heres the deal

[therollingstone949]

ok guys try to solve this one out, i was going out with this girl i liked. we were together for like 10 weeks. i wrote her a letter that said i loved her. after this she did not talk to me. she gave me a letter saying to "avoid" her. i didn't because i did not know why and i wanted to know why she was acting all weird. only 2 days later, she breaks up with me. i am so ticked off at her and i hate her now. i do not even want to be friends with her. but she is in all my classes. i still dislike her, but i am still actracted to her. i dont know what to say to her. im doing what she said, avoiding her. besides i can live without her. i got some old crushes that i have for other girls that are nice. what should be my nexy move? (besides getting back together with her):what:

[Skeln]

Well, you've gotten over her, at least that's what it sounds like. but let me say this, don't go out with another girl just to show her that you don't need her. Not saying you are though. I think you should just get on with your life and forget the whole thing. Don't hate her, the average school relationship is a month-3 months at the most. Could only be expected. Just get on with your life and keep to your school work. Make no big deal about it.

[IAMWILL]

Another case of LOVE SHOCK!!! Ok well here, not trying to criticize you or be mean, but, you made a huge error with sending her the note saying I love you. Saying this is like picking out a wedding dress on the first date, even though you have been going out for 10 weeks. As for hating her but still being attracted to her, this is just a case of wanting to hate her, when you still have strong feelings for her. Most guys, after a sudden or unexpected break-up, go on a rampage of listing all the negative qualities and things they disliked about their ex, and saying they dont need her. This is really just expressing how much you need her, because if you really did not need her, why would you care that much if she broke up with you? Soon you will most likely stop "hating" her and realize that you really did need her. I mean you sent her a letter saying "I love you", thats pretty deep. It will be hard to get back together with her because she is probably a little freaked out at the letter you sent her. The best way to approach this is to talk to her face to face in private one day and say "Hey, Im sorry about the letter, I got a little carried away with my feelings for you. I hope your not mad at me anymore, because I want you to know that I still like you the way I did before, and I hope we can still be friends or more soon", and continue with the conversation.

Hope I didnt ruin your spirit or anything, just trying to give the best advice I can.

[bagman]

you said the wrong thing. i love you confuses people.

[GiZzLe]

(not actual user, ima fwend) the next thing u should do is jst go along with ur life. don't like watch her and stuff, that would be AKWARD (hahe) to me, that is kinda wierd of her she should be happy and if she dozent love u, then she shoulda said that. but anywho, (heha) its okay, i noe its hard 2 get over someone wen u love them, but u will prolly have that alot in ur life, and u mite even break some hearts in ur life 2.
REMINDER: not real user (hahe) (hee hee)

[byee]

Well, who really knows what happened here? Maybe it was the letter, maybe not. It wasn't like you said something rude in it!

There's something about sharing yourself with someone that leaves you vulnerable. You did that, you were vulnerable b/c you exposed your feelings to her, and she hurt you. Ouch x 3.

Sometimes that happens, but it also shows you (however painfully) that she's not 'the' one. People who retreat in the face of love, AND do not even give you the courtesy or benefit of at least an explanation aren't worth your time. Better you find this out now.

Go about your life, forget her. And with time, you'll find someone who will be delighted to have you.