels bad, but who doesnt feel bad about somthing about that

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

I think what Rex said made a lot of sense. He didn't say to plan it all out, just to think before you act. If you pounce on your best friend (especially since it seems like they'd never discussed this sort of thing at all before), you can't expect things not to change. Not that the relationship is screwed or anything, but truly random sex (not merely spontaneous) can have some after-effects in the morning.

Bananas, I think you need to decide how you feel and talk to your friend. If you ignore this, you'll probably just keep feeling awkward. If you two decide not to let this go anywhere, that it was a one-time thing, cool. You can go back to being friends. If you decide to make something of it, make sure it's not just based on sex. That'll just make you feel weird later on, too.

It's not uncommon for acne to spread to the back, even the lower back near the buttocks region. Herpes doesn't really present that way, and if this kid hasn't been sexually active in the past there's nothing to worry about. If he has though (or you suspect he might), ask him about it just to clarify. This why Rex and I are saying random sex isn't always good: you don't always think about those kind of things, you just go with the heat of the moment.

[weebananas]

Well, it wasn't THAT random. We talked for a little while while we were laying down, I put my arm on him. He giggled, and I just put my whole body on top of him and we cuddled for a while. It was mutual, and we do kind of have a relationship now... He told me that he loves me, and I feel the same way. We both felt this way about eachother before, just didn't admit we were gay before then. It makes me really happy.

I just feel really guilty, because it just gradually turned into sex.

Thanks for the reassurance on the zits lol

How many guys have zits on there ass approximately? I know it's kinda common, but I dunno.

[byee]

Let's do some simple math, maybe a Venn diagram type thingy!

Self disclosure------------->closeness. The more personal the disclosure------------------------->the more intense the closeness. The more intense the feelings------------>the greater the liklihood that those felelings will initially be expressed thru a behavior.

When people disclose something about themself, we often feel closer to them as a result, there's something about knowing things about someone that gives a feeling of greater closeness. And, the more personal the disclosure, the more intense the feeling, especially when it's somethung we can readily identify with.

So, in your case, finding out that your friend has the same feelings and same orientation as you made you feel very close to him probably in a way you never experienced before. When people feel close that way, when it's sudden and new and intense, often it gets expressed thru some behavior, and often, without much thought, it's like an urge or impulse. Hence the sex.

What you discovered afterwards is that after the urge gets expressed, the thoughts about it come up. There's often a lag btw'n the way something is felt, and the way we think about it.

So, what you might want to do now, esp. that you and your friend are sharing stuff that is pretty close anyway, is to talk about the thoughts and the meaning and the feelings, and the plans for the furure of how you want to address all this new stuff. That way, whatever happens is the result of some thought and planning, rather than just urge and impulse.

Oh, the question about zits. Yeah, you can get zits anywhere you have skin, so tushy zits are possible and fairly common. Like any other zitty part, there's treatment for it, too.

[nick]

If it felt right to you then don't let anyone else tell you its not. Obviously you should make sure you're doing safe sex although if you're both new to the game the risk would be very low. It sounds like a lovely experience.

Spotty bottoms are very common

[Donkey]

1. I think it's fine, if you were experimenting.. but hardcore sex is slightly far if you're under say, 16ish? So yeah. It's your decision but it probably wasn't a great idea.
2. It's your choice if you want to do it again and if you feel comfortable with it, but I wouldn't go as far as hardcore sex like you did this time.
3. Bottom spots = normal. I had them when I was younger. It's not an STD. If you do catch them, talk to your doc. Shouldn't be too complicated.

[weebananas]

Well, I talked to him today. I todl him I was osrry for what happened. I asked him if we could take it a little slowly, and I did really liek him, but I knew it wasn't right to go so fast.

Now we're better. :]

Honestly... I find the zits kind of disgusting. I feel kind of bad, but I don't want to feel them when I'm sqeezin his ass... How could he get rid of them? Would some acne wash just work? I asked him today and he said he washes his ass with regular soap and it doesn't work.

[Silent]

ive never heard of acne there or zits :|

[Hollywood]

hey two friends doing that is all right
its just the way it works at this age
i have ass acne too so its normal :)
at times i wanna do that to my bud too, its okay