rebelling?

[AllThatIsLeft]

That is exactly what i feel like doing.

my mom is trying to control me again, and there is no privacy. I made a video, which I WAS NOT going to post anywhere. because i decided that it just wasn't worth showing that.

and she saw a few seconds of it, and i would not show it to her. It was not her business, and this is what she tell me. "I don't believe anything you say anymore", so she took away my laptop, and refused to give it back until i showed her.

of course i didnt, and the only reason i have it back, is because i have homework. but! also maybe because, she already got a taste that i don't stand being controlled and will not be her sweet daughter if she treats me like some troubled teenager.

SHE wants me to trust HER? when She wont trust ME? I dont think so.

well, i am at the edge of rebellion, and boy it won't be pretty.
but i am sick of this, i am old enough to make my own decision, and this "you are still my daughter" BS is getting old.

[byee]

Paula, you and your mom need to come to some kind of understanding about things, and 'rebelling', although appealing b/c you think you're fighting back against her perceived unreasonableness, isn't the way to establish a better understanding and relationship. Rebellion begets rebellion, and since you want stuff from her, you're in the losing position here, sorry to say. This isn't a fight to fight, you have much more to lose than her.

When things are calm and going OK, maybe you and she can start talking about what you need and want, and how she can help you. Not demanding, just a convo btw'n two reasonable people. Talk to her like the adult you want her to treat you like.

I think it's hard for a lot of adults to see their kids as becoming adults, it must be difficult for them to make the adjustment. But, if you approach it like an adult yourself, I think there's a better chance of you getting her to see your side of it.

[AllThatIsLeft]

i know Sam.
But the thing is, I will not stand this treatment when my sister (which is a lot worse than me) gets away with EVERYTHING.

i am not some trashy, sex-crazed, drug addict alcoholic teenager, and i do not want to be treated like one.

i don't want to be told everytime i go out, "don't go anywhere else, I know you"
like i sneak out every friday to get wasted or high.
because i dont.

and she should know better, if she does by now, she will see that i am not the sweet thing, that doesn't answer back.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

If I may ask, what kind of video were you recording?

As you probably know, I've made tons of youtube videos, most of which are just me talking on camera and expressing my opinion on a variety of topics. The thing is, my mother has never seen ANY of my videos, let alone even knows about my youtube account. My father knows, but he's a much more open-minded person that really couldn't care less (he appreciates my freedom of expression).

But some of the things I talk about (i.e. my atheism) would shock/freak out my mother. However, due to the nature of the videos I do have quite a bit of "ammunition" that I can use to argue against her. All I'm doing is expressing my views and beliefs, and to HELL with what she thinks. She can say she's my mother all she wants but she will NOT be able to silence me when I have a viewpoint she doesn't happen to agree with.

Now.... if the video was of a more... risqué nature then you could be in trouble :eek:

[AllThatIsLeft]

meh i was just dancing.
but the fact that i was wearing a skirt and spanish dancing isn't exactly conservative. she freaked out. it wasn't even that bad, but i she shouldn't be snooping on my stuff.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

meh i was just dancing.
but the fact that i was wearing a skirt and spanish dancing isn't exactly conservative. she freaked out. it wasn't even that bad, but i she shouldn't be snooping on my stuff.

Ok that really isn't that bad; it would be the same as if I was caught dancing/singing to a song and someone walked in on me. There's no reason for her to freak out like that, but unfortunately views on this is kinda sexist you know, since you're a girl you "obviously were out to put yourself up on the internet for predators to find you". That's bullshit.

[AllThatIsLeft]

exactly my point.
but she knows me better than that. or i thought she did. :(

[Skeln]

Hmm...just discuss things with her. Tell her that you think it's unfair how she treats you and that you wish she could trust you more. It's not nice having a parent not trusting you, I know that through personal experience. Just try to explain to her your feelings.

[postloveaffliction]

Same here =.= im also at the edge of rebellion. Sometimes I just cant stand my mom. She's so unfair. With everything. Im not that kind of girl who likes to confront their mom whenever they have misunderstandings.

For me it's really tough to confront my mom. But the important thing is that daughters and mothers should have an extremely close bond to avoid things like these. But I guess nowadays it's quite impossible for some.

[Zephyr]

Please don't bump old threads.

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