Is this a good time?

[HOLEinyoursoul]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for about four months... would this be a good time to ask her about sex? how should I confront her about it?

[Ninja Noob]

Well, since I just made a topic on this, I have an answer!

Does she feel comfortable about it and has she talked about it? And how far have you two gone?

[HOLEinyoursoul]

We are constantly making out and stuff. We've briefly talked about it...

[Maverick]

4 months isn't very long at all. I don't think its a good time because a good time is when you are completely sure about it with no doubt in your mind.

Are you ready to accept the responsibility of a possible pregnancy? Have you guys discussed on what would happen to the baby, such as abortion, adoption, or keeping it?

Should the condom break, are you going to be using birth control as back up? Or do you have access to the morning after pill?

These are real questions that need to be answered before you start having sex. A lot of people do not though and mistakes and accidents can happen that they have to live with for the rest of their life. You don't have to make the same mistakes. Discussing everything and having it all out in the open can save you a lot of headaches in the future.

Constantly making out doesn't mean you are ready for sex. Making out is light compared to the physical and emotional consequences of sex. 14 years old is too young. I know you are not ready.

[byee]

If you have to ask a bunch of strangers, the answer is no.

Sex is a big step, it's not just about getting laid, it's about a lot of emotional things as well. Typically, those aren't determined by time, but by connection. When people feel well connected, the convo comes up naturally, and the answer is pretty obvious. But that takes some time, often more than 4 months.

So, eventhough 4 months might seem likem a long time, and you're eager to experience sex, if you have to ask us, then the answer is that you're probably not there yet, that the relationship isn't as advanced as it should be to have meaningful sex.

[HOLEinyoursoul]

thanks you guys. especially maverick. like the new signature? Kimya Dawson. See, not only do i like goth rock but light stuff too. :P

[ILOVEYOU]

Do Whatever you like, its your life, you make it and you destroy it. ask her "when you like to lose it?" and it will be a good start.

[adam dockery]

not very good advice from ppl, 4 month may be two short or it may not , it depends on if u love eachother enough, and you have both accepeted wat might happen, but goin from makin out to sex in my opinion is a pretty big leap, u might wanna try other things leading up to it, then you'll find if u still are in love

[Ninja Noob]

Well just ask her if shes comfortable about it. One day it will happen and you will be glad you didn't have to ask. You will probably have to make the move. When you're making out, try to caress her sexually, then try to take off her shirt. If she says no, move on. It may be awkward but just joke it off.

[nick]

When you're making out, try to caress her sexually
I thought that's what "making out" was, sorry, this is a bit of a US expression which us dumb colonials don't understand. Please explain.

In answer to the question, I don't think you can set an arbitary time limit and say like its been 4 months therefore its ok. You should both find you know when the time is right, and if you find you're having to push to much then she's probably not ready for it.

[adam dockery]

^^
gerontious
making out is the same as french kissing..


ninja noob made a good point, sex isnt really something u ask her about. with me and my girlfriend it just kinda happened. You'll both no wen the time is right

[Ninja Noob]

I thought that's what "making out" was, sorry, this is a bit of a US expression which us dumb colonials don't understand. Please explain.

In answer to the question, I don't think you can set an arbitary time limit and say like its been 4 months therefore its ok. You should both find you know when the time is right, and if you find you're having to push to much then she's probably not ready for it.

Making out is just 'french kissing' (I hate that term, you'll never hear that out of me often) really. Not really like touching her breasts and such.

[HOLEinyoursoul]

Do Whatever you like, its your life, you make it and you destroy it. ask her "when you like to lose it?" and it will be a good start.
I think I like ILOVEYOU's way better. I will still take Maverick's cautions into consideration though. Thnx. But seriously. Like the new signature? Gotta know. Kimya Dawson is amazing same with Moldy Peaches.

[ILOVEYOU]

let us know how its going dude. Good Luck

[HOLEinyoursoul]

yep :P