Ok tonight...there was this girl

[pokerface]

I was at a friend's birthday party tonight. It seemed like it was going to be fun, but I wasn't sure. I hadn't seen all of my friends in a week, because we've been on holiday (Winter Break). Well, one girl that I'm not really close with showed up. A really nice, well brought-up girl from a good family. We were talking and somehow we ended up in our own little group behind the couch. I guess we were just talking about nothing, really. My friend decided to watch The Exorcism of Emily Rose. We were sitting together on the couch, and I guess we were getting close. She was cold, and I made some remark along the lines of "I'd give you my hoodie, but then I'd be cold." She laughed and stuff, and we continued with chat like this all night. Because she was still cold, we ended up sharing a blanket. It was nice, I guess. I got my number into her phone by using some lamo line like "Let me molest your phone for a second." Again, she laughed. So now she has my number. I think we had a connection, because when her mom texted her asking her if she was ready to go she replied "not now. 30 mins plz" when I was the only person she was talking to. Neither of us were really watching the movie. We never kissed or held hands or even blatantly cuddled, but idk. I get this feeling like something happened.

Soo.... The reason I'm posting is obvious. I think I could like this girl, and I think she could like me. If you guys would wanna help me sort out this whole thing, I'd really appreciate it. I have an ex that's in a different school, but is still not over me at all, and there's two other girls that I like. I haven't seen them in a while, so I'm not sure of my feelings.

[Sage]

Good lord, get to know the lady first. Don't just try to get into something right off the bat. Become friends first man, then tell her how you feel. Rome wasn't built in a day.

[Mzor203]

So, it sounds like you're a bit scattered right now. If you think you like three different girls, and you've broken up with a girl who's still not over you, you need to slow down a little bit and evaluate your position a little more carefully.

One thing that might help, is just to give things a little bit of time. You like different girls, but when it comes down to it, you can only go out one, so you need to let your thoughts sort themselves and really think about who it you actually like, who you should be focusing on, etc. Going on things mostly by impulse without ever really getting to know the girls is a little iffy. Spend more time with them, see which of them you actually want to be friends with.

I think since you're a teen, hormones are playing a large part in all of this right now. You can't control hormones, but you can try to break out of their grasp and evaluate things without your vision being blurred by them.

Hope things start to become more clear to you. And remember, dating isn't always a necessity! If you find yourself like this, sometimes it's just a sign that you should take a bit of a break.

[pokerface]

Naw. I know that dating isn't a priority. And it's not like I don't know the girl. I've just never looked at her in a romantic way before. She's absolutely gorgeous (imo) and smart, too. All of the girls that I talked about are what I consider to be good friends, so that's out of the way. It just seems like I always put myself in the friend zone before I ever had a chance for more. But with my group of friends, I wouldn't complain :) because they aren't ugly at all.

[Archer600]

Just go for it u like her and she likes u.

[MarineCorps]

Solidify your base dude. You like three girls. Make a PRO/CON list of them each. I would recommend that you do nothing with the ex as that never ends up well, I've had alot of experience on that topic. Then really think about what you want to do and get to know them both, then revise the list. Then make your decision, don't rush broski

[pokerface]

Thanks. Just an update, though. One girl, this hot mixed-race girl who's new to the school is off the table. She likes somebody else from her old school, and I don't want to invest my energy in something that has no point. One girl is just not into me like that, but we are such good friends that I don't want to mess it up. That narrows it down to the preppy girl from a good family. I'm not complaining with that scenario. I'll keep things updated as it goes on. I'm thinking about maybe forming a casual group for a movie on Friday, and I'm going to invite her. From what I can see, I think she felt the same connection I did, because every time I turn around, she's staring at the back of my head (she sits at the lunch table behind me). I'll just let it play out.

Thanks for all of your advice, guys.

[AllThatIsLeft]

looks like you got something working for you. I say try talking to her during school, and see how she reacts. Keep talking to her, and if things start to openly become more intimate ask her out :)

[pokerface]

*UPDATE*
Movie plans for tomorrow :) Hopefully it all works out.

[Jordan...14]

Nice one, good luck with that. I'm sure if its meant to be (not that i believe in that crap, sorry if you do) then its meant to be but the best way is to maybe drop hints. In the cinema sit next to her and if she puts her hand on the hand rest put your on her and see what she does. Just a suggestions

[AutumnDae]

*UPDATE*
Movie plans for tomorrow :) Hopefully it all works out.

Awesome! Obviously she wants to spend time with you, or else she wouldn't be going to the movies! Please....the old 'pretend to yawn so I can put my arm around you' is a little bit old and cliche. At least in my book.

[GiZzLe]

REMINDER: (gizzle's fwend) i think she likes u 4 sure. u should try to hold her hand.......i think she would like it. btw, has she ever had a bf before??? or been in a relationship???:lol:

[pokerface]

**UPDATE 2**
Didn't go because she got really sick that day. It was sad, but I'm trying to rearrange it for next weekend. Right now I'm just kind of torn. If I pursue her, then I might strain the amazing relationship I have with my friends. She's not part of *our group* (it's exactly as bad and snobby as it sounds), and they might not really like her friends. I've asked, and they have no problem with her. Their issue is with her friends.

Well that's just an update. I should probably start making this a blog or something, because I'm sure the Mods don't appreciate me rambling on in an ongoing thread.

As always, any advice is greatly appreciated.

[AllThatIsLeft]

you shouldnt decide that based on your friend's opinion, in the end, it is what you want.
Keep trying :)

[Jordan...14]

I have that exact same problem with my the girl i Like as we're such amazing friends. Good luck whatever you chooset to do and if you dont mind letting me know what you do and what happens I'd appreciate

[Vicarious]

Definitely become friends first. I made the mistake of hooking up with a girl at a party I had only met once before. Turns out she had a history of cheating...I didn't find out until it was too late.

Obviously, every situation is different. But, try to get to know her a bit better first.

[TAC1]

Good lord, get to know the lady first. Don't just try to get into something right off the bat. Become friends first man, then tell her how you feel. Rome wasn't built in a day.


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