can't cum :/

[ArtistInNeed]

me and my boyfriend have sex and for some reason i cant cum unless im using my vibrator too. but its annoying having the vibrator with us because it gets in the way of everything..idk wat to do. and lately i cant even get wet. y is this? is something wrong with me?

[peanutx]

There's nothing wrong with you, you're just having trouble figuring out what you like. You should figure out what you like first by pleasing yourself by yourself and with out the vibrator. Once you figure it out, show, or tell your boy friend what it is you like. And if he does something you like with out you telling him just say you like it.

[ArtistInNeed]

weve tried that...

[nick]

me and my boyfriend have sex and for some reason i cant cum unless im using my vibrator too. but its annoying having the vibrator with us because it gets in the way of everything..idk wat to do. and lately i cant even get wet. y is this? is something wrong with me?
I guess few people are going to be able to help from personal experience on this one.

My gut feeling is that you need a break from your vibrator. Either that or you need a new boyfriend.

Look, if we assume he's kind and considerate and doing his best to please you then don't risk loosing this. If its annoying for you having the vibrator around when your having sex think what it must be like for him. Your telling him up front that you prefer a battery operated dildo than what he has to offer as a "real man". This must do wonders for his confidence. If you love him, and hes doing his best to be a considerate lover, then throw the bloody thing away and take time to get to know each other and to know to please each other. Let him know that his fingers and his tongue are just as important as his dick in this respect - if you agree with this.

If he's a quick in/out wham/bam say goodnight sort of guy then say no thanks and good bye and wait for someone better.

[wavey]

Ask him to use a vibrator ring? if thats the case.?

if that fails. try new things. just have a wild night, try differnt foreplay techniques to get you and you're boyfriend really in the mood for it.

[ArtistInNeed]

I guess few people are going to be able to help from personal experience on this one.

My gut feeling is that you need a break from your vibrator. Either that or you need a new boyfriend.

Look, if we assume he's kind and considerate and doing his best to please you then don't risk loosing this. If its annoying for you having the vibrator around when your having sex think what it must be like for him. Your telling him up front that you prefer a battery operated dildo than what he has to offer as a "real man". This must do wonders for his confidence. If you love him, and hes doing his best to be a considerate lover, then throw the bloody thing away and take time to get to know each other and to know to please each other. Let him know that his fingers and his tongue are just as important as his dick in this respect - if you agree with this.

If he's a quick in/out wham/bam say goodnight sort of guy then say no thanks and good bye and wait for someone better.

okay, that didnt help at all. it actually seems really rude that you know what your talking about when your a boy. most girls need clitoral stimulation to cum and his fingers arent enough for me, im sorry but its not a strong enough thing to work. i dont like being fingered that much. so yea, id appreciate you not entering this conversation. ive been dating him for over a year, i think by now we should know what feels good to each other, and we do. thanks.

[ArtistInNeed]

thanks :) ill try that

[Gumleaf]

hmmm, just a thought about not getting wet and stuff. perhaps the frustrations of things not working without the vibrator is on your mind when you try and get intimate with your boyfriend and because you are thinking about that so much, its affecting your state of arousal. maybe if you try your best to go into it with a clear head and not trying to focus on the vibrator and stuff and just relax, it might help. just a thought?

[ArtistInNeed]

ill try that :) i guess i just have to relax a bit more

[AllThatIsLeft]

i think you are focusing to much on the vibrator. i think you should stop using it, and learn to feel pleasure without it.

When you have somethin for long, your body gets used to it, and lesser thing dont work as well as they should.

i think you should lay off the vibrator, and with time you will get your feel again.

[hardcore-smile]

theres nothing wrong with you, It happens to alot of people.
If your young, you'll probably grow into it.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

please don't bump old threads; it's been about a month since the last post in this one. :)

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