Age difference and a kid?

[metaldeathhorse]

Okay, so I'm 15. And this girl that wants to go out with me (and that I want to go out with) is 17. We know each other pretty well for the month that we've known each other, and all my friends say that we should go out. But... one problem: She has a two-month-old baby, of which the father decided not to take responsibility, and I'm not sure what to do if we did go out. Would I have to be responsible for this child? Or would it just be like if she didn't have a kid (other than the obvious things she can't do, such as go out when she had to take care of her baby.) Anyways, I'm just looking for some advice on what I should do please.

[byee]

Well, a small child is a complication that would need to be discussed. You'd need to hear her expectations, and then respond to those and see if it's OK with you.

[Rynokidd]

Yes is right. But it is all about what you want to do. If you feel that having tobput a hand in taking are of this baby, you shouldn't go out with her. But if she needs help and can't do this alone, you being there mght provide her comfort and make it easier for her.

[Gumleaf]

Well, a small child is a complication that would need to be discussed. You'd need to hear her expectations, and then respond to those and see if it's OK with you.

i agree with sam. but in the initial dating stage, the child shouldn't be a concern. you should be more focussed on whether you are suited together. then if the relationship develops further, then you talk about the expectations and stuff that goes with it.

[metaldeathhorse]

Okay, so if you don't mind me posting another question, what would be the best way of going about asking her what her expectations of me would be?

[byee]

How about: "OK, what are your expectations of me?"

it's Ok to ask questions straight out, esp. when there are obvious reasons for them (like a small child). It seems awkward b/c the situation (the baby) is awkward. The best way always to deal with something awkward or unexpected or unusual is to address it directly.

[metaldeathhorse]

Okay, so I asked her about it, and she said "It's my kid, not yours, so it wouldn't be your responsibility" It doesn't really matter now, though, because she's going out with someone else now. . .

[GiZzLe]

awww...srry. :'(
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