My Friend

[Skeln]

Ok, so I just moved and I've been friends with one dude for several months now. The thing is though is that every time he comes over or I come over he always wants to mastrubate. I don't find that weird and i'm ok with it, to a point. I don't like to mastrubate all the time...and not when I'm visiting a friend or he is visiting me. Then he started to want us to wank eachother off...and that was pushing it for me so for awhile I said no. Then he started to want to mastrubate for like 30 min-hours and I'm terrified to get caught so now we started wanking eachother off for only a few min. Then he started to want us to give eachother b/js and i said no but same case...only five sec and we're done or like 15 min and I don't want a greater risk of getting caught. Now I'm afraid to even think about how much longer this will go on, or how much farther it will go. I don't knoiw what to do! Usually I would...but I can't think in this type of situation. I told him it makes me feel uncomfortable but he's stubborn. And if I don't wank he basically begs and nags me and I can't stand it! What do you guys think I should do? :confused:
P.S.-Sorry if this is the wrong place, couldn't think of anywhere else to post this thread and sporry if I went overboard with the details.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

You ALWAYS have the right to say no. If he doesn't want to respect that, you need to tell him to knock it off. If it makes you uncomfortable, he shouldn't make you go along with it. He can masturbate on his own time.

There's nothing wrong with mutual masturbation (two or more people masturbating together), but it's up to you if you feel comfortable doing it. If you don't, you don't have to. Tell him in no uncertain terms that don't want to, and don't give in when he nags you. Ignore him and go do something else. Try hanging with other people as well, you might feel more comfortable in a group where he's not likely to bring it up. If he won't cut it out, you may need to just stop hanging out with him. He's not much of a friend if he can't respect your boundaries, and you don't have to take that from anyone.

[Θάνατος]

YOU do have the right to say no to your friend. It is your body do what you want to don and nothing more.

It sounds like to me that your friend will push it to see how far you will go. You need to set your boundaries as to how far you want to go and then stick to these boundaries.

There is nothing wrong with what you are doing, the jerking off together, mutual masturbation and even the mutual blow jobs just make sure that for one you enjoy what you are doing whether you are giving or receiving.

Don't feel pressured into doing something you don't want to do. You can always find other friends to hang out with and when you are with this friend make sure you are not alone as much so the urge to do these things is not there as much.

The one thing I did notice that you have not stated that you don't enjoy what you are doing so have fun and keep to what boundaries you have set for your self.

[IAMWILL]

If you really don't feel comfortable with doing anything say NO!

I know it can be hard to say to someone who is your friend, because you do not want them to be sad or rejected, but sometimes things go a little to far and the only thing you can do is say no.

The worry of being caught is very scary, so maybe you should try to hang out with him when his parents or your parents aren't home, to reduce the risk.

Bottom Line: Only do what you are comfortable with. End of story.

[staying_alive]

Say no, or just avoid him. Tell him you're busy doing homework, etc. There's no reason for you to go along with it unless you want to.

[nick]

Either you enjoy this or you don't. If you do learn to chill out. Manage the risk of being caught & get on top of the situation. If you don't enjoy it just say no.

[Donkey]

Unless you happen to feel like it at the time, just say no and find some excuse like 'can we do ___ instead?' or just don't have him over if he does it too much..

[AussieBoy]

due, you don't want to do it because you're afraid of getting caught or you just dont wat to do it? wasnt sure? if its you donet want to get caught, find somewhere else. if you just dont want to do it, then stop seeing him so often and only when you feel like seeing him.....easy! if hes pissed about it, so what., do it on your terms, not his. hope this helps

[byee]

The real issue here methinks isn't so much a sexual one, it's far more elementary than that: It's about people in relationships (like friends) listening and respecting eachother, even when they're hearing something they don't like.

Based on that, your friend gets an 'F'. You've told him clearly that you do not feel comfortable with this behavior, and he is unwilling to accept and respect that.

In any relationship, no one person's needs are more important than another's. It goes back and forth sometimes, but generally, both people have equal rights. In this case, your friend obviously feels his needs to j/o are more important than your need to not do this. This is not a good thing, for him to learn that he's more entitled to get his way, nor for you to sacrifice what you need.

Fix?: Tell him no, stick to it, and of he cannot respect that, say adios.