confusing boy!!!

[LaurenEsMagical]

over a month ago I started liking a guy. he was moved into one of my classes and I looked back at him every once and a while and smiled at him and he seemed pretty interested. but I never spoke to him because I'm shy. after only a few days he got taken outta my class. but I started noticing that I passed him in the halls a lot during the day. eventually I got his number from a friend and texted him but still never talked in person. then a couple weeks ago I finally went up and introduced myself. he seemed interested. he made it clear that he had remembered everything I ever told him. and he also seemed like he was kinda nervous, which I know is how he was around a different girl he liked a while back. but that day I spoke to him was on a friday. then on the next monday I got to school and him and all of his friends were staring at me, and for some reason I chickened and didn't talk to him until later when it was just him. since then I've talked to him a little in person and through text, he's especially flirty through text, but always shy in person. I noticed he'd be staring at me all the time, and so did a lot of his friends because they knew he liked me. and he said hi to some of my friends in the hall sometimes. but we ended up going like a week without talking because we're both so shy. and then finally yesterday I went up to him and told him I liked him. and he said "I'm kinda talking to another girl right now." so I was kinda upset because it definitely seemed like he liked me. but I was fine. until today at school when he was acting like he liked me again. he stared at me a lot. and also he stopped in the hall to talk to a random person which was weird and I could tell he was only doing it so I would see him. I don't get it. why is he doing this if he likes a different girl? oh, and I've seen him talking to the girl I think he was talking about, and he seemed pretty distracted by me. and also his friends still seem to think he likes me. but if he likes me he wouldn't reject me. it makes no sense!



another thing I noticed is that I find him walking behind me in the halls a lot. sometimes close enough to hear everything I say. one day I was talking about how good he looked and then realized he was eavesdropping on me.

[Mzor203]

From the way it sounds, he does like you. Why did he reject you then? He might've just been overwhelmed and shocked a bit, and said that just to get himself out of it.

What I would suggest doing is just to keep talking to him. Get to know him better, and keep going until you guys actually feel comfortale around each other.Theses things can't be rushed.

Once you feel that he is comfortable around you, ask the question again, and you might get different results.

Hope things go well for you!

[byee]

I think the problem here is that it's taking too much time to connect. You guys are circling eachother too much! Overcome your shyness long enough to spend some time with him, relax, and make the connection.

There are windows of opportunity to many situations in life, and you have to make your move while that window is still open, while the other person (or other opportunity, regardless of what it might be) is available to you. Once it closes, you might lose out. Timing is important.

[LaurenEsMagical]

Thanks for the feedback. You're both right. We do need to get to know each other better and then we'll feel more comfortable around each other and then we could maybe date. But what am I supposed to do to get to know him? We don't have any classes together. We don't have any common friends. We really only talk through text and sometimes in the halls. And I don't want to keep texting him and going up to him out of the blue because if he doesn't like me then it'll just be extremely obnoxious.

If there is another girl then I don't want to get in the way of anything. But then again when he told me there was inphasis on the 'right now' part. So I don't know what that's supposed to mean but if he does like me even though he's talking to another girl then that could be bad if I do date him because what if he just starts liking some other girl when he's with me. So now there's trust issues. Great! I'm completely hating this boy right now!

but I still really like him =/

[LaurenEsMagical]

I figured it all out.

He's been talking to this one girl for months. But nothing has happened. So I think he's kinda losing hope in that. So he likes me. But he wants to stay faithful to the other girl. But he doesn't know what to do about it. So I'm just going to keep talking to him just as a friend. And whatever happens happens.

[Mzor203]

Good outlook to have on it. It sounds like things will eventually be swinging your way, just keep talking to him until then.

Good luck. :)