Discontent

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[Mzor203]

Well, when you're saying this, is it really a relationship you feel you seek? Or are you not feeling complete because you aren't sexually active? My thoughts on this are pretty much, don't do stuff that could end with disastrous consequences unless you're with someone you actually love. You're smart enough that you don't want to get an STD, you're trying ot maintain your morals, stick with that. There really isn't any reason you HAVE to get into a relationship.

If you're just feeling lonely, well, it doesn't hurt to maybe get out there and search for a person. But do it with the intention of looking for someone you love, block out everything else that might affect it, such as sex.

So, if you really want someone, find someone. But if you're just bored, well, that isn't the best reason to be searching.

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[Mzor203]

So, in other words, you're feeling some nostalgia for your 'previous life'? Well, I can't influence your decisions, but I just want to say that, quite frankly, it isn't a good idea. Getting wasted, having sex, yadda yadda is not going to help you in any way when you already have psychological problems on top of that.

Are you worried about going back to that? Are you afraid of adopting that kind of lifestyle once more? Or do you just not care? I'm just having a little trouble understanding what it is you do or do not want to do. Really what I think is best is to just block those things out of your mind while you're going through this phase in your life. Get your life sorted out, deal with the problems at hand before you create any more for yourself. Drinking might seem comforting to you, but it isn't going to lead anywhere good in the end.

If you are feeling like something is missing in your life, let that be something that spurs you on. Maybe when you're feeling better about things you can get into a meaningful relationship, and that might help fill some of the emptiness. But focus on what you have to do right now, as if you deal with the psychological problems you'll be better off.

Maybe I'm missing something here, if I am I'm sorry, there'll be someone else who can probably give you more advice.

[adam dockery]

i think i understand what your saying. And what i think, now i could be wrong, but the reason u were active so young was because u were sexually abused (if u dont mind me saying) and because u starting being active so young and then u quit, im gonna reference it to something, like smoking cigarettes, if u've been doing it for a long time and then quit, ur gonna have some with draw symtoms, if that makes any sense.Thats my personal opinion , now if u u r serius about wanting a relation ship, then just go out with a girl u could see yourself with later in life, and make sex a farther down the road thing. About the abuse, i dont know how to help u there, u could try a therapist, but i dont think it works, so just find someone u can talk to about it, it makes u feel better, and u can PM me if u wanna talk, hope i helped,