She's almost 15 and no sex urges.

[cloudybliss]

My little sister asked me this morning whether it is normal that she is turning 15 in 2 months and has never felt any sex urges/horny.

I honestly did not know how to answer her. Is that normal? At what age did is it normal to start feeling horny anyways?

[byee]

I'd ask her if she thinks it's 'not normal' and see what she says.

There are a lot of different reasons why people say they feel 'nothing' sexual. To determine if those reasons are 'normal', you have to find out a bit about their history, as well as their own perceptions about themself. It could be as simple as her not being far enough into puberty, or never having been close enough to someone to feel attraction, or something darker and more ominous, but without more convo with her, it's hard to determine.

[rette_mich]

I think that it could be a lot of different things.
Not all people have those types of urges at the same age.
She might just not have found anyone attractive in that way yet.
But I do think that you should talk to her since she seems to trust you.
Maybe by asking her things she can realize why she doesn't feel sexual urges.
Hope that helped.

[BeautifulSilence]

Everybody's different and that include the age and/or amount of sexual urges.

Some people are known as asexual because they have no sex drive. I'm gonna throw that out as a possibility, as well as the other reasons already posted.

But don't start panicing because that's only one of many possibilities, and even if that turns out to be the reason then your sister's just lucky that she won't need to deal with sexual frustration or anything lol.

Whatever it is, it's probably not a concern. And considering that fifteen is rather young on the sexual maturity scale, you shouldn't really worry unless it's become a major problem with everyday life.

I personally can't remember when I first had sexual urges. I swear I've always been horny and always will be :P

[Megannn]

Is there any such thing as "normal?"
I mean, what's normal for one person doesn't mean it's normal for everyone.
Your sister might just have a low sex drive, or not even thought about sex yet.

[Triceratops]

Everyone is different and times varies between other people. Some girls will feel sex urges at 9 years old, others possibly at 15.

It probably is normal that she hasn't felt any sex urges at that age. Just like Laura said, she is still at the low end of sexual maturity. It may not be a problem right at this moment. Also, when she hasn't had those feelings yet maybe due to her background or school life, she may not of had such an exposure to anything sexual like other girls her age. The people she hangs around with are most probably the same.

[OnlyByTheNight.]

Sit her down in front of porn and ask her then if she feels horny! lol. Jkin, jkin!
Its hard to tell but she is prob just not sexualy mature yet.

[wiip]

Ask her if she's ever touched herself, or j/o... Ask her if she's ever felt damp, or if she's felt attracted to anyone. Ask her how she feels thinking about a penis, or a sexually active guy. Or even girl! Ask both; she may be gay or bi (if she's not feeling anything it might be because she's looking the wrong way).

Ask as many questions as you can. Ask her if she's ever looked at porno or so on, and what did she feel if she did, and would she like to if she hasn't.

If you can, try and get her to experiment: rub her vagina or breasts (not just randomly; if you're both ready and willing). Maybe show her some pornography, or show her how to masturbate. If you think it's not OK to masturbate with your sister (it's ultimately your choice, OK?), remember that it helps you to understand each other, and you will help her too. It's only incest if you have a sexual relationship; if you wanna kiss and get married et c et c...

The more questions you ask, the more you find out, the more you can help. Hope I've helped!

[Fact]

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