Yelling

[Lifeguard18]

Any ideas on how to get my family to stop arguing yelling and screaming alot. This started happening when my nana died back in 2005.

[bliss]

well a wise man once said that the louder you yell the less the other person hears, maybe pass that on to the family?

[nick]

Really sorry, thats tough. Parents fall out, sometimes it leads to a break up. You know this. Hope it doesnt get this far. Mind you some parents row with each other then just go upstairs and sort it all out in bed, bet you don't want to think about that though!!

All you can do is let them know how much it upsets you when they shout at each other. Worth a go, it cant do any harm

[byee]

If you believe that the yelling started just after a significant loss, then it might be the result of that loss, of the feelings caused by the death of your nana.

Solution: Talk about the death openly.

Feelings are like water: They continue to flow until they reach their lowest point. In your family's case, perhaps the death of nana was so painful that they couldn't really address it. However, they never went away, they continue to be there, adding a layer of unspoken stress, which might come out thru the yelling.

[peanutx]

Well my family used to go at it like cats and dogs 2 years ago and a bit of this year as well. I was really happy that the yelling, screaming, and slamming of doors had finally ended. So when it started again this year, I decided enough was enough.
It's unfair to the person who has to put up with the yelling and get caught in the middle, and it really does get to you. So I wrote a letter to my parents, since they ARE the parents. They're the boss's in my family, and since they made it, they should be able to control it.
I wrote to them as to how unfair it was to act so recklessly with their fighting and screaming at each other and with my brother.
They should know how it makes you feel to hear them yelling at each other, they should know that they're not the only people in your family.
So, let them know, and try to be very blunt and forward. Just so they understand.

[postloveaffliction]

try to sort things out. It might work. tell them if they could just lower their voices whenever theyre arguing.

[Gumleaf]

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