Not wanting sex

[clr9823]

Everybody in my class seems to be going on about sex and who did who etc. I know that 1/2 the stories are made up, but I am wondering "Am I the only one who doesn't want sex at this age". Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those "Only after marriage" people, but I think that if I develop more and I do it with somebody I really care for it will be more enjoyable. Am I the only person who is prepared to wait another few years for sex, so it will be better???:confused::confused::confused:

[Oblivion]

In my opinion, you should be the norm.
Sadly, most teens only think about instant gratification, and for even 30 minutes of pleasure and they are ready to sign their life away (possibly).
You'll encounter this all your teen life, but all you can do is stay strong with your opinions, and don't let peer pressure get to you.

[iceyfresh]

It good you want to wait one of my bigest regrets was having sex so earlyer your making smart discions with your life and lots of people want to wait they just dont say they do.

[Cloud]

i agree with you and you right to want to wait for that special someone rather than just a thing u do one nightthen regret it

[theOperaGhost]

You're not the only one. I've felt like that for years. It's not like I want to wait until I'm married, I just don't feel sex is necessary.

[byee]

Yeah, add my voice to the chorus here. It says something when someone like yourself has the awareness and insight to recognize what's right for them, yet also has to question it. Be strong, be true to yourself.

Everyone talking about sex at 14 is more hormonal than reality based. If you look at the stats, less than 35% of 14 y/o are having sex. That's a low figure, much lower than all that braggadocio would suggest.

Chaulk it up to their insecurity. And your wisdom.

[aid821]

wow well done dude, i felt like i was the only one with that viewpoint when i was your age. half of it is just for show, and for them to through their ego and power around. you'll prob. find they are the insecure ones rather than you. your thinking with your head, and not with your man bits lol

[pontiacdriver]

In my opinion, you should be the norm.
Sadly, most teens only think about instant gratification, and for even 30 minutes of pleasure and they are ready to sign their life away (possibly).
You'll encounter this all your teen life, but all you can do is stay strong with your opinions, and don't let peer pressure get to you.

I totally agree with this post, and sex is something that should be done when one is financially, emotionally, and physically ready as opposed to doing it due to pressure from friends or keeping up with the Joneses. Sex really should be done when one is independent of one's parents from a financial point of view as it is not fair to them that they would ultimately have to deal with any negative fall out from sexual activity as they are responsible for you. I wholeheartedly agree that a lot of folks look at instant gratification rather than long-term consequences regarding sex, and combining that with peer pressure is a toxic duo.

My suggestion is to follow the advice above and be yourself. You are not a freak for choosing to be abstinate, and plenty of folks wait until they are older to first have sex. If this means anything, waiting until you are older often makes sex more meaningful as both you and your partner are mature and are able to fully appreciate everything that comes with sex especially the emotional part of it.