worried sick.

[iplaycounterstrike]

hi, this is my first post and i would like serious answers only. also please take the time to read, im literally sick thinking about it. let me tell you a little about me:

-im 17, turning 18 in june
-never had a girlfriend
-never kissed a girl
-and obviously a virgin

i have always masturbated thinking about women, looking at nude women and so on. i have never thought about men or anything else. about a week ago i woke up and randomly thought, "what if i was gay?" this stuck in my head, and put me into depression. i havnt ate, i have no appetite or anything. i even shake, and cant get this out of my head. i also could have a erection in the thought of a girl, instantly. with this said, i have no sexual feeling when i look at any girl, no attraction what so ever. this goes with men, i wanted to see if would get a bonor just thinking about a man, nothing except me thinking more about it and getting a slight nausea feeling. the only reason i thought of having sex with a man is because its obviously in my head, but doesnt turn me on.

does this mean i am gay? or does it mean i an starting to become gay? deep down i feel like i want to find a women and marry her one day, but i can't even get an erection thinking about having sex with a girl. is this just because im in deep thought? ahhhh i dont want to be gay! please help me, i appreciate it!

[Mzor203]

If the idea of men turns you off, then you do not meet the requirements to be gay.

To be gay, you need to have both an emotional (That means you actually love guys) and physically (Meaning you are turned on by the thought of guys).

So you are not gay.

[Skeln]

Yeah, you're not gay. And thinking about sex with a girl does not always make you get a "boner." Don't worry, you're fine. Just calm down and stay that way. No need to freak out.

[Ender]

Dont even worry about homosexuality, it is definately NOT for you from what you said. To be homosexual you must have some attraction to guys, and you obviously dont. As for not being with a girl yet, it may just not be your time yet. Wait for the right girl to come your way and when the time is right, if you really like her, ask her out.

[Gumleaf]

moving - boys puberty >>> teen sexuality

[iplaycounterstrike]

so its completly fine not to be horny or attracted to girls either? i mean its only been a week, so thats normal tho? has it ever happend to you? i really appreciate it!

[Skeln]

You don't have to be attracted to every girl. It's normal. You'll find a girl that you like, but yeah you don't have gto go around and like every girl you see.

[iplaycounterstrike]

ok, thank you. one more quick question. is it possible for me to just not be horny or think about sex with anyone for a while? im 17 and my hormones might be slowing down? i think thats what got me thinking at first. has that happend to you? is there a transition from being straight to gay?

[Mzor203]

There isn't really a transition per se, I think you're just less horny than normal guys, which could actually be considered a blessing. Really I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Just give it time.

[iplaycounterstrike]

ok this is my second post on the topic, again im 17, guy, never had a girl. always liked and was attracted to girls. right now im not attracted to guys or girls, does this mean im going from straight to gay? or is it just a phase?

[Oblivion]

Please don't make two threads about the same topic. Thanks. Merged.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

There is nothing wrong with being gay. At all. Period. Besides that fact, I don't think you're even gay AT ALL.

Trust me, your case isn't at all unique. At least 50% of guys AND girls are totally single throughout highschool. Just because you haven't had a relationship doesn't mean you're gay. There is absolutely NO connection between the two at all.