My friends boobs...

[Rach x]

My friend is now 14 and a half. She has absolutely NO symptons of puberty. She is really self-consicious as all of the boys in our school slag her about it. She came over to me today and asked me what she should do. I told her to maybe go and buy a padded bra and stuff it, but gradually, as not to be flat one day and completely developed the next day. Should she go to the doctor and get checked? Thanks in advance!:)

Rach x

[Aηdy]

At 14 it's still ok for a girl to have no physical signs of puberty. If there's still nothing by the time she is 15 or 16 then go to the doctor. She needs to try and ignore the what the guys say. If they think she doesn't care about what they say, they'll get bored and move on.

[Requin]

I like the fact that you describe puberty as having 'symptoms'...lol. That's a great way of describing it. :smile:

Anywho....at only 14 years old, she shouldn't expect to be fully developed yet, or even have signs of it. Yes, a lot of girls have started to have their breasts developed. But a lot don't either. It's perfectly normal. Quite a few girls in my year at 14 hadn't had their breasts developed.

Puberty occurs at different stages in people. Some start later than others, and are known as...even though it's a horrible phrase 'late bloomers'. I can understand her worries (even though I'm male), and I know that she's bound to hate it. But her breasts will develop eventually...she'll just have to wait. A padded bra would work to save her from embaressment..but if it's discovered then it would cause even more embaressment.

So, I'm afraid it's just mother nature's way of dealing with things. Can't be helped.
So, if she does go to the doctors...I expect they'll tell you basically what I and others will say.

It's honestly up to her. As long as she knows why, it's not a medical condition.

[BeautifulSilence]

Like the guys have said, there really isn't anything to worry about. Fourteen is still VERY young too.

The best thing for your friend to do is just ignore what people say and be happy that she doesn't have to spend loadsa money on buying bigger sized bras and tops.

If it does make her feel more comfortable, then maybe she should get a padded bra. Maybe, the next time you have a week or two off school. Don't let her go crazy though. Slightly padded for a sustained time is better than going right for the "fully developed" within a couple days.

Some girls can be flat for a while then just suddenly get massive boobs, but some always have smaller breasts. It's just what happens.

A lot of people don't really care about breast size anyway, tbh. But, a lot of girls on VT will probably agree with me when I say that boobs are annoying! So, tell her to be happy for the time she hasn't got any.

:)

[AllThatIsLeft]

The fact that she is not showing "symptoms" isn't something to be concerned about yet.
My mother didn't get her period until she was sixteen, and didn't start developing breast until 17.

She should not worry, her time will come.
and i agree with Laura, boobs are a bit of an annoyance.

[Rach x]

Thank you so much! :)
Oh, and sorry I double posted this topic, it was a mistake!

[lavieboheme]

Everyone is different, I wouldn't think there is anything to worry about at this stage. Like the rest said, fourteen is still quite young.

[Halibut]

no, each pesron has there own pace for puberty :p

[Jenny jr]

Tell her to be more confident in herself. Everybody is unique and special in their own way. Maybe her boobs are small now but who knows, maybe in a year or to she might have this massive sexy rack that all the guys are drooling over. Same thing applies to other parts of the body because people should not make fun of others if they do certain things like crazy hair styles or not shaving their vaginas. I think my over all point is that every one should start to develop their own personality to separate them from the others and a bunch of guys saying that your friends tits are to small may interfere with that process of discovering herself. So if you are able to convince her that she will have an overall better development stage of her life because she Is not worrying about what is not important. Obviously I never seen your friend but maybe she is a beautiful girl and the only thing she is lacking is boob size and the guys might just mean that's the only thing she needs to be perfect. There is a lot of many different ways to handle this situation and a lot of different ways the guy could have meant it to come across. So it is up to you to go to her right now and set things straight so that her child hod can be the best ever.

[ackmedsgirl666]

puberty is different for all girls
some girls begin developing at 7... some dont get anything till even 18(however if you dont start a period by then you need to see a doctor)
she has nothing to worry about... i didnt myself have any breasts till grade 10
and when i got them they hit me hard
she could just be a late bloomer nothing wrong with that
just tell her not to worry about it and everybodys bodys are different
and if the boys at school are making fun of her shows how mature they are... "NOT"
she'll be fine

[anyone50]

like everyone here says there is no set age a girl has to be to show signs of perburty and while 14 is getting towards the upper normal range to start i wouldn't overly worry the subject because that in itself can delay it even more as can any stress. If she is worried that something isn't right i would suggest she talk to her Mother and she can take her to the family doctor to rule out any physical problems like thyroid or hormonal conditions, or chronic diseases, such as diabetes or tumors of the thyrod or pituitary gland. Once her doctor has given her a clean bill of health it may take a lot of stress away if nothing else. It's really sad that her classmates are propably making the situation worst by making her worry.

[TheMatrix]

Tell her to be more confident in herself. Everybody is unique and special in their own way. Maybe her boobs are small now but who knows, maybe in a year or to she might have this massive sexy rack that all the guys are drooling over. Same thing applies to other parts of the body because people should not make fun of others if they do certain things like crazy hair styles or not shaving their vaginas. I think my over all point is that every one should start to develop their own personality to separate them from the others and a bunch of guys saying that your friends tits are to small may interfere with that process of discovering herself. So if you are able to convince her that she will have an overall better development stage of her life because she Is not worrying about what is not important. Obviously I never seen your friend but maybe she is a beautiful girl and the only thing she is lacking is boob size and the guys might just mean that's the only thing she needs to be perfect. There is a lot of many different ways to handle this situation and a lot of different ways the guy could have meant it to come across. So it is up to you to go to her right now and set things straight so that her child hod can be the best ever.
Please don't bump old threads, this one is from 2009, about 3 years ago.
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