Subtle way to let a guy know i like him?

[triplethreat40]

Well, i've heard that what is subtle for a girl is nearly undetectable for a guy. so i want to let him know that i like him, but no completely freak him out, and still let him make the first move.

so how much flirting is too much, and would proclaming that my heart will always belong to you in the hall be freaky etc. Basically, how to let him know i like him "subtlely".

[IAMWILL]

Well even though I'm a guy one way you can let him know you like him is give him a small, not to big or extravagant, valentines day present. Something like candy or chocolate. Also, just do a little more than you usually do to him like contact wise. Talk more, IM him more, laugh at his jokes (not obviously and loudly) and be more brave in conversations. Guys love it when they can talk to girls about people and things that are deeper or more sensuos than normal. And you are kinda right on the first thing you said, guys don't often notice subtle hints, but these should get more of his attention.

As for saying my heart belongs to you in a hallway, you might wanna hold off on that until you are in a more serious or close to a relationship with him.

[byee]

LOL! you are right, we guys can be dense and stupid when it comes to matters of the heart! That's why I like the direct, no nonsense approach: Walk up to him, smile broadly, make eye contact, and stand just a little closer to him than usual, and say with great enthusiasm "HI!". And then proceed to compliment him on something.

[Requin]

Ha! Lol at Sam! You have plenty of experience with chatting up men do you?? ;)

I honestly have never had a gf. But don't judge me!! Just talk. Flirt subtley!
Fiddling with your hair in front of him is a flirt apparently. And flicking. :D

Be nice and smiley and lovely in front of him...you should have him cornered then.

Good Luck.

[AllThatIsLeft]

well the obvious is flirtying, smiling, laughing,
what i like to do to let them know, is touching their arm.
a lingering touch while making eye contact and slowly retreating.

that could be a little too subtle though, it's all in the eye contact that's yelling I LIKE YOU, but obviously they have to be warm not popping out

hope that helped

[triplethreat40]

Thanks guys. My a capella group (me, him, two other girls and another guy) are going out for a casual dinner the 15th. Its kindof our valentines thing. So if i say brought a carnation and pinned it on him, would that be adorable, or just awkward?

And I am, not exactly a girly girl. I know more about star wars than most guys, rock at videogames and so on and so on. I wear skirts and makeup, but let's just say that i find giggling and fiddling with my short hair very awkward, and he would probably ask what i was on. So flirting is a fairly foreign concept. want to elaborate allthatisleft, or anyone?

[AllThatIsLeft]

well, its mainly in the eyes. you can tell a lot through them. i cant exactly tell you how, but keep them warm.

i dont like the hair fiddling either, or the giggles. so stick to your personality.

if he says something agree with him, only if you TRULY agree. if not, take his words into consideration.
laugh at his jokes,
you can do the "i look at you, you look at me, i look away, and look back again" thing

that is subtle but certainly the "i like you," sign

[staying_alive]

yeah i'm not into hair fiddling or girly girls, so i might be of some assistance. Flirting helps a lot but you don't have to flirt by giggling etc. You can just have a good time, say he looks good if the time is right and stuff. I would stay away from the carnation unless you think it won't be awkward. Personally, i think it'd be a little weird. But do what you want, this is about you!

[triplethreat40]

well, its kindof our groups valentines day deal, and he's a real classy guy. you know, thinks jeans area uncomfortable so he wears slacks to school, knows how to ballroom dance, and he owns two tuxes. Do you really think it would be weird? and if i got one for the other guy but had someone else pin it would it really defeat the purpose?

I always look him in the eyes, be my charming funny self, and all of that stuff just naturally when i'm around him. and i suppose we kindof do act like we're going out most of the time. he's made my favorite kind of rose appear out of thin air for me, and he's recited poetry for me, and when we were dancing he did a move apparently called a cuddle, but it ends up with him holding me close. So i would assume that he likes me. I guess he could know i like him and just not ask me out because neither of us drive and it would be kindof odd. does that sound plausable?

[AllThatIsLeft]

it sounds to me that you have a silent relationship.
what you really need is to verbalize it, like when you are in such occassions, ask "what would you consider us? friends, good friends, maybe more than friends?"